r/AskReddit • • 9h ago

"those little differences" Americans who visited Europe, what was surprisingly different for you?

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u/FI_by_45 9h ago

You haven’t been to France

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u/Sea_Art2995 9h ago

I live in France and they are no where near as rude as the stereotypes

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u/Don_Fartalot 9h ago

Think it's mostly a Parisian thing. Even the French from other regions hate the Parisians.

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u/coldblades 8h ago

I think Paris has changed a lot. Never experienced rudeness there and I don't speak any French. French folks I know have also commented on this, something like the younger generation speaks much more English and is more worldly and friendly than previous generations.

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u/Sea_Art2995 7h ago

Honestly I’m Australian living in Paris and have only had a few negative experiences. The pickpockets are everywhere though. It’s true French people kinda see parisians as seperate haha. I experienced way worse attitude my month in Italy, 5 months in Turkey and my month in Poland was particularly bad. The Polish are horrible

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u/praxmusic 6h ago

I always find this odd. I've traveled through a few places in France and found people in Paris to be the nicest. Only time I experienced the "rude Frenchman" stereotype was in Marseille and Cannes

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u/grease_monkey 6h ago

It's honestly not even that bad in paris. It helps if you know basic enough French to try to order something. If I worked at a busy restaurant or coffee shop I'd be annoyed if someone came in and only spoke Chinese with no effort to speak in English.

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u/Veneboy 9h ago edited 6h ago

I have multiple times and no complain, specially if you make at least a tiny effort to speak in their language and avoid using English at all cost.

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u/ofnuts 8h ago

Even if you use English. Just say hello, and talk like a normal person to another normal person, not as a masters to their servant.

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u/zoapcfr 5h ago edited 2h ago

Just say hello

This is where Americans fall over from what I've seen. When talking to a server, they tend to just demand what they want, with no hello/bonjour, and French servers often aren't afraid of showing offense to that.

When I've been to France, I've always greeted them first and they've always been polite and friendly in return. Also, one of my favourite memories of getting served in France is when I tried to use my limited understanding of French to buy something, and he replied in English, so we both carried on speaking each other's language.

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u/Always_Worry 8h ago

I just got back from Paris. Spoke english with most of them and the ones that couldn't, we figured it out the best we could. The only rude person was transit authority, watch out for them

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u/mschuster91 8h ago

The only rude person was transit authority, watch out for them

Rent-a-cops are a plague wherever you look, mostly because the only people applying for this kind of job are the ones who can't pass the police test, and even police has very low hiring standards these days which means the ones who end up at transit authorities tend to be people who make r/wallstreetbets apes look like Albert Einstein

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u/FI_by_45 9h ago

Now I know you really haven’t been to France. They really don’t like when you try to speak French unless it’s flawless

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u/Much_Promotion7355 8h ago

Asian who's been to France twice with A2 French, my experience in Paris was different. They were extremely friendly, even inviting me to their table or giving me free shots (different times).

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u/ArenSteele 8h ago

It’s been a minute since I’ve been back to France, but my experiences around Paris people were very friendly and helpful even with my terrible French.

I think maybe you’re just an ass hole and people are reacting to that in any language?

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u/grease_monkey 6h ago

This is extremely untrue. I'm like A2/B1 in French and my wife is probably A1 at best. People are very friendly and meet you on your level most of the time. Maybe it's a you problem.

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u/driftingfornow 7h ago

What because they leave you to your meal and don’t interrupt your dinner table conversation? 

Legit asking because if that’s what you mean, it’s actually a culturally valued trait. 

The American way is considered a bit busy, interruptive, constant checking intruding on a calmed headspace with companions, and so on. 

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u/Poopyman80 7h ago

Paris, its just paris that is like the stereotype

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u/TheRandom6000 9h ago

You certainly haven't been to France.