r/BlackTransmen • • Oct 30 '25

This Is An Outreach for Those Struggling with Addiction

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In light of a recent post that gained some traction, I was saddened to see that OP has deleted their account. I wanted to take a moment to make an outreach post for anyone who may be struggling right now.

As Black people, as Black men, and even more specifically as Black trans folks, we face so many internal and external challenges every day. It’s easy to slip into emotional dependence on something, whether it’s gambling, alcohol, drugs (including weed), vaping, smoking, or any other substance that offers even a moment of relief.

The problem comes when those things become our only way to cope, when drinking, smoking, or placing a bet starts to feel like a need rather than a choice. That’s when it starts taking more from us than we realize.

But you’re not alone. I recently got a notification saying we’ve reached 4,000 members, and our community is growing every day. I know it’s hard to trust people, to find community, or to share your story without feeling judged, but I promise you there are people who care. I care.

Please use this post, and I’ll make it a thread if needed, to vent, share, or open up about anything you’re struggling with right now. You don’t have to go through it alone.


r/BlackTransmen • • Aug 17 '25

New Rule: No Studies

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The Mod team has discussed and since we aren't affluent in what is a legit study vs what is a scam we have decided to no longer accept any posts about studies.

While we appreciate the legit studies that are being done for the betterment of the community. We also need to keep the community safe from those who wish us harm in these trying times (especially those based in the US atm, but of course all our brothers matter and we care about the risk for all black trans men across the world).


r/BlackTransmen • • 9h ago

Hello I’m Theo

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r/BlackTransmen • • 14h ago

celebratory 1 year post top surgery!!

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Your boy is 1 year post op! Feeling amazing 💪🏾🤙🏾


r/BlackTransmen • • 24m ago

Just hit 3 months on t

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I’m genuinely so happy ! Any advice or tips on how I could pass more ?
And also this subreddit is so important to me because seeing alder black trans men give me real hope for the future (since I’m kinda a baby trans lmao I’m only 14 😭)
Anyway love u all ❤️‍🩹


r/BlackTransmen • • 24m ago

Just hit 3 months on t

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I’m genuinely so happy ! Any advice or tips on how I could pass more ?
And also this subreddit is so important to me because seeing alder black trans men give me real hope for the future (since I’m kinda a baby trans lmao I’m only 14 😭)
Anyway love u all ❤️‍🩹


r/BlackTransmen • • 11h ago

friendship Are there any Kenyan trans men?

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Feeling a little bit of lonely, most trans men I know around me live far and I’d love to make a friend or two! If you are a trans man in Kenya please pm if you’d like to be friends 🥰

I won’t be location specific (where in Kenya) bc safety and you never really know what Rutos government is up to 👀


r/BlackTransmen • • 13h ago

vent Cant wait to become a man

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Im so over this body im in you guys lol the only thing im hoping is that I can keep my ass when I do start T 😭


r/BlackTransmen • • 2d ago

Need Help Dealing With An Anti-Trans White Supremacist

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Hey Everyone

This is a repost, I woke up to my account suspended and my post removed by reddit on my end

They're mass reporting me on reddit aswell

I need your help, As some of you already no my names Titan, im A Black Trans Non Binary Gay Person.

I do a lot of work advocating for Black People & LGBTQIA Human Rights.

As a result of this ive been targeted by an Anti Trans /Gay White Supremacist called Frederick "Fred" Colaluca.

They are Threatening my life and have been doxxing my information online to various hate groups.

Please if anyone else has been harassed, stakked or threatened by this guy please contact me with any relevant information.

This is a life or death situation


r/BlackTransmen • • 2d ago

advice Using kinesiology tape

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Hey guys, I'm having a bad time with kinesiology tape (every trans tape is made with this material in my country Brazil). Be careful while using, if u have big breasts, I would not recommend it (my case). I'm theses bubbles were made bc I strechted the tape more than necessary. I also have a lot of glue on my skin, that's a terrible sensation. I'm sad bc I really enjoyed using it.


r/BlackTransmen • • 3d ago

selfies/pic Hey NYC HERE

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Hope everyone is having a great day. Definitely looking forward to a relaxing weekend


r/BlackTransmen • • 6d ago

celebratory My top surgery consultation is TOMORROW!!! 😭🎉

61 Upvotes

GUYS. MY TOP SURGERY CONSULTATION IS TOMORROW!!! 😭😭
I’ve been waiting for this appointment for MONTHS, and it’s finally here. I’m seeing Dr. Buckley tomorrow, and I genuinely cannot believe it’s happening. It still doesn’t feel real.
I’m so excited, but I’m also nervous because this is something I’ve thought about so much. I’ve spent so much time researching, thinking about my goals, and imagining what I want my chest to look like. I want a natural, masculine, athletic chest that fits the person I’m becoming, and I’m finally getting to talk through all of that with my surgeon.
I even wrote out all my aesthetic goals and questions because I KNOW I’m going to be nervous and don’t want to forget anything. 😂
I’m trying to remind myself that tomorrow is a consultation, not the day I have to have everything figured out. I just get to talk about my goals, ask questions, and take the next step toward something I’ve wanted for a long time.
I’m feeling about a million emotions at once, but mostly I’M SO EXCITED. 😭❤️

If you’ve had your consultation already, how did you feel the night before? And for anyone who has seen Dr. Buckley, I’d love to hear about your experience!


r/BlackTransmen • • 6d ago

advice Do y’all have any ways I can pass more appearance wise?

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P.S. I can’t take minoxidil, my mom won’t let me cause of chemical burns I can get. I currently use a Gua sha and am on occasion voice training. I am also pre-t.


r/BlackTransmen • • 6d ago

vent Mom gave me thirty days

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She’s threatening to kick me out cause she feels threatened by me taking testosterone. I don’t do any hard drugs, rarely drink, and I’m her homecare aid. She compares me taking testosterone with doing meth or cocaine. I’m hoping my grandfather will talk her out of it.


r/BlackTransmen • • 8d ago

do i sound feminine? be honest w me

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only asking this since my white therapist said that i sound masculine, and all thought they meant well and it did make me feel good i also know that black people will sound masculine to any person who isn’t black no matter what…so i decided to do this test to get y’alls opinion

edit: thanks for all of your input even if it did disappoint me a little lol. guess i just have to voice train until then


r/BlackTransmen • • 9d ago

discussion Can we talk?

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Okay, so I want to talk sexual attraction vs. a desire for long-term intimacy—or the ability to see myself with someone long-term. When I was living as a woman, I was attracted to men, though I rarely enjoyed intercourse with men unless assisted by alcohol (which, ayeeee—365 days of intentional sobriety as of 10/7/26!).

That said, I love women—no question there. I enjoy watching cis men when consuming porn, but I can’t help but wonder if that’s still a tie to what I don’t have yet, as I have not undergone phallo. I know that question is ultimately for me to answer, but I do know I don’t like intercourse in the sense of being penetrated.

I often feel that if I were to seek a long-term relationship with a man, he would likely be trans. Based on my lifetime of experience with cis men, I’m not particularly interested in a long-term relationship with them, but I often find myself physically attracted to a variety of men and masc-presenting nonbinary people.

To those who wish to contribute, tell me about your experiences—what has your journey looked like? I feel painfully certain in my desire to be with a woman long-term, but I was also once painfully certain that if I couldn’t drink, I couldn’t go. 😅


r/BlackTransmen • • 10d ago

selfies/pic Genderfluid trans guy here. How’s the look, brothers?

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r/BlackTransmen • • 13d ago

advice How to measure handsomeness? I’m unsure if I am because I keep getting misgendered.

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Can someone let me know how they looksmaxxed to stop the face dysohoria? I think I’m handsome but the world is so harsh if I dint look like a model then I feel horrible


r/BlackTransmen • • 13d ago

advice Looking for Barber

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Hello, I'm [M, 22] looking for a Barber in Orange County, California. I'm a low-income grad student who just moved to the area, and I'm having trouble finding someone. I've been looking on https://strandsfortrans.org, but many of the options are nail and hair stylists, and fewer have worked with black hair. I did find a hair stylist who works with black hair, but I don't know if he's trans friendly.

Any advice or recommendations would be great to help me find a barber! I appreciate it.


r/BlackTransmen • • 14d ago

5 years on T

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5 years on T been enjoying the journey, wish I had more facial hair though at this point lol


r/BlackTransmen • • 14d ago

advice How to pass socially

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So growing up I was always the awkward undiagnosed kid. I was bullied for being super awkward but it didn’t deter me from making friends. I wanted to ask how do you socialize with other guys without them calling you fruity or zesty? Im not a typically feminine person, but I’m not afraid to express it when I feel comfortable enough. I don’t smile a lot cause I don’t have a reason to smile most of the time and I like looking stoic. I call people regardless of gender identity or presentation “dude, bro, man” that’s just my quirk I guess idk. I don’t do handshakes with people unless i initiate it during a job interview. I feel kinda blank when someone wants to do a special handshake with me suddenly cause I didn’t plan to touch another dudes hand.

Idk just give me tips on what has worked for you


r/BlackTransmen • • 15d ago

discussion Facial hair and general update

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I’m about 8 months on T now. Bottom growth is still pretty small, so I’m gonna work on stretching and pumping and see how that goes. I also noticed around my chin i have beard hairs but they don’t grow in the middle just the sides? Might have to restart again I don’t know but yeah!!

I’ve gained some weight too, so maybe a gym journey is coming 👀 any tips for that?

Here’s me around 2 months vs now.


r/BlackTransmen • • 15d ago

advice Tips and advice to pass more

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I’m 23Y and 9 months on T and constantly worried I don’t pass, especially cause of my name. So, give me name req’s if you feel like it. I’m new to packing and currently interested in STP’s but not too sure where to start with that, so please lmk what you guys think. I really appreciate any kind of help/advice :)


r/BlackTransmen • • 15d ago

selfies/pic Same fit, 2 years difference.

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