At the funeral for my father-in-law, my wife took the podium and said, “Let’s be honest, my dad was an ass.” She loves him and misses him, but it was important to her to call it like it is. She has issues with how people just gloss over the person to only talk about their good qualities.
Edit: typo
My dad wrote in my grandma’s obituary that she was “irascible and ornery,” said she “never let being right or wrong get in the way of her passion for arguing, and (my personal favorite line) said “she loved to stir the pot - but was an awful cook.” Grandma would have loved it for is honesty (except for the line about her cooking, she would been furious about it even though it was 1000% true).
Honestly. My ex, who is also the father of my daughter, died suddenly 8 years ago. I was still angry with him for many things, and we were no longer together at the time of his death. Anyway, I had this crazy internal conflict over loving and missing the father of my child, while still being a pissed off ex, WHILE feeling guilty for being pissed off because he was dead. I think stuff like that leads people to gloss over the bad stuff when someone passes away.
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u/thementant Oct 30 '25
“He died doing what he loved: Being a complete and total asshole. And now the Lord’s Prayer.”