Why didn't you say so?

[u/TheNectarineDiaries]

Best medical advice I ever got was to bring a man to your appointments

[u/Unlucky_Cat4531]

ooooooh the amount of times I've heard "pain is part of a woman's life" or some iteration of that makes my blood BOIL. Especially when coming from other women, like I'm sorry your pain was invalidated, ignored, treated like you were faking/overreacting, whatever, but shit like that is a main contributor in preventing women from getting accurate healthcare, as your wife experienced. I'm so sorry she went through that, and I'm happy she's doing better. I appreciate your punishment and hope for the same.

[u/OblivionsMemories → u/Unlucky_Cat4531]

Mine was "That's just part of being a woman". It was massive, cancer-filled cysts the size of grapefruits that I lived with for over 20 years. I'm so lucky the cancer never spread outside of the cysts.

[u/Character-Parfait-42 → u/Unlucky_Cat4531]

If the female doctor herself has been gaslit for years into believing her own pain is just a normal part of being a woman, then is it really her fault for telling the same to her patients?

It’s not malice, she just finally drank the KoolAid after it was forced down her throat for years.

[u/SnidgetAsphodel → u/Unlucky_Cat4531]

What I heard time and time again when I had, in fact, stage 4 Endometriosis that had me bleeding so heavy I couldn't leave the house for months at a time, while screaming in agony. "It can't be that bad. You don't have Endo." Endlessly. Turns out I had stage 4 Endo, which they only found because ONE singular doctor listened to me after 12 years. She finally gave me the hysterectomy I'd been begging for and found the Endo I always knew I had. It was so horrible she had to emergency call in another doctor to assist her in removing it. Plus one ovary that was covered in rupturing lesions and giant cysts. Bless that doctor, for she saved my life. I was ready to kill myself from the bleeding and agony. But she was one out of so fucking many. 12 years of my life stolen from that ordeal.

Doctors still ignore me to this day. I've had so many bad luck health scenarios but I'm still just shrugged off as my symptoms get worse to the point of ending up in the hospital.