Like ik shame around falling behind and not followig arbitrary milestones by a certain age is embarrassing, but is it really thattt bad?? I transferred to bachelor of psych honours in the second sem of my 2nd year, and I had to pick a new minor. Which led to me choosing to extend my 3rd year across 3 sems. That took up 2025 + 2026. I was keen on doing an external certification during my leave of asence but deaths in the family and travel abroad ruined that and now Im going back for honours next year.
But to get the grades I want and the experience I need to have a chance at masters, the logical course of action seems to be going for part time. But I feel like finishing honours at 24 and then if Im lucky enough, masters at 25 and 26 is something that everyone around me is pushing back on HARD.
IDK i just feel really stuck, and I know maybe there's a chance if i switch up and lock in that i wouldn't need to go part time, but i don't know if im tough enough or smart enough to handle all of that. It doesn't help that my family has an expectation that I was supposed to graduate with masters by 23, and is already mad about me extending 3rd year... fml
EDIT
I did not expect this post of all my questions to get this much response, I feel like I accidentally created engagement bait in a moment of just overthinking my life. Thank you to the people who gave me encouragements and grounded my thoughts. The people in my family, friends and overall culture are just very heriarchical and controlling in terms of social milestones. Me and others who I know who take less traditional pathways are often at the forefront of dealing with a lot of ridicule, backlash, false rumours and smear campaigns. Especially as women.
I myself know that 26 is a baby and that just because I may take the longer route doesn't mean that it's a moral failure. But when you're surrounded by the pressures I am, it can make you feel like you're a lost cause and there's no hope. The responses helped me get a check on my anxiety and made me feel a lot less "wrong" about wanting to change my timeline.
As for those of you who were enraged for some reason by the concept of a young student feeling confused and "left behind" in a time where, on social media, we're bombarded with 30 million videos of 15 year old CEOs everyday, to the point you felt the need to make snide comments about how I could possibly be affected by social pressure after studying psychology (as if a bachelor is the key to reaching nirvana??), I suggest if you guys want to go into counselling or therapy work, please never take clients from culturally diverse backgrounds. Because you don't have the bandwidth to understand how people come from different walks of life beyond just speaking the sentence.