r/ADHD_partners • u/AutoModerator • 8d ago

Weekly Vent Thread ::Weekly Vent Thread::

Use this thread to blow off steam about annoyances both big & small that come with an ADHD impacted relationship. Dishes not being done, bills left unpaid - whatever it is you feel you need to rant about. This is your cathartic space.

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u/dangerboos 4d ago

Today my partner of 4 years told me it was my fault that she didn’t want to have sex with me because I was always complaining, nagging, “talking shit” about her. This was immediately after she blew up on me about paying her part of the mortgage. For context, she has a kid from previous marriage. I’ve been a stepparent for years. I bought a house for her and her kid in the school district she wanted and committed to more than I needed, for her. She makes very good money and I pay my fair share of things and beyond my obligations. She said it wasn’t fair that she has to pay half of the mortgage…again, more than half of the house is occupied by her and stepson. On top of that, she’s always picking at my appearance or making hurtful comments. Today she was annoyed because I was literally chewing gum. I’m done. Just done.

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u/HedgehogLibrary Partner of NDX 3d ago

I'm glad you're done. I hope you mean it because she doesn't respect you.

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u/dangerboos 3d ago

I feel so ready to move on from this. She truly doesn’t respect me and the things she’s said to me have cut me deeply. I feel so unwanted and ugly and I’ve never felt this before. It’s humiliating.