AITBF for badmouthing a guy who was always rude to me?

[u/RandomnewUser_22]

During my freshman year of college, I became friends with 3 guys A, B and C. Me and C were always closer to A and B than we were to each other. The reason being that A and me went to the same school, and me and B used to share the commute to and from college because we were coming from the same station. C also used to come from the same station but most of the days he used to go with his girlfriend. Also, C knew A and B before me so he was naturally closer to them.

But still, there was nothing bad between us and I was sure that in due time we would get more comfortable with each other.

But at one point, C had a falling out with B, which was entirely C's fault (agreed by A, B and me) we tried to patch things up, and B was willing to, but C wanted none of it. He said that he never wants to talk to B.

Our group dynamic changed very drastically after that. A got closer to C, to the point that I was practically 3rd wheeling with them on the days when B wasn't there (A later said that he didn't want C to feel left out).

C then started a fight with me as well (again, he started it and it was entirely his fault, agreed by A and B) on a very silly thing. He scored higher on a quiz than me and he kept getting in my face about it in a very arrogant way. I only said something back when he wouldn't let it go. I mentioned that my gpa was still higher, he teased me more and that was it.

I was obviously mad at him but just out of desperation and the fear of being alone, I still didn't cut him off because A would stick with him. It gets even worse when C was being buds with A while acting very weird towards me. Like, just not acknowledging me properly in a subtle way and just being kind of passive aggressive. I still let it go

After about a year, he finally came around and apologised to B. He actually started to behave much better and by that time I had also let it go so I had no issues with him

But after some time he started to distance himself from us and we didn't really try to reason with him again. (explained further in comments due to character limit)

He said that a guy from college told C that I badmouthed him so he distanced himself from us, thinking that A and B are better friends to me.

I was just want to be clear and say that badmouthing someone is immature and what I did was wrong. It's completely valid that C is upset about it and doesn't want meet me due to that

The exact thing that I said was along the lines of "I'm gonna tear him a new one in the upcoming exams"

He never really acknowledged that the way he treated me was wrong and there's nothing I can do about it. His feelings are valid, and if I was in his shoes I would also feel the same way.

A and B have also made up their minds now that they're hanging out with C and cutting me off so it is what it is.

It's been bugging me ever since B told me about this. AITBF for treating C like that?

[u/sonal1988]

I mean, looks like the garbage took itself out 

NTBF

[u/RandomnewUser_22]

A few months ago, A, B and me also stopped talking pretty abruptly. I just chalked it up to them being busy

A couple of days ago I saw A, B and C's post on instagram and decided to talk to B about it

[u/AristotlesBoyPussy]

ETA who cares, just stop associating with them.

[u/RandomnewUser_22 → u/AristotlesBoyPussy]

ETA?

Also, I care that's why I bothered to make a post