r/BPD • u/fruitjail • 15h ago

💭Seeking Support & Advice Feeling alone in a good relationship

I see lots of posts here of people in toxic relationships with partners who are just incompatible with them, which makes feeling alone make a lot of sense.

I'm in a healthy relationship with a very patient and understanding partner who is very aware of my conditions. Even on good days, I feel empty and alone, and I guess I feel bad because it's like I can't support or be there for my partner because of it.

I want it to work out, and I'm working towards getting professional help. But it's so hard to handle the shame and guilt of still feeling alone no matter how healthy or "perfect" my relationship is because of the idea that feeling alone is usually indicative of being in a "bad" relationship when I know, logically, that that's not the case. I know it's probably just a symptom of my BPD and OCD at work, but I guess I just wonder if any of you also experience this? </3

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u/MorallyGreyMama 14h ago

Hey! Sorry you’re feeling this way. The best way I found to show my support is by doing what I think they’d like. For example: sending a text when they are having a rough day, listening to the best that you can , just sitting with them sometimes can help.

If your relationship is perfect to you both then that’s all that matters. If you love and care for each other then everything will work out. I’m here if you ever want to chat :)