r/FTMfemininity • u/ven1m3ows • 2d ago

Trans femboy problems

Idk if this is allowed but I need a bit of support. So a lot of people in my life still perceive me as a girl but I want to be seen as a guy, I can't start transitioning yet as my family doesn't support me and I don't have the money or means and I am a minor still. I dress as masculine as possible but still get called a girl even by strangers and it's very hurtful. Most of my friends also usually only use they/them on me.. I want to be seen as a guy but still want to be feminine occasionally. I don't know if what I'm saying is making any sense but... I just don't really feel seen by anyone but my partner, even sometimes I don't feel seen by her but I know she's trying her best to support me with everything she has going on herself as a trans woman. I don't really have much of anyone to talk to so any support or help or advice would be very much appreciated. Thank you.

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u/starboy__ftm 2d ago

you sound like almost everyone else in this subreddit. don't worry. you fit right in

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u/NorbezJons 1d ago

I feel that 100%. Wanting to be perceived as a femme guy and not a woman--huge difference & nuance there! You definitely need more supportive friends; I'd maybe talk to them about what you need from them to feel affirmed about your gender. You're still a minor, so I want to reassure you: it gets better. It really does. Hoping the best for you.

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u/ven1m3ows 16h ago

Thank you <3

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u/starsheepherd 2d ago

One, obligatory you do you and don't worry about what others think as long as you're comfortable in yourself. Two, in my experience, I was only ever gendered correctly if I made it a point to be masculine pre t. Every now and then maybe some light makeup, light jewelry, a floral shirt; but anything beyond that I felt like people just saw me as a girl with a pixie cut. It's only after I started T that I became more comfortable presenting feminine, and even with that I prob get gendered correctly like 60% of the time.

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u/Top_Sky_4731 2d ago

Your “friends” are misgendering you if you use he/him and not they/them, and you should find better friends. Even if you use both and they refuse to ever use he/him that’s still transphobic.

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u/locky5555 2d ago

You’re totally not alone! Ever since figuring out I’m trans I’ve also been exploring my femininity more. Being a trans femboy is fun and you’ll fit right in here:)
Also, your friends using they/ them for you if you wanna be reffered to as he/him is rly shit!