r/MomForAMinute • u/valmaee • 8d ago
Celebration! Hey mum, today’s my birthday!
It’s my birthday… and 6 years since I cut off my biological mum. I feel weird.. I feel empty. My partner treated me to an amazing day but I still feel so sad.. why is that?
Just wanted to wish myself a happy birthday, life’s too short to not say it out loud! Happy birthday to me 🎂🥳
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u/Empty_Bug8479 8d ago
Happy birthday!! I hope you still have a wonderful day with your partner. I think it’s about having the people who love you around you. Virtual hugs and cake for you!! I hope this next year is filled with wonderful memories and great laughs in life. The happiest birthday to you dear!! 💜💜
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u/misschanendlerbong87 8d ago
You deserve to be celebrated. It’s ok to feel sad too. Happy to be alive, grateful for your loving partner, sad, empty and everything in between. Your feelings are valid. Happy birthday, darling!❤️🩹🎂🤗
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u/NotAtAllExciting Mother Goose 8d ago
Happy birthday my dear. As for feeling sad, it’s quite common. I still miss my Mum on my birthday and she passed away decades ago. It’s wonderful that your partner cares enough to make your birthday special.
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u/Timely-Mind7244 8d ago
You make me do proud of now you live up to what matters to you. A++ human being!!!
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u/RamblinOnRose 8d ago
Happy Birthday sweetheart! I'm so glad you're partner gave you a wonderful day. It's ok to feel sad, I think sometimes we miss the person we wish they were more than who they really are, and that's ok. You are deserving of love and all of the good and beautiful things!
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u/Minflick 8d ago
Because you're 'supposed' to have love from and to your mother. But when they behave badly over enough years, that love shrinks back in pain and fear. It's not safe to love a person that mistreats you. You certainly can't like them. You start to think badly of them for doing what they do, even if you know and understand what's behind it, what caused them to do these things. But when they can't overcome those causes, and cause you hurt after hurt, year after year - then cutting them off is life preserving, even when it leaves a hole in your head and heart. And on birthdays, you're SUPPOSED to get love and joy from your family, so it hurts us when we don't.
Happy birthday to you, sweet pea, and I'm very glad you have a partner who lauded you on your day of birth!!!
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u/Training-Sector-7165 8d ago
Happy Birthday Sweetie. I hope it’s a magical trip around the sun for you!
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u/Excellent-Letter-681 8d ago
Happy Birthday Sweetheart!
Things may not be perfect, but celebrate when you can!! It’s still progress-don’t loose sight of that.
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u/GuiltyUniversity8268 8d ago
Happy birthday to you, happy birthday to you, happy birthday dear youuuu, happy birthday to you! And many more on channel four!😁🧁🎉
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u/Lady_Octi 8d ago
Happy birthday baby!!! I am so happy and proud of you!! You're doing amazing and you look great!! That partner of yours has their hands full my baby!! Take care and talk to you soon!! 💕
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u/Mimi6671 8d ago
Happy Birthday sweetheart 💖🎂💖
Try to concentrate on the good things and people in your life and know that you are loved and celebrated.
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u/Abject-Pattern3038 8d ago
Happy birthday. I hope this brings you so many blessings and beautiful memories. Xo
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u/andrybong 8d ago
First of all, happy birthday! It’s important to celebrate you 🤍
Second, it’s completely normal to feel this way. You’re grieving the relationship and that takes time.
And third, I think this is our brain’s way of trying to compensate for the bad things people do, so we can somehow feel better about them. But we can’t control what other people do, and you made that decision for a reason. So try to focus on yourself and remember that you’re okay. You’re whole. You’re enough!
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u/Nenna_89 8d ago
Happy Birthday my dear ! I hope you the best in life. I am proud of you. I happened to be sad, it will past. Give you time. 🌻
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u/countrymermaidaz 8d ago
Happy Birthday! Your feelings are valid. Changing/stopping relationships with parental units is not a linear process and will have ups and downs. I am grateful your partner gave you an amazing day! *big hugs* You are doing amazing!
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u/grating-humility 8d ago
Happy happy birthday, honey. You know, I’ve had some happy birthdays that were tinged with sadness, too. I’m so glad your sweetheart treated you with the love you deserve today. May this day, and all the days this year, be more happy than sad.
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u/Marlie421 6d ago
Happy birthday babe!!!
It’s okay to feel sadness over the loss. It’s also okay to celebrate the freedom gained. I’m so happy to hear you have a wonderful partner to celebrate with you. Wishing you a fantastic year ahead!
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u/CharacterSong6246 5d ago
Happy Birthday! So proud of you, you’re amazing! Hugs and blessings 🎉🎂🎁❤️❤️
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u/THEMommaCee 8d ago
Happy birthday, Darling.
I so understand that sad feeling. You miss your mum. Not the mum you actually have but the one you wish you had. Maybe you remember those rare tender moments and long for that relationship. Then you remember those moments were the exceptions and you remember why you had to go NC. So you are sad. I’m sad too.
How lovely, though, to have a chosen family who do love you and do celebrate you.