21M from India. Why are most dudes here so desperate for girls?

[u/North-Leek7779]

Like genuinely the moment they find out I'm not a girl the convo fizzles out. C'mon y'all ain't seriously tryna get some play from reddit now are you?

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[u/FormerExample9418]

I think it's a combination of loneliness, lack of interaction with women, and the way society raises men here. A lot of guys grow up with very little normal, platonic interaction with girls, so they end up putting women on a pedestal and treating romantic attention as some sort of achievement. Add peer pressure, the obsession with losing your virginity, and the idea that having a girlfriend proves your worth, and you get this desperation. There's nothing wrong with wanting a relationship, but when you build your entire self-worth around getting a girl's attention, it becomes unhealthy.

[u/VeilofPerceptionn]

Lmao fr some dudes here forget the whole point is to make a connection, not just find a girl. A good conversation is a good conversation, bro 😂

[u/MysticMarshmallow → u/VeilofPerceptionn]

Good conversations are definitely important, and I think women tend to be better conversationalists in general. I'm a dude and I'm not that big into sports or politics, which seem to be what most guys like to focus on. If you ask a guy how his day went, he'll typically give you a 1-5 word response. Most women who are cheerful or need to vent will tell you every reason why the day was good or bad, which gives much more room for the conversation to continue. Just my two cents.

[u/niniela-phoenix]

Literally every sub I'm in has issues with horny men abusing it. My STRICTLY NOT NSFW long hair care sub has a sticky reminding you to turn your dms off before the creeps catch you.

It sucks because it makes people who may be targeted by that shit (aka, who look or are female) distrust everyone they come across. For a reason and that reason is some people can't just have a wank and leave them alone.

Its the same problem irl tbh. Making friends that are male is difficult because so many will literally after YEARS try to turn around and convince you to fuck them. I see it so much its not even funny. Its like they cannot seperate loneliness and friendship from their penis.

[u/Pretend-Theme9291]

LMAOOOOO, right on dudes just be desperate aff

[u/TUBBEW2]

Man thats how it is here, bunch of horny humans.

[u/arsubhaijan]

Yes that happens alot, this can be evidenced from a post which says f, will get many comments in no time, but genuine posts are not upvoted.

[u/North-Leek7779 → u/arsubhaijan]

true that

[u/arsubhaijan → u/North-Leek7779]

I am hopeful we are able to connect with people who have good intentions and who behave like normally

[u/North-Leek7779 → u/arsubhaijan]

Mhm same here

[u/VegPullao]

Sadly that's how it is in South Asia. Sex deprived and no sex education

[u/niniela-phoenix → u/VegPullao]

that's not just India. that's men on the internet, Indians just have a reputation for it.

Source: am European, also hang out in the Germany version of this sub, it's the exact same thing over there.

[u/NtGermanBtKnow1WhoIs]

Never replied here directly but.. i'm 35NB (born female). Also Indian. It's just for genuine conversations, so we can talk if you want. 

[u/North-Leek7779 → u/NtGermanBtKnow1WhoIs]

sure dude no problem

[u/Batman__1864 → u/[deleted]]

Woahh we got the alpha male here😈😈

[u/North-Leek7779 → u/[deleted]]

Religion ain't gonna cure that insufferable attitude of yours

[u/yashy20]

Why people opt for relationship they can just go for arrange marriages I am telling you coz you are indian

[u/Planetofthought → u/yashy20]

What the fuck happened to you in life?

[u/yashy20 → u/Planetofthought]

none. first of all i am trying to defend those who are genuine with their efforts if our culture ,society,their awkwardness or any other reasons that made them hesitant to talk to women then what's the problem if their trying to desperate to talk girls?(again i am talking abt the genuine guys) . not everyone has same advantage that's why men are desperate. not everyone is getting the opportunity of getting in a relationship or even frndshp easily. and if you really don't get it what m trying to say then 'What the fuck happened to you in life?'.

[u/Planetofthought → u/yashy20]

Reread the comment you wrote, you angry, little pick.

Maybe go outside and get cultured. Actually, don't leave your house. The world is better off.

[u/Lost-Bunnie → u/yashy20]

Wow... enough Reddit for today.Comments like these make it difficult for men with reasonable intentions.

[u/NtGermanBtKnow1WhoIs → u/Lost-Bunnie]

Yeah. And the username suggests this mofo is an Indian himself. People like these are why, not only do we Indians get a bad rep but also, people think badly about general Indian men who have otherwise good intentions.