r/PickyEaters • u/Livid_Ad7231 • 4d ago

Anyone else’s parents do this

Please if you have kids that are old enough to decide what they do and don’t like/ want to eat don’t push it or make fun of them and ask them why. My mom likes to pick at me about how I don’t eat lamb. It’s just something I don’t like. She got stuff to make lamb stew and I told her she already knows I don’t eat lamb at all and started saying “ it’s not your religion “ “ I should have told you it’s beef” just kept asking why and saying how good it is. Here’s the thing I don’t like to eat lamb I’m not sure why I just don’t same thing with pork.

So please parents respect your child’s choice on food preference and don’t make fun of them.

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u/WickedHorseman 4d ago

It’s mad how some parents treat a food preference like a personal attack. You not eating lamb costs her nothing, yet she’s making a whole stew knowing you wont touch it and then acting surprised.

The "I should have told you its beef" comment is the part that gets me. Lying about ingredients just to win an argument is such a weird move, and it backfires every time because now the kid trusts you even less around food.

My nan did similar with fish when I was young, acted like I was being difficult on purpose. Some people just cannot accept that taste buds aren’t a moral choice.

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u/wagowop 4d ago

"taste buds aren't a moral choice" I love that!

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u/Livid_Ad7231 4d ago

It’s just crazy to me, like I can taste the difference and this makes me not trust her. She’s done the same thing with mayonnaise when I was little I ended up checking my burgers and food because I didn’t trust her. Like I tried this dip and it was so good but then I could taste the mayonnaise idk if she did that on purpose or both but it was nasty

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u/SnooStrawberries6804 1d ago

As the mother of an extremely picky eater, yes, it does cost them something. A shared experience with their child. I don't condone shaming, but it's heartbreaking to constantly have the meals you lovingly prepare be rejected by your child in lieu of chicken nuggets.

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u/BedDense7567 4d ago

Yeah whenever my parents have done this to me it's made me want to try the food even less. 

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u/Livid_Ad7231 4d ago

Yep I now try to make my own food

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u/Internal-Gain-105 4d ago

the “it’s not your religion” thing is so weird, like you’re allowed to dislike a food without presenting a court case lol

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u/Livid_Ad7231 4d ago

Right like so what if it’s not part of religion why can’t people respect others don’t like what they likes

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u/xXpumpkinqueenXx 4d ago

I hate carrots, especially cooked carrots. My mom fought with me because she wanted me to eat them. One of my favorite foods was biscuits. She hid them in my biscuit and I threw up all over my plate. Got screamed at for that.

I do not shame my kids at all.

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u/Fuzzy_Welcome8348 4d ago

Tell this to your mom.

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u/Livid_Ad7231 4d ago

I already tried she just thinks it stupid

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u/AozoraMiyako 4d ago edited 4d ago

As a kid, I only liled like 5 veggies. As an adult, I probably like 8.

My parents always forced me to eat my veggies, even though they new I hated them.

I would often go to bed witu have eaten dinner because I’d rather not eat the veggies

(Stir-fry is my least favourite dish ever)

Now, wheneve I got eat with my parents (whether at the restaurant or spmeone’s house), they respect what I eat and don’t eat.

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u/ToughAd4704 4d ago

I didn't like lamb until I cooked it myself this year @ 44. I'd recommend trying to cook some yourself and season it how your ideal roast/pork chop would be and it might surprise you. Same with loads of foods.

It's hard with kids, can't force anyone to eat something or you get a disorder later. Just have a normal conversation saying: "mom there's grown ass adults on Reddit that can't eat anything but buttered noodles and chicken nuggets without sauce - you probably have stuff you don't like (liver, pigs feet, etc) please don't force this issue". Then show her r/pickyeaters

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u/Livid_Ad7231 3d ago

Ironically I also don’t like pork or roast 😅

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u/bethaliz6894 3d ago

Lamb and beef are nothing alike. I can tell the difference just by the smell. I like lamb and I like beef, but if my kids don't like it, they don't have to eat it. They also don't get made fun of either. I learned, from presonal experiene, a long time ago, making fun of people and forcing food on you that you don't like is a great way to start eating disorders. So I never pushed food, I just offered.

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u/Independent-Summer12 4d ago

Eh. I particularly agree. Parents shouldn’t force their kids to eat things they have aversions to. However, for me, a big part of my picky eating recovery was to explore the why I didn’t like something. Is the taste? Texture, temperature, smell, etc etc. Being able to be specific and describe what I didn’t like about something was important to get to the boundaries of my picky eating so they can be slowly and safely expanded in certain direction. And that process helped re-channel my brain to actually taste the food rather than rejecting most of them out of anxiety. I also don’t like lamb, still don’t like them. And that’s okay. But I know exactly why I don’t like it. It’s got that musty gamy taste that chicken doesn’t have, and beef has less of.

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u/Livid_Ad7231 4d ago

Sometimes there’s no reason at all I could try and eat something I love but I can’t eat it or I’ll gag