r/PlusSize • • Jul 08 '26

/r/plussize “Thanks But I’m Not Actually the Problem Here” Resource List

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Help us build a resource list for people who want to read, watch, and listen more widely around fat acceptance, fat liberation, anti-fat bias, diet culture, and fat people's lived experience.

The point is not to help people become smaller. It's to collect work that treats fat people as actual human beings, and that names the social, medical, cultural, romantic, professional, and everyday pressures fat people are routinely forced to face.

A lot of this list is especially relevant to fat women, because so much anti-fatness is tangled up with misogyny. That said, fatphobia doesn't only affect women, and this list shouldn't be read as women-only.

Books to start with:

Lindy West's Shrill is funny, furious, and very readable.

Aubrey Gordon's What We Don't Talk About When We Talk About Fat is probably the clearest modern introduction to anti-fat bias as a social issue rather than a personal failing

Her follow-up, "You Just Need to Lose Weight": And 19 Other Myths About Fat People, tackles the claims fat people hear constantly.

Virgie Tovar's You Have the Right to Remain Fat.

Sofie Hagen's Happy Fat and Jes Baker's Things No One Will Tell Fat Girls are also accessible entry points for people newer to fat acceptance.

History and politics:

Sabrina Strings' Fearing the Black Body explains how fatphobia is tied to race, gender, class, etc, rather than being simply about "health."

Sonya Renee Taylor's The Body Is Not an Apology is broader than fatness but useful for thinking about body-shame and hierarchy more generally.

Marilyn Wann's Fat! So? is older but historically important.

Charlotte Cooper's Fat Activism: A Radical Social Movement is valuable for understanding fat liberation as an actual movement.

DaShaun L. Harrison, Belly Of The Beast. Anti-fatness, anti-blackness and gender

Tigress Osborne, "Weight and Wisdom: Find Yourself in Fat History"

Podcasts:

Maintenance Phase is great for unpacking diet culture, wellness cons, BMI panic, and how health language gets used to boulster prejudice.

Virgie Tovar's Rebel Eaters Club.

Food Psych and Rethinking Wellness, both by Christy Harrison, anti-diet and wellness-culture critique.

Fierce Fatty by Vinny Welsby.

“Why Won’t You Date Me?” Nicole Byer

Weight For It by Ronald Young Jr (also worth a follow on socials)

The Body Trust Podcast.

Film and TV:

Your Fat Friend is a documentary about Aubrey Gordon, fat activism, family, and ordinary discrimination od fat people.

The Shrill TV series based on West's book.

My Mad Fat Diary, Dumplin', Real Women Have Curves, Patti Cake$.

Fiction, memoir etc:

Roxane Gay's Hunger is honest about trauma, body size, and safety.

Jennifer Weiner's Good in Bed was significant for centring a fat woman's romantic, sexual, and professional life.

Julie Murphy's Dumplin' is a great YA option.

Talia Hibbert's Get a Life, Chloe Brown

Olivia Dade's Spoiler Alert.

Nicole Byer’s book #VeryFat #VeryBrave is a photo series of her rocking her extensive bikini collection

Health without weight-loss framing:

Lindo Bacon's Health at Every Size.

Christy Harrison's Anti-Diet unpacks how wellness culture repackages diet culture.

Intuitive Eating by Tribole and Resch is the standard reference for eating without restriction.

Ragen Chastain's Weight and Healthcare newsletter is good for research and practical scripts.

Decolonizing Fitness (Ilya Parker) covers movement spaces that don't treat body-size reduction as the goal.

People worth following:

Aubrey Gordon, Virgie Tovar, Sabrina Strings, Sonya Renee Taylor, Jes Baker, Ragen Chastain, Jessamyn Stanley, Vinny Welsby, Tess Holliday, and Tess Royale Clancy.

Read/watched/heard anything that made you think, lifted you up, informed, empowered or inspired you?

Please add below.


r/PlusSize • • Jul 17 '26

FEEL GOOD FRIDAY POST! ❤️ Share your good moments and positive stories here!

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#It's Feel Good Friday! 🎊

Post your feel-good moments and positive stories here. It can be anything: work, hobby, pets, kids, events, a book you particularly loved, a win of any sort, finding the exact right pair of shoes, mastering something, you name it, so long as it's positive. 🤗💖

Do please still refrain from any weight loss talk (save it for the Intentional Weight Loss Wednesday thread 😉)


r/PlusSize • • 15h ago

Venting Crop tops 🤬🤬🤬

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I just went shopping and i am so angry. Every top i can find is cropped to either the belly button or just below the bust and its so aggravating. Even the clothes marketed toward the plus size crowd don't have any non cropped options! Im not saying there shouldn't be *any* cropped but it would be nice to have a fall/winter sweater that covered my midriff! I am just starting to love my body again for how it looks and I wanted to find some nice new clothing that actually fit rather than being overly baggy, but I am nowhere near confident enough for a crop top yet so I have 0 options for new tops :( I'm going to check out some other stores tomorrow but this is my third try and im just so frustrated


r/PlusSize • • 1d ago

Self-Pics - Sundays Only! Girls night really recharges the batteries ✨

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r/PlusSize • • 13h ago

TW: Fat Shaming Abuse I'm about to give up

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I will couch this by saying it's likely going to have more self-deprecation than "normal". Mostly because this is how I truly feel, and my autism doesn't sugar coat things.

I would not consider myself the cute-version of overweight. Some women carry their weight in such a way that - while plus size - they're still attractive. I, on the other hand, am avocado-shaped, at best, due to lipedema.

I turn 40 next month, and have several other disabilities on top of the lipedema, which mean that going to the gym, working out, etc are basically off the table for me. I already tried gastric sleeve surgery and - while I lost about 70kg/150 lbs of weight - it all came back as soon as I wasn't starving myself. I still can't eat a whole happy meal in one sitting.

I realize that I don't look my age, which doesn't help either, as it feels like the only people who are interested in me are in their 20s. that is, when I can find someone interested in me.

So often as soon as someone sees my picture either they fetishize me (boobs or butt) or ghost me. In one day I got 10 people message me on a dating at (which listed that I was curvy and didn't work out). More than one stopped talking to me after I sent the pictures. Without even a goodbye / reason.

So, I'm about to give up on dating. I tried all the apps, tried posting on reddit, tried a few websites. Same issues on all of them.

I'm to the point where I've contemplated a matchmaker.

</rant>


r/PlusSize • • 6h ago

Recommendations Where are we buying wide calf boots?!

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Yall it’s fixing to be fall and I’m wanting some tall boots that’ll fit my chunky calves. I had some yeas ago from a store that’s no longer around, but am having a hard time finding any that are wide calf and also somewhat affordable. Would love if the store has them in person to try on too rather than online only.
Any help is much appreciated!!


r/PlusSize • • 1d ago

Self-Pics - Sundays Only! 40th birthday face

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r/PlusSize • • 1d ago

Self-Pics - Sundays Only! Fall festivities with the girls!

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Went to Yates Cider Mill with the ladies. Your friendly reminder to fall hop this year, go to multiple fall festivities back to back 🤭


r/PlusSize • • 1d ago

Self-Pics - Sundays Only! Just dropping a few I love 🥰

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r/PlusSize • • 1d ago

Self-Pics - Sundays Only! Sweater weather finally! 🍁🍂

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r/PlusSize • • 7h ago

Fashion Discussion Seeing Dita in Vegas Nov, dress too hot?

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Any Vegas locals here? I am going to see the Dita Von Teese show the first week of Novemeber. I have this Starlet dress by Vixen to wear but wondering if it will be too hot? I prefer longer sleeves regardless of the weather. The fabric is heavier, velvet. I run hot all the time but usually only in humid climates. Long range forecast seems reasonable. I want to look nice and not sweaty from walking to the venue haha.


r/PlusSize • • 1d ago

Self-Pics - Sundays Only! Selfie Sunday...yay!

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r/PlusSize • • 1d ago

Self-Pics - Sundays Only! Went to the Ren Faire 🩶🤍🩷

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r/PlusSize • • 1d ago

Self-Pics - Sundays Only! Pumpkin patch outfit 🎃

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Dress is vixen by Michelliene Pitt and purse is from La Femme En noire.


r/PlusSize • • 1d ago

Self-Pics - Sundays Only! October is my time to shine 🎃

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r/PlusSize • • 1d ago

Self-Pics - Sundays Only! Feeling Golden!

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Autumn colors with summer vibes!
All from Torrid!
Send winter my way please!!


r/PlusSize • • 1d ago

Self-Pics - Sundays Only! Just a couple

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Have a good week guys !


r/PlusSize • • 1d ago

Self-Pics - Sundays Only! Hello from France!

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I had to dress my most fashionable for PARIS. My 2 outfits so far this weekend!


r/PlusSize • • 1d ago

Self-Pics - Sundays Only! my favourite time of year 🍁

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r/PlusSize • • 1d ago

Self-Pics - Sundays Only! Adult Trick or Treat and Happy Sunday

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Have a lovely day ❤️

Dress from Shein and leggings from Gabes.


r/PlusSize • • 1d ago

Self-Pics - Sundays Only! Sunday selfie

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Had to stop at McDonald's before play practice because I thought call time was at 1pm but it was 2pm 🤣


r/PlusSize • • 1d ago

Self-Pics - Sundays Only! It’s my favourite day of the week - selfie Sunday!

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Throwing back in some colour now I’m starting to feel myself again.. even the brace is starting to grow on me. Gonna miss that bad boy 😂😂


r/PlusSize • • 1d ago

Self-Pics - Sundays Only! Birthday look

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Recently celebrated a birthday and this was the makeup I went with!


r/PlusSize • • 1d ago

Self-Pics - Sundays Only! A couple recent outfits!

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r/PlusSize • • 1d ago

Self-Pics - Sundays Only! We had a Halloween event at work yesterday and got to dress up!

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I was a witch :3