So yesterday I was wearing a tank top with hand sleeves because I saw this fit online and thought I'd try it out. I was literally just standing outside my house when my neighbor's aunty walked past looked me up and down TWICE and went Beta you a boy or a girl? 😭

another aunty over and then both started talking shit of my me staring at my outfit while was standing there waiting for cab

after reaching my friend's home he declared me a femboy after inspecting my outfit

Sarcasm hain ( dont confuse me in your side)

From some men's sub.

Making it better

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Aajao na yaar, i wannnaaaa talkkkkkk

She deleted 350+ messages I sent trying to explain myself, and now I feel like I have nobody. How do I start over? (19M)

I'm 19M, and honestly, I don't even know where to start.

I was in a long-distance relationship for almost a year. I proposed to her on 11 October last year, she said yes on the 21st, and now we're ending things around almost the same dates. I never thought it would end like this.

For the last month or so, things between us had been getting worse. She started ignoring my calls, sometimes cutting them to talk to a male friend. She would stay up talking to him late at night, and there was also another guy who openly flirted with her even though he knew she was in a relationship.

I tried telling her that these things bothered me, but most of the time, it turned into an argument. Maybe I didn't always express my feelings in the right way, but I wanted us to talk about things and understand each other.

Eventually, she started ignoring me for days while still being active with her friends and on social media. When I tried asking her about it, she said something like, "Mera account hai, main kuch bhi karun, tujhe kya?"

That really hurt me.

I won't pretend I handled everything perfectly. I lost my temper during an argument and said something harsh about her wanting attention and being with me for that reason. I know that hurt her, and I regret saying it. I apologised multiple times because I genuinely didn't want our relationship to end over that argument.

But after that, she stopped talking to me. She eventually said we should just be friends because she couldn't handle my temper.

I kept asking for one proper conversation. I wasn't asking her to stay with me against her wishes. I just wanted to understand what happened, where things went wrong, and whether everything we had shared for a year really had to end without a single proper conversation.

I sent her more than 350 messages on WhatsApp, trying to explain myself, apologise, and say everything I couldn't say properly before. She told me she wouldn't even read them and would delete them. And she did.

The screenshot I've attached is from one of our conversations. I asked her why she didn't want to talk to me anymore, and when she said I meant nothing to her now, I told her I had just wanted to say what I needed to say. Her response was that I'd already betrayed her trust.

I don't know if I'll ever fully understand her side of things. I know I made mistakes, and I'm not saying I'm innocent in everything that happened. But being left with so many unanswered questions has been genuinely painful.

The hardest part is that she seems to have people around her. She's talking to friends, going out, posting stories, and carrying on with her life. I know social media doesn't tell the whole story, but seeing it while I'm struggling to get through the day makes everything worse.

Meanwhile, I have practically no close friends. I'm not very connected to my family either, so I don't really have anyone I can sit with and tell all of this to.

I started smoking during this period because the anxiety and emptiness felt unbearable. I'm not proud of it, and I know it's not a solution. I just didn't know what to do with everything I was feeling.

I'm barely eating properly, my sleep is messed up, and I keep crying or thinking about what happened. My exams are starting in a few days, and I can't get myself to concentrate. I keep checking her socials even though I know it hurts me.

A part of me still wants her to talk to me once. Another part of me knows I can't keep begging someone to have a conversation with me when they've clearly said they don't want to.

I think what hurts most isn't just losing the relationship. It's losing the person I used to share everything with and then realising I don't have anyone else to turn to.

I'm trying to accept that I might never get the explanation or closure I wanted. But I honestly don't know how to do that yet.

I don't want to spend the next few months begging someone to come back. I don't want to become bitter or carry this pain into every future relationship either.

I want to get my life back, focus on my studies, become healthier, make genuine friends, and eventually be okay with myself again.

But right now, even getting through one day feels difficult.

If you've ever had to rebuild your life after losing someone you thought would stay, please tell me what actually helped you. Not just "move on" or "focus on yourself," but the small, practical things that helped you get through the first few days and weeks.

At last she compared me with her ex and said he was better then you as he stopped smoking for her. But the twist is he cheated on her 2 times and flirty with other girls and talk to them and he never stopped smoking. Still she think he was better then me

TL;DR: I'm 19M. My one-year LDR ended after months of arguments and a final fight where I lost my temper and said something hurtful. I apologised and sent 350+ WhatsApp messages trying to explain myself, but she refused to read them and deleted them. I feel hurt by the lack of closure, regret my own mistakes, and struggle with the fact that she seems to have moved on while I'm completely alone. I've started smoking because of the anxiety, can't sleep or eat properly, and have exams coming up. How do I stop chasing closure, get through this loneliness, and rebuild my life from scratch?

To the guy I met here, I hope this somehow reaches you.

Hey I don't know if you'll ever come across this post but a part of me still hopes you will.

We met here when you made a post looking for a female friend and I happened to comment on it. We started talking and although I was hesitant at first you somehow made it easier for me to open up express my feelings and be a little less afraid of being vulnerable.

It might not have been a long time but the way you treated me meant more to me than I knew how to express back then. You listened to me considered my feelings and made me feel cared for in a way I hadn't really experienced before.

And maybe that's why I got scared.

Somewhere along the way I started feeling like I wouldn't be good enough for you as a partner. Instead of talking to you about those fears I chose to write a closure message and walk away leaving things to destiny. Maybe I thought I was doing the right thing at the time but I don't think I truly understood what leaving would feel like.

It's been days maybe even a month and yet I still find myself thinking about you. I don't know if you ever think about me if you've moved on or if my sudden goodbye even affected you. I have no way of knowing and I don't want to make assumptions.

I just wish I had been brave enough to communicate instead of letting my insecurities decide things for me.

I'm not writing this to make you feel guilty or to ask you to feel the same way I do. I just wanted to put these words out there hoping that somehow somewhere they might reach you.

If you happen to recognise our story and if you're comfortable with it I'd really like to talk to you again. Not to pretend nothing happened but to have the conversation I was perhaps too scared to have before.

And if you don't see this or if you've already moved on I hope life treats you kindly. Thank you for making me feel that my feelings mattered. You may not even realise how much that meant to me but I do.

Maybe this is my little attempt at finding my way back to someone I wasn't quite ready to say goodbye to.

Yours,

Bhudhu No1...🥺🥺 (Mods please approve this post...)

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You can support and work with someone or a group without agreeing to everything they believe in.

So a guy sat beside during my admission process and asked me ki which dept are you taking admission int to and stuff he Was so cute I was with my dad so I couldn't talk much lol . So he is from diff dept and I am from diff dept but luckily 1 day we have common lab together so 2 weeks back I asked him ki appko bhi admin office Mei bulai hai kya yeh doc leke he answered nahi kyu toh maine bola ki nahi muze Bulaya hai even tho they said this doc was not required during admission process, on the same they when classes were over I was waiting for my friend he himself approached mi ki aapka portion Kitna hua and stuff max we talked for 1 min, so in the end I asked him his name and forwarded my had for a handshake and after this incident next day during lunch he was passing buy in the hallway but I ignored him cuz I was scared and next day this guy comes to clg with a clean shave and stuff not like he had a full blown beard but he had a subtle ngl he looks 10x more good in clean shave , my frd was like ki tune ignore mara ishe liye dekh shave karke aya hei but 3 days later it was my turn to approach him na so I asked ki where do you stay and stuff but this time he forwarded his hand for a handshake 😭. Then next week arrived and we had lab together and he was continously passing infront of my table and sir humko pehle first table ko bulakar explain karteh hain na so after that we have to go and sit on our respective tables but he was sitting on opposite side such that he couldn't see mi then he got up and went to diff side and at an angle from which he could see mee ,after lab got over uske batch ko jaldi chota but he stayed back till the end moment even tho his frds left very slowly packing his bag and stuff and phir he started convo ki did sir take viva and stuff cuz for his batch sir is diff but pracs ke liye dono div ki ek room Mai hoti hai and now it was my turn to start convo so yesterday I knew he had a speech to give which was our assignment for a subject and when I saw him in the hallway he was wearing formals and looking cute soo I maine pretend kiya ki I did not see him , my frd with me scolded mi ki why did you chickened out , he was looking at you wtv but on monday I will gather courage ask for his insta id 😭😭😭