r/SanFranciscoWeddings • • May 23 '26

Uncategorized Mods Note: “Why Was My Post Deleted?”

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Reposting because this has been coming up again recently:

“Why was my post deleted?”

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r/SanFranciscoWeddings • • 4h ago

Seeking advice City Hall Saturday buyout - only for ceremony?

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Hi all! Would love your advice on if this is an extremely silly idea or see if anyone has done this before.

Our reception venue is officially booked for Fall 2028, and my partner and I love the idea of getting married at City Hall beforehand. Unfortunately the reception venue cannot start until 6 PM, and there's only a 9 AM city hall time slot available for our date but we don't love the idea of a full day gap until the reception. So, I'm wondering if it would be absolutely crazy to inquire about a City Hall evening buyout but only use it for the ceremony so we can time it where it is back to back with the dinner reception? Has anyone done this before?

I feel like would be a ridiculous amount of money, but it could be worth it if it's what we would really want to do. Would love any and all thoughts and feedback and thank you in advance!


r/SanFranciscoWeddings • • 15h ago

General question Anyone who has done ceremony elsewhere + restaurant reception?

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Hi!! I'm starting my journey of wedding planning now for an early 2028 (?) wedding - I'm quite interested in having a restaurant reception in the interest of saving money + having great food, but I do fear I'm still interested in having some kind of a walking-down-the-aisle ceremony outdoors. Thinking around ~80 guest count!

I briefly considered doing a ceremony in the grassy areas outside of Dalida then transitioning to Dalida for a reception but got a quote from them recently that was around 40k which is a bit out of budget for me...so just curious on how the gals who did restaurant receptions handled having a ceremony!


r/SanFranciscoWeddings • • 15h ago

Seeking vendor(s) Wedding Venues & Services!

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Affordable wedding venues in Northern California area! Thinking Bay Area, North Coast, Sacramento, sierra foothills. We are aiming for 15k MAX for our wedding! Aiming for October/November 2027, 75 guests. Preferably outdoors, with indoor options in case of weather. Would prefer to bring our own catering and alcohol, LGBTQ+ friendly, and redwoods & greenary aesthetics hugeeeee plus! Thanks all!


r/SanFranciscoWeddings • • 1d ago

For sale Free (Worn) Wedding Dress – Strapless Satin Gown with Lace Train

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CLAIMED- no longer available!

Giving away (completely free- “for sale” was closest relevant tag) my wedding dress to someone who will love it as much as I did!

Strapless, corset-style satin gown with a fitted silhouette, delicate lace detailing, and a long lace train. The dress has a zipper closure, and a 3-point bustle is already added, so it’s ready for its next wedding day.

Sizing & alterations
Street size approximately 4
Measurements: 34” bust, 27” waist, 39” hips
I’m 5’0” and had the dress hemmed to wear with 4” heels, so it will likely work best for someone around 5’4” or shorter, depending on shoes and proportions.

Condition
Worn once for an outdoor wedding ceremony. There are some dirt stains on the underside of the train from the outdoor ceremony, but they aren’t visible when the dress is worn. I’ve included close-up photos for transparency (last 3 photos). The dress has not been professionally cleaned since the wedding, so it will need cleaning before wear.

Free to someone who can give it another life! Happy to answer questions or share more photos.


r/SanFranciscoWeddings • • 1d ago

Seeking advice Sanity Check on Expenses for 75 Wedding Guests

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My initial budget was $20k, but we don’t have alterations complete or any decor really selected. Ignore the beverage section as well since we still haven’t mapped cost of cocktail supplies.

My biggest worry is that we’re over spending on the wrong things. Our food category includes dessert (ice cream truck), a buffet dinner, and appetizers for cocktail hour.


r/SanFranciscoWeddings • • 1d ago

Seeking advice Realistic budget for SF wedding

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Hi all! My fiancé and I just got engaged and are looking at getting married in SF. Is $125k a realistic budget for 150 people for the city? We are looking at a spring 2028 wedding so just starting to scope it all out now.


r/SanFranciscoWeddings • • 1d ago

General question Magnolia Brewing Haight Buyout

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Hi! Curious if anyone has ever been to or done a buy out of Magnolia Brewing in the Haight? Considering it for our welcome party and everything seems like a great fit but wanted to put feelers out if anyone’s been there for an event recently before we bite the bullet and sign the contract. Thanks!!


r/SanFranciscoWeddings • • 2d ago

Seeking advice Is wine country too hot Labor Day weekend?

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Just toured a Solage Calistoga in early October and it was 90° during the day. Even though the ceremony would start at 5 and I think generally the wedding itself would be an okay temp in the evening, I’m worried people will spend my whole wedding weekend talking about how hot it is?

Any Napa/Sonoma brides have insight on this? Otherwise it’s so gorgeous. But the sun is hotttt and I want people to have fun the whole weekend not just at my air conditioned reception.


r/SanFranciscoWeddings • • 2d ago

Seeking vendor(s) Looking for vendors familiar with HL peninsula

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I'm having my reception at HL peninsula in CV in June and looking for vendors who are familiar/have worked there! Brides - please let me know if you have any recommendations. Looking for DJ, dance floor, bar tender, decorator, photobooth, decorator/florist!


r/SanFranciscoWeddings • • 2d ago

Seeking vendor(s) Spontaneous Proposal Today at Palace of Fine Arts

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As the title reads, I’ve decided to propose today. Looking for around 6pm. I realize I might be SOL, but I’d appreciate any available if possible. Thank you guys!


r/SanFranciscoWeddings • • 2d ago

Seeking vendor(s) searching for bands for wedding in sept 2027

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hello! I am looking for a band to do our wedding !! it’s in sonoma in sept 2027

looking for recommendations for bands!

we are looking for a group ideally to include a brass/horn section if it’s possible. we would really like that but not completleyyyy essential

our budget is ~$5000 which may be impossible but I am curious if we can find a great group for that price. bonus points if they’re local! :-)

it’s a jewish wedding so performing music for the hora will be a must. other than that, we are looking for high energy groups who will encourage the guests to break it down on the dance floor!


r/SanFranciscoWeddings • • 3d ago

Seeking vendor(s) Asian catering recs for Wedgewood venue

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Hi! My fiancé and I are getting married at a Wedgewood venue in the East Bay next summer. While we love the venue, we're not super excited about the food options so we want to get an outside caterer with preferably either Chinese or Vietnamese cuisine (we're flexible to most Asian cuisines). The venue has let us know that we're welcome to bring in a caterer.

We're leaning towards buffet style since we'd like to keep the carving station from Wedgewood with a budget of around $8k for about 100 guests. Open to appetizers for cocktail hour but not super necessary.

We've reached out to some popular options I've found in this sub-Reddit -- Le's and Michi are out of budget and booked for our date. We've also reached out to Heaven's Kitchen (no response yet), Ginger Cafe (not doing catering next year), Thai Rice Spoon, and Burma Superstar. We're open to doing Thai Rice Spoon or Burma Superstar since they're available and in budget but I wanted to see if folks here have any recs for more specifically Chinese or Viet options within our budget! Some popular Chinese banquet halls I've reached out to don't deliver and I don't want to worry about the logistics of having someone pick things up.

Also more generally, would love to hear from folks that did outside catering to a Wedgewood venue! I'm a bit nervous about it so any thought/tips would be greatly appreciated!


r/SanFranciscoWeddings • • 3d ago

General question San Francisco Bridal Shop Review

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Since I value and search for reviews of real experiences, I wanted to share mine as MOB.

Both of my daughters were married within three months of each other, this summer, and both purchased their gowns from Sarah Seven, in San Francisco. While the dresses were lovely, the overall experience was frustrating, dismissive, and unnecessarily expensive. We all strongly recommend choosing another bridal shop!

RUSH FEES. Despite ordering a gown eight months before the wedding — a timeline every other boutique considered ample — Sarah Seven required an exorbitant rush fee as a condition of purchase. The contract promised an 8‑week rush window; the dress arrived after 16 weeks. The delay was blamed on giving the employees off for Christmas. That wasn't mentioned in the contract but even with a week grace period for holiday closures they fell way short of the delivery time.

When the gown finally arrived, after 4 months, it was stained and unwearable. A salesperson attempted to remove the stain with a Tide‑to‑Go pen, making it worse. The dress had to be remade. When at 5 months we still didn't have a wearable dress, we requested a refund of the $600 rush fee, our first message was ignored. The second was denied with the remark, “no one forced you to purchase a gown here.” A reply that was simply stunning to us.

SIZING. We paid an extra $200 for split sizing, and the sales associate measured my daughter carefully. Despite this, the New York team decided — without explanation — to make the dress a full size larger, top and bottom. When the first dress arrived, it was visibly too big. We were told her measurements had decreased, which can happen, but the originally measured size would have fit far better. Because the dress had to be remade due to the stain, we asked that the remake be done in the correct size. Sarah Seven refused, but offered to make it in the right size for an additional $500! Absolutely ridiculous.

ALTERATIONS. Sarah Seven seriously aggressively pushes one alterations partner, Tailor Made in San Francisco, even writing it into their contract. Tailor Made estimated at least $2,000 in alterations to fix issues caused by the incorrect sizing. Independent tailors advised simply ordering the a smaller size so as not to pay to alter a dress that was clearly too big. We ultimately found a far more reasonable seamstress in Oakland.

Beautiful gowns can be found at many shops. Choose one that values its customers and supports a joyful bridal experience rather than complicating it.


r/SanFranciscoWeddings • • 3d ago

Seeking advice Original Joe's: Salesian Room or Tony Bennett Room for Dinner?

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hey!

i am looking at having a post city hall wedding dinner at Original Joe's for 30 guests and was wondering if anyone has had their wedding dinner/reception here and if so what private room they prefer or if you have any insights on either room. Thanks!


r/SanFranciscoWeddings • • 3d ago

Seeking vendor(s) Affordable makeup artist for early morning courthouse wedding in Menlo Park?

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Hi! I'm getting married in Menlo Park this November. It's an early morning wedding, so I'm looking for an affordable makeup artist who can accommodate an early appointment.

I'd love a soft, romantic, natural look. My budget is ideally under $120, and I'm happy to travel to a studio or salon. Hair would be a plus but depends on the budget (max $200)

Any recommendations with pricing or portfolio links? Thank you!


r/SanFranciscoWeddings • • 3d ago

Seeking advice Sf City Hall 4th Floor

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Hi! Im about to start reaching out to florists for my civil ceremony which will be on the 4th floor balcony at SF City Hall. Does anyone have photos they would be willing to share of their ceremonies? Id love to see what you ended up doing so I can get an idea of what to ask for.


r/SanFranciscoWeddings • • 3d ago

Seeking vendor(s) SF Photographer, Videographer and Content Creator Search

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Hiiii! Im getting married next August and am looking for a photographer & a videographer/content creator. My wedding is South Asian so it will be four days in length and as a result I’m trying to maximize my budget so that I can have photos/videos from each day.

A breakdown of the days:
Day 1 Mehendi
Day 2 Haldi
Day 3 Nikkah and Sangeet
Day 4 1 hr Civil Ceremony at SF City Hall

Photography:

Im hoping for a package that would include save the date photos. For Day 1-3 I would love photos that are bright. For Day 4, Id like a bit of get ready photos, ceremony photos, family photos and photos of me and FH. For the photos of him and I- Id prefer someone who is familiar with SF City Hall, posing cues and has an artistic/cinematic style like in example 2 & 3.

Examples of what I like:

1: https://www.instagram.com/reel/Dc6zX1AyunQ/?cplk=YzR0ZXB0OW9kbnE=

2: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZPLStrcsh/

3: https://m.facebook.com/groups/beginnersphotographygroup/permalink/28098852649735967/?mibextid=wwXIfr

4: https://www.instagram.com/jamesandjess?dlrf=MWVmOHkyN2wzejQ4bg==

5: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZPLStttF8/

Videography/Content: I’m not sure which I should do. I know I would definitely like audio of our ceremonies and videos of the dances/skits (Sangeet).

I would like a Wes Anderson style video too for one of the days.

https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZPLStuwk9/

I know— so many things I want. Lets see how realistic it is now! :) thanks in advance for everyone who shares their favorites or responds!


r/SanFranciscoWeddings • • 3d ago

General question Need insight on food & drinks vendors

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We are not from San Francisco but would like to hold a small wedding reception (45-50). We came across China Cabin, which seems perfect, but they have a list of preferred vendors we have to choose from. I was wondering if anyone has done an event at the China Cabin, or has worked with the preferred vendors. If so, how much did it cost? I know the cost looks very different based on food&drink/number of people/format, but just trying to gather some sort of data..

Here's a list of the vendors I would have to pick from.

PREFERRED CATERERS

Dee Wagner Events 415-328-4403

A Fork Full of Earth 415-448-5178

Fork & Spoon Catering 415-552-7130

Olive Catering 323-445-6649

California Rose 510-644-4473

Taste Catering 415-550-6464

Lolo Valencia Events 415-643-5656

Paella Time 415-967-3550

Sage Catering 415-491-2222

Petite Left Bank 415-226-6653


r/SanFranciscoWeddings • • 3d ago

General question Looking for an indoor venue, 50 people, outside catering

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Why is this SO hard to find:

-This is a 2nd wedding for both of us so its small and we don't want the normal wedding venue experience.

-Marin, Sonoma, Napa, Berkeley

-Indoor ceremony and reception

-Max 50 people

-Outside catering (we don't want normal plated dinner experience) We want a taco bar.

-Max 5k for the venue only.

SMALL WEDDING should equal SMALLER prices!


r/SanFranciscoWeddings • • 3d ago

Seeking advice City reception outdoor dancing under $20K?

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Hi all,

My partner and I are looking for a place for a reception for about 100 people. I would love for the space to include some sort of outdoor patio. Room for dancing with either a DJ or a small band is the highest priority.

Accounting for venue, food, drinks, and ideally minimal decor/rentals, we're aiming for $20K and under. Is this possible? Any recommendations? Places we are exploring include Plant Connection (would have to lower count), Standard Deviant at Pier 70, Marigold event space, Nido's backyard (oakland), The Pearl, Stern Grove Clubhouse, 7 mile house..... any other ideas? Thank you!!


r/SanFranciscoWeddings • • 4d ago

For sale August 2027 Wedding Venue / Date Available

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hello! we booked a venue in Healdsburg for August 2027 and have now decided to move our wedding to our hometown in SoCal.

the original venue is gorgeous and has been wonderful to work with, and we would love to help them out by back-filling our date.

if you’re recently engaged and having trouble finding a venue in Sonoma/Napa area, please feel free to send me a message and i can share more details♥️


r/SanFranciscoWeddings • • 4d ago

Seeking advice Wedding Planner Tip - Is it Necessary?

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We're getting married next week, and I'm wondering what the general consensus is on tipping wedding planners.

We've paid $10,600 for partial planning services, which included helping us book all our vendors and transitioning to full planning four months before the wedding. Our planner is an employee of a larger planning company, not the owner.

We're currently about $4,500 over budget, and while I think our planner has done an okay job, I wouldn't say she's gone above and beyond. I also feel that some of the additional expenses could have been anticipated or avoided with more proactive planning and budget management earlier in the process.

The planning company provided us with a resource packet that included a gratuity guide, which states:

"Planner: $200–$1,000 or 10% of planning package is standard. The amount tipped is contingent on the level of service you have booked."

We originally budgeted $1,000 for her tip, but now that we're approaching the wedding, that feels like a significant amount of money on top of what we've already paid, especially given our experience.

What would you do?


r/SanFranciscoWeddings • • 4d ago

General question rehearsal dinner recs (~20 people)

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hi! does anyone have recommendations for a restaurant for our rehearsal dinner in South bay? we'll be a group of about 20.


r/SanFranciscoWeddings • • 4d ago

Seeking vendor(s) Monterey Hair and Makeup for wedding

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Looking for affordable bridal hair and make up in the Monterey area! Open to services at the salon or on location. Hoping to spend ~$500 for bride and $150 per bridesmaid or other. Is it even possible???