Tropes that became problematic

[u/KalzK]

The Persistent Suitor: A guy who is after the girl and just wont take no for an answer. Nowadays we just call stalking and harassment, but it used to be romantic. Example: The Notebook (2004), Noah asks Allie out while she's on a date with another man. She refuses, but he threatens to let go and fall unless she agrees to go out with him.

Comedic Woman On Man Violence: Mostly seen in anime, recently it has decreased a lot but years back every show had a woman hitting a guy and showed it as funny. Example: Toradora!, where the quintessential tsundere, Taiga, beats up the MC regularly.

Kid Bags Adult Baddie: I remember a few of these, sometimes it was to show how cool and awesome a kid was because an adult woman fell for him, now it's just seen as problematic shit. Example: Blank Check, the woman likes the kid and kisses him telling him to look for her in 10 years.

[u/Agitated_Insect3227]

The "not if they enjoyed it" trope where the idea is that rape stops being rape if the victim physically enjoys the experience, which is obviously horrible and stupid.

A somewhat similar & equally dumb trope is the "having a female character raped so that she can feel pleasure without guilt and getting her 'used' to sex," which was weirdly popular with some female authors, of all people, during the 1960s and 1970s. I know I sound like a crazy incel mentioning this, but I promise you it was a thing.

This book is one such example. I only knew of its existence because the author is from the U.S. state Louisiana like me and it's apparently a revolutionary book for the historical romance genre.

[u/No_Professional4867 → u/Agitated_Insect3227]

Something something psychology and kinks being very interlinked together. The problem comes when men write or read this kind of literature and use it to justify rape, rather than it very much being a kink fantasy thing.