r/Tunisia • u/Key-Value-1119 • 15h ago
Discussion Why do some girls completely ignore you when there's a guy around?
As a girl There's something I've experienced an endless number of times, and I genuinely don't understand it.
As a girl, why is it that some of your female friends will suddenly start ignoring you the moment a guy is around? They'll laugh with him, talk to him, and give him all their attention, but when it comes to you, they act completely differently. It's like your presence suddenly doesn't matter anymore.
I'm not talking about a specific situation or just hanging out together. I mean in general, why do some girls change the way they treat you depending on whether there's a guy around? They can be perfectly normal with you, but as soon as a guy appears, you're suddenly the least interesting person in the room.
Sometimes, they'll even leave you alone just to go talk to guys, without making any effort to include you in the conversation. And honestly, what bothers me isn't that they want to talk to guys. They're obviously free to talk to whoever they want. It's the way they completely disregard you in the process, as if you only matter when there's no one else around.
I find it especially weird when they don't even seem to realize they're doing it. Do they genuinely not notice how differently they behave, or do they just not care?
I don't want to make this about jealousy, because that's not the point. I'm talking about basic consideration and the feeling of being treated like an option rather than an actual friend.
Has anyone else noticed this behavior? Why do some girls do this?
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u/Fluffy_Can_8925 15h ago edited 15h ago
As a man I struggled with this too. There is a type they change completely when a girl is around, yo5rjou men 9echrethom and hustling to get attention. Many will also tend to have silly jokes about u to get u out of the way and to be perceived as the alpha men or whatever in their minds. once it happens, I tend to avoid them till we have no connection anymore. I would say It happens more when they see u more as a threat to their territory, also I know they wont be acting the same if there was another guy, who they dont find as a threat. despite u dont want to use the term jealousy, I lack other terms to describe this. I think they are pathetic and feel sorry for them. Stay away from them, they are not pure and probably talking shit behind your back.
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u/Present_Apricot_4678 13h ago
idk same thing for guys ,I dare to say it's much worse ... but who cares maybe they are in love or want the attention of that person don't take it personally
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u/Key-Value-1119 5h ago
In that way these girl slove every guy thet see Trust me it's never been abt love feeling And this is hapeened to me a lot of time i'm just sick of it , but i guess ur right i just should stop thinking abt it
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u/RecentBodybuilder808 5h ago edited 5h ago
Bro i had my friend (1) bullying me infront my bf the day i tried introducing him to her and only spoke to him during the whole dinner xDDD .. that was hella bad ..
Another one confessed (2) to a guy i introduced them to during a party and she knew i had a crush on him he rejected her and now she is still saying that he never did she had the ick the moment he started talking about me lol .. She also cut another (4) because she got married said she no longer thinks the married are suitable for the group .. and she also told us she was jealous we all got to date and she never did and she is the most attractive
another (1) said she called our (4) girl to a gathering and her bf didnt let her come, ahe never called her she just didnt want her to come to talk shit about her and her bf .. the day of (4) engagement (1) came late ignored (4) posted with everyone else and refused to take pictures with (4) THE BRIDE!!!!
Girlss get so toxic and jealous at certain ages .. we were solid besties back in the day ..
All in our mid twenties btw
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u/Key-Value-1119 5h ago
Do you think one day I’ll get through this like you did and finally forget about it? Will it eventually stop hurting or will a part of me always remember?
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u/RecentBodybuilder808 5h ago
You'll get to meet healthier people and start to notice the patterns and tell who really cares and who doesnt .. stay safe ..
Alsoo chouf aayletek w tes cousines these mfs are usually the best friendss youll ever get oualah
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u/RecentBodybuilder808 5h ago
These are not your friends enti labes bik chouf jmea ychabhoulek w yhebouk khir youre worth of this
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u/Automatic_Growth_646 4h ago
Male centered girls are the worst and you need to learn to drop this kind of girls I learned my lesson the hard way
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u/spicy_chicken22 15h ago
Some girls love getting attention from boys and base their self-worth on it
So when they meet a boy , they put all their attention and effort into him