Struggling with leveling and mastering in Ableton: How to get a punchy Boom Bap mix across all playback systems?

[u/Rubin163163]

I need your help. My setup consists of a standard laptop with Ableton and Rode NTH-100 headphones. I produce Boom Bap hip-hop. I am struggling to set the volume levels correctly and achieve a proper sound.
To be more precise: in my monitoring headphones, my beat sounds great and loud, but Youlean Loudness Meter shows only -16 LUFS and clipping at +0.9. Later, when I listen on AirPods Pro 2 or in my car, the beat sounds completely dull and lifeless; it lacks punch and fullness. It sounds flat and overloaded. If I try to increase the volume of the drums, it results in heavy clipping.
I am, of course, utilizing compressors, a limiter, and EQs in Ableton.
Could you recommend a reliable guide on mastering and gain staging? In addition to video tutorials, I would greatly appreciate any practical tips, techniques, or rules of thumb for achieving a rich, punchy sound. I would prefer to avoid overly complex, highly technical content. I simply want to understand the appropriate volume levels for different elements of a beat and how to ensure proper sound translation across various devices, rather than just in monitoring headphones.
Thank you in advance for your advice and comments.

[u/rajkaos]

It’s really hard to get a good mix in headphones. Even though it’s an investment, getting some studio monitors will be worth it. I was in a similar situation with my mixes, and I was lucky enough to use my tax return to get a good set of monitors on sale. It was the most expensive piece of gear that I own, but it was so worth it. My mixes sound so much better now.

[u/Ahfekz → u/rajkaos]

You have to know your cans though and what frequencies sound like when more robust (or which tend to be omitted/suppressed) outside of them. Reference monitors help early on when you’re subject to coloring your own creations in your head for sure though.