r/aislop • u/TheVeiledRuby • Aug 09 '26
found on Instagram I would rather date the “simp” than the guy with “aura”
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u/JD_Kreeper Aug 09 '26
"aura"
looks inside
an inconsiderate asshole.
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u/SquidTheRidiculous Aug 09 '26 edited Aug 09 '26
Funny how the masculine ideal always aligns with what the ruling class wants from men. Surely this is women's fault somehow. Definitely not the fault of those advertising to men telling them lacking empathy is the most cool anti-cringe thing possible.
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u/fajnu20 Aug 09 '26
Patriarchy is a miserable system
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u/SquidTheRidiculous Aug 09 '26
Tell your friends who see the system and think it still puts them at the top somehow.
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u/Same_Comment4702 Aug 09 '26
I would use the word "punctuality" rather than "empathy" in this scenario since the ai slop shows that the man to the right doesn’t value his date’s time
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u/Alphasaft Aug 09 '26
It's also empathy because it can be stressing/unnerving/infuriating to wait on a date for someone that doesn't come. So the slop is just him telling you "I don't care because that makes me look cool", which is basically a lack of empathy
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u/bbyxmadi Aug 09 '26
15 minutes late and the entitlement? 🚩🚩🚩
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u/awstream Aug 09 '26
These "alpha male" traits/aura will be seen by anyone normal as being an asshole. It only appeals to their fellow "alpha male", they definitely should date each other and leave the rest of the world alone.
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u/SoManyDeads Aug 09 '26
15 mins late means they don't respect your time as a person. Doesn't matter their gender, I don't want to be around people that don't respect my time.
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u/Apathetic_Villainess Aug 09 '26
That's the point. It's meant to show the woman he doesn't respect her or her time. It's supposed to be a way of establishing his dominance over her. Nobody seems to hate women more than straight men.
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u/MyPussyMeowsAtMe Aug 09 '26
And I would bet some good dollars that if the woman was 15 minutes late, these alpha dudes would be throwing an absolute tantrum about it.
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u/Ashura_98 Aug 09 '26
Unless they give me a valid reason, I'm walking the fuck away. People who do this on purpose need to be stoop up more often tbh.
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u/No_Juice7005 Aug 09 '26
15 mins late and she’s still not there? You’re still a simp
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u/Material-Skirt3167 Aug 09 '26
If they are both late then they are just on time
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u/Dirkdeking Aug 09 '26
It's pretty normal at least on breeze for dates to come late I have noticed. Not by that much, 5 to 10 minutes. Now I noticed that I also care less about being punctual.
And it also depends on distance travelled. If you need to go to a different city by rain you tend to come early like the first guy because you plan for eventualities(like the train not working). If it is cycling distance then you leave a lot later and can come a bit too late due to optimism.
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u/AbortionHoagie Aug 09 '26
Where is the guy that arrives 3 minutes early and doesn't even bother with a text message, but rather sneaks up behind her with two drinks in hand?! Kids these days are simply tactless, skill issues all around
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u/Impossible_Tea_7032 Aug 09 '26
in my day we just called it 'being nice to women'
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u/Apathetic_Villainess Aug 09 '26
Simp means they actually like and respect the woman. And that's a horror to the alpha males who need women to believe their only value is determined by their fuckability, which the alphas should be in charge of.
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u/greydog1316 Aug 09 '26
He already ordered and received his appetiser and wine, though. That's pretty rude.
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u/eltejon Aug 09 '26
He's thoughtfully pre-gaming, so he won't hog their mozzarella sticks later.
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u/JD_Kreeper Aug 09 '26
One is a twink and the other is a bear.
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u/BellacosePlayer Aug 09 '26
ngl looks like 22 year old me and I'm absolutely a "get their early, text where the table is" kinda guy
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u/Head_Bread_3431 Aug 09 '26
women definitely appreciate punctuality. being late doesn’t increase your attractiveness
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u/Impossible_Tea_7032 Aug 09 '26
counterpoint: he spent those fifteen minutes growing the facial hair
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u/bigdumbdago Aug 09 '26
don’t piss me off
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u/The_Pastmaster Aug 09 '26
Funny thing is that the Aura guys is what appeals to other guys. Simps are what women in general are appealed by (Assuming they have good hygiene and are genuinely kind.)
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u/Imaginary-Pin580 Aug 09 '26
Being late is never nice. Be on time for things… everyone like punctuality
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u/Suhva Aug 09 '26
And if you're running late, let your date know that you're on your way and looking forward to it.
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u/Expensive-Hat4138 Aug 09 '26
Not defending the OP but sometimes shit happens.
Like, not all of us are neurotypical and can function like one.
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u/Apathetic_Villainess Aug 09 '26
Neurospicy women don't get as much allowance as neurospicy men. They learn how to work around it. Multiple alarms and reminders, setting the clocks ahead of the correct time, etc.
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u/NotAFantasyAuthor Aug 09 '26
If being a douchebag is aura, than im sure whoever generated rhis image has more aura than the entirety of the Solo Levelling series
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u/lllllllIIIIIllI Aug 09 '26
This is usually when I’d turn it into yaoi but I don’t think AI slop deserves fanart
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u/TheVeiledRuby Aug 09 '26
It’s perfectly fine to draw your own version of ai slop. You’re not wasting water and actually using your skills
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u/Less-Parsnip-7076 Aug 09 '26
I thought we left cringe alpha male bullshit in 2022
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u/Apathetic_Villainess Aug 09 '26
Insecure men will never leave it.
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u/Pretend-Literature35 Aug 09 '26
yes because the simp is a man that you can dominate. The aura guy is an asshole, sure.
But what about a real man in between? A man who is respectful and courteous but who also has confidence and self reapect. That isn't popular because the aura archetype you can hate on and the simp archetype you can make fun of.
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u/hypnos_surf Aug 09 '26
Being late because of a legit reason is one thing, being late thinking I’m desperate is another.
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u/what_a_slutty_whore Aug 09 '26
I got inoperable prostate cancer from viewing this image, thanks Obama
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u/famous1astwords Aug 09 '26
What does this even mean? What kind of shit agenda was the OOP holding to?
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u/TheVeiledRuby Aug 09 '26
This post was basically your average red pill toxic masculinity agenda. OOP was encouraging men to be the guy with aura instead of the simp
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u/JustinJektor Aug 09 '26
Inaccurate meme. Being 15 minutes late isnt aura. Being 5 minutes early is aura.
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u/napalmnacey Aug 09 '26
“Simp” all the way. What a sweetie. I bet he watches all the fun shows and knows the names of the actors for all the Doctors. ☺️
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u/DasLeuchtfeuer Aug 09 '26
If you text me "I'm here" 15 minutes late with zero warning.. well let's just say "I'm not" anymore
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u/Alert-Parsnip5540 Aug 09 '26
As a guy, i show up 15 minutes early. That's called respect. If she's 15 minutes late without a message tho? I'm gone.
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u/The_Book-JDP Aug 09 '26
If you arrive 15 minutes late know that I’ve already ordered, eaten, paid the check, and left. Before leaving though, I would slip my waitress/waiter and the manager or owner a $50 to flip you off when your dumbass arrives. “This is from the woman you left waiting. She’s gone by the way but paid me to give you this 🖕. Do have the evening you deserve.” Then they walk away.
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u/Frosk-meme Aug 09 '26
I hate it when people are late because they dont care to be on time. (Not talking about genuine delays or it happening rarely)
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u/Relevant-Bicycle-851 Aug 09 '26
And then the “aura” guy posts on truth social that women are too self centered and don’t want to date him
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u/WendlersEditor Aug 09 '26
Aura farming by showing up late everywhere, not paying my bills (more money to invest 🧠), and not brushing my teeth (the natural oils in your gums repair cavities, and that's just how they're supposed to smell).
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u/TheSkeletalNerd Aug 09 '26
Only issue I have with the simp is that he asks if she’s still coming after showing up early. Letting them know you’re early is fine, but the follow up makes it seem like you’re rushing.
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u/LegitimateGift1792 Aug 09 '26
Who the fuck orders a bottle of wine and an appetizer for themselves 15 mins before the date is supposed to start? Date is half over when the other person arrives on time.
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u/Plenty_Alfalfa8826 Aug 09 '26
Left seems clingy and desperate, right seems a little uninterested and disrespectful.
I'd prefer something in between the two: Arrives between 5 mins early and 5 mins late with an "I'm here :)"
Relaxed/low pressure, but a little excited, and respectful.
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u/Zealousideal_Side987 Aug 09 '26
I'm a normal person if I'm free I reply free if I'm busy or any works on hand obviously I won't be looking after my phone .
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u/broadwhim Aug 09 '26
i’m always early and my gf is always late, she has negative aura for this. walking into the movies after they already start and all, showing up late to events, who in their right mind believes being late is aura
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u/Apathetic_Villainess Aug 09 '26
To be fair, as a US citizen, being late to the movies means having to watch fewer ads than everyone else.
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u/Single_Lifeguard Aug 09 '26
lol is every comment a bot? we’re literally in r/aislop why is everyone acting like these are real people
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u/CycloneDusk Aug 09 '26 edited Aug 09 '26
i abhor that this is a factor in dating, of all things...
but what we're seeing represented here is a negotiation tactic.
well, that is to say, sometimes it's a tactic, but other times people just kind of do it without realizing it:
people interpret it as 'confidence' when you act like something is not important to you.
like, if you go to a car dealership having another option in your back pocket that you'll follow through on if these people jerk you around, it subconsciously changes your mannerisms. people--especially people in SALES--intuitively recognize that you're someone who will just walk away if THEY don't work to earn YOUR interest.
it's kind of ironic. and also just really fucking sucks, that it's easier--for instance--for you to ace an interview and get a job offer if you already have a job and DON'T presently need to get hired as soon as possible.
... i guess another way to put it is nonchalance?
but mindfully choosing on-purpose to treat an interpersonal emotional bond as if it's a business negotiation is FUCKING GROSS. RELATIONSHIPS ARE NOT MEANT TO BE TRANSACTIONAL!!
i'm sure there are quite a few people who DON'T get the job when they have a job interview, get called back in and find out it's not a job offer but a second round of interviews, then get called AGAIN for a third round of interviews, only to tell the recruiter, "yeah.... nah. hard pass. you people are wasting my time at this point. you're welcome to call me when you've made up your minds" ... but most of the people i know who did get hired had done exactly that. because it fucking ... tweaks the brains of a recruiter. they think they have all the cards and all the power, and they see someone who they thought was in the palm of their hand like their little plaything slipping away, then something snaps inside them. suddenly the fact that they might "LOSE" in some nebulous way reframes the whole situation that they should be the ones desperate. A recruiter desperate to hire, rather than an applicant desperate to Be Hired.
the last several happy relationships i've been in also only started when i had decided i'm not interested in seeking a relationship x.x; and the two before my current one, i'm still on good terms with them and we still talk on the regular. they became really good friends to me and i became their wing-<creature>.
(even if a relationship doesn't last it doesn't have to be a bad experience, y'know? i'm glad to have dated them for a bit!)
and it wasn't because i was showing up fifteen minutes late for a date. it was more like ... because i was communicating without expectations, without any unrequited emotions, without pleading or yearning or anything like that, there was no interference between us.
But the point is, when people do this on purpose, when they CHOOSE to act in a way that they intend to actually seem DISMISSIVE, and they furthermore make that choice with a motive in mind, that is manipulation, and it's disgusting.
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u/ze_existentialist Aug 09 '26
Simp should break up with aura boy, if that guy can't do something as simple as arriving on time he don't deserve you.
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u/SpastikPenguin Aug 09 '26
Who orders food before their date shows up? That’s interesting lol.
Still prefer him to the alpha.
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u/Pinball_and_Proust Aug 09 '26
Do you want a bf whose entire life is you? Maybe the late guy was at the gym, finishing a book, getting a great hair cut, moving his nice car for street cleaning.
A bf whose entire life is you has nothing to share with you, in terms of his life and lifetsyle.
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u/TheVeiledRuby Aug 09 '26
That’s not the point. What’s important is being 15 minutes late to a date is rude. You’re not respecting the other persons time if you willingly chose to be 15 minutes late. It would be understandable if he texted his date saying he was in traffic or something. When you’re about to go on a date, now’s not the time to engage in your hobbies or chores
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u/panda_canyon Aug 09 '26
I don't want to blow minds here but anyone is free to buy a leather jacket.
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u/Pristine-Roll3895 Aug 10 '26
Seems kind of wild to me to show up more than 15 minutes early to a dinner and already have ordered a starter without knowing their ETA.
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u/Chaosdirge7388 Aug 11 '26
The simp guy just has ADHD and if he didn't get there a half an hour before he would have forgot he even had a date.
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u/drillgorg Aug 09 '26
Plot twist: these two are on a date with each other.