We’re all familiar with the obvious ones: the breasts, butt, waist, pretty face. But beyond physical attributes, what subtle, unusual, or often overlooked details do you find appealing in a woman?

I decided love was never meant for me when I realized:

1. I was putting significantly more effort than folks on the other side in terms of fitness, clothes, skincare etc.
2. Single girls I met always ended up being more into my friends than me
3. Friends were giving dares to their female friends to pretend they are into me.
4. Friends mostly excluded me when hanging out with female friends in a group setting.
5. I always put more effort with most of my platonic female friends. Thankfully, I have a couple of good female friends. The fact that even normal friendship with the other side mostly from my end was awakening.
6. I was always happier hanging out with my guy friends, doing my hobbies and travelling the world than with any of my female friends.

Im thinking of upgrading if my trade in value is good... but i suck at haggling and asking for add ons. It's like we both know you're gonna throw stuff in so just throw stuff in... but alas we must play the silly game.

So...i ask. What should be some things I try and get thrown into the deal?

Like something you feel many men have given up on, or something they should wake up and start focusing on.

I’m a gay man and I find that male straight friends act differently with me than other guys. They like to hug, flirt and be touchy. This is a generalization of course but I’m curious if others notice this and if you do this, why ?

I have a beautiful one year old baby boy and was recently thinking about how I wanna parent him so he grows up to be a good guy and also likes me and doesnt have any mommy issues. I wanna know what did you like that your mom did growing up that you appreciated then or have now realised was a good thing she did for you. Is there anything you wish your mom did differently?

I swear texting women is so cooked bro. I used an emoji and felt the whole conversation shift.

Like, do I have to pretend to be some disinterested, stoic guy to keep her hooked? It feels like the moment I show personality through text, or use an emoji, or whatever, they don’t want to talk anymore.

It’s annoying.

How do you keep her engaged while being yourself?

Is there hope for this?

I'm talking about physically opposite, not personality. So I'm a skinny guy and always had a thing for thick girls. By thick i mean kinda bigger, have some size to their body, not overweight or anything. At the beginning I thought maybe I just happened to be wired that way for no reason, but I began to suspect that my preference maybe has something to do with my body type, because one I see a hot girl but she has a body type closer to mine, I always think maybe if i was a hunk guy with substantial bigger frame than her, maybe I would love to be with her and dominate her with my body, but when she has same body type as mine, I almost lose attraction. I also think this may apply to height. A taller guy might be more likely to be attracted to shorter girls just like how a skinny guy might be more attracted to thick girls and a jacked guy more attracted to thin girls. Is this true in your personal experience?

My dad just passed away and I find myself being strong when I don't want to be. Like I'm not allowing myself the time I need to properly process everything. 40 years of conditioning will do that, but right now, being a stable support structure is exhausting.

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The thing is, I'm upset with myself for how well I'm holding it together while knowing I don't want to.

***Thank you all for the advice. It's been a day but getting better.

Assuming normal wear without any sloppy accidents, how many days' wear do you get from a suit before sending it to the cleaners'?

F26 and more than a bit of a homebody. I've always been introverted, but over the past 2.5 years I really put myself out there and was going out all the time. I had a big group of friends and was going out a couple times a week, but I also felt exhausted all the time. More than being physically exhausted from going out, I was exhausted by the social politics of a big friend group and everyone talking shit about each other behind their backs. Over the past 5 months I've taken a massive step back, I even left that group, and have been focusing on myself and finding a new job (starting at my new workplace this week!).

I have a ton of hobbies, they're just very introverted. I love video games, making art, music, reading, etc. I just haven't felt the social energy to go out the way I used to and maintain enmeshed, codependent friendships anymore.

How do people feel about women who are more introverted and who don't have a ton of friends? Should I wait to date until I feel I'm at a place where I can start nurturing more platonic friendships again before dating? I'm alternative, lots of tattoos, and I get quite a bit of interest from men when I do go out, but I also don't want someone to feel held back by my introversion once they get to know me.

My other worry is that I don't have much money. I do have my own apartment to myself (1br) and a car, but not much leftover after those payments to do anything fancy.

I work in a place and I have one coworker with I always joke with. However sometimes he ask me question about where's my wife,children,etc. I always just brush it off. I never told him im gay cause I feel like he will stop talking to me. What should I do? Should I tell him?

My wife gets upset that my work jeans and other not ready to be cleaned clothes get piled on my “clothing bench” with my work boots and bag next to it. Where do you put your not ready to be cleaned work items? I’m not putting my jeans on my clean clothes cause they are dirty from work.

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I had a manager at my previous job who seemed determined to cause problems for me. Eventually, things escalated to the point where the company started taking action against me, and it felt like he was trying to build a case to get me fired.

I managed to find a much better job, so things worked out for me career-wise. But my old company is a major player in my industry, and because of what happened, I feel like I've ruined my relationship with a company that could have been important for my future.

That's why I still feel angry and want revenge. It's not just about having a toxic boss. I feel like he damaged something valuable in my career, and he gets to walk away without any consequences.

For those who've been through something similar, how did you move on? Does this feeling eventually go away?

I feel this is a bit different than the overpacked “what happened to the smartest person/most popular person” question. But there are some people who just sort of come across as “cool”. This can manifest as the top athlete or smartest person, but also could just be that one person who is friends with everyone and whom other guys want to emulate. Think the cool theatre kid, or the cool musician or the cool student council president.

My example is a rather tragic one… I went to school with a guy who was big into theatre, was a football player and had a rock band. Sort of effortlessly cool and popular across all groups, and was the guy you could tell the principal even liked talking to. He had a freak stroke during his first year of college and just never recovered, and it sort of makes me sad when I run into him when I return to my hometown.

Any… non tragic examples? Did that aura of cool follow them outside of high school?

Be it an ex, someone they’ve dated a few times but there was no chemistry, FWBs, one night stands, etc etc.

Alright fellas this may be a bit of a weird one but I (26M today) got divorced last year and have been out of the game for a bit. I don’t really favor the idea of dating apps because the few times I used them gave me 0 hope for finding a woman I’d actually want a relationship with so I’m going to stick to meeting them organically. That being said I thought going to dance halls might be a good start to meet people and have some fun. I’m wanting to learn how to do two step because that seems to be a popular style down here in Texas but I have absolutely no clue where to start with it