Why didn't you say so?

[u/TheNectarineDiaries]

Best medical advice I ever got was to bring a man to your appointments

[u/CockamouseGoesWee]

I'm a trans man and it's been interesting because doctors are starting to take me seriously now. No more infantilized talk about just taking ibuprofen when I am vomiting from the pain.

[u/Bipedal_pedestrian → u/CockamouseGoesWee]

I find trans people’s experiences with sexism really fascinating. Y’all are the only people who truly get to experience the issue from both sides during your lifetime, so you’re in a unique position to compare and contrast!

[u/Masteryasha → u/Bipedal_pedestrian]

The fun thing is that some of us get the treatment even before transitioning. I've always had a high-pitched voice, and used feminine affectations. The most direct and obvious was when I worked for an on-campus IT department. Professors would call in to get help, and a not uncommon thing was them just refusing to listen to me over the phone. In order to resolve it, I'd have to go on-site so they could see how I looked. At that point, they'd start griping to me about how "that young lady" didn't know anything, and nothing I had said would possibly help. Then, I would do exactly the same things I asked them to do over the phone, it would get fixed, and they'd gush about how they're so happy that I took it over from "her" and actually fix the problem. You just can't get through to some people if they think you're a woman.

It's always funny to me that so many people insist that trans ladies have no idea what misogyny is really like, when we've been experiencing it from the day we became social beings and just didn't get the protection of people who saw the treatment as a real issue until we transitioned (and even then it's hard to get people to stop telling us we're just men trying to make ourselves victims. Which seems pretty sexist by itself.)

[u/crimsonfang1729 → u/Masteryasha]

Yeah I've had similar experiences. I haven't started hormones and have had experiences where people have acted on a really condescending manner and then they either see me in person or I drop my voice (which I hate doing with a flaming passion) and then suddenly they start taking me seriously. The other issue I've had to deal with is the catcalling. Just ew.

[u/Pwacname → u/Masteryasha]

Holy shit. That’s got to be a mindfuck. It’s one thing when they just ignore you because of sexism, but just having them go and be all compliant once they think you’re a guy, I would’ve probably spontaneously combusted with rage if that had been me

[u/Elnathi → u/Masteryasha]

Trans men and nonbinary people who talk about misogyny also get called "just men trying to make ourselves victims" - amazing how they use the same playbook on all of us

[u/TrumpDesWillens → u/Masteryasha]

Those old academics can be very sexist and no one says anything cause they're geniuses in their field. I once had a top in his field academic in a room full of other visiting professors and in front of a few women undergrads that a woman's brain is proportional to her breasts and then laugh thinking everyone else would find it funny. I was unfortunately half asleep during the conference but even then I woke-up and was like "wtf?" The real mindfuck was that no one spoke-up against him, I don't expect the young undergrads to say anything cause we were just young people, but the older distinguished profs. didn't say anything even the women ones.