So, real answer - meet them through hobbies. If you see a woman at the gym regularly, make occasional small talk. Ask if she needs help but wait for the answer and respect it (unlike in the comic). If you're into gaming, go to a local game store and ask for an appropriate gaming group to join (DnD group, Magic, Warhammer, board games, whatever). Join a book club. Make friends with women - treat them like real human beings with interests and desires and autonomy. And when you do make friends, don't assume it'll lead to a relationship - use the friends to meet their friends. That's how I met my wife. My roommate took me to his coworker's party, and that coworker's friend was there, and started talking with that friend of my roommate's coworker and exchanged contact info and then flirted online for a few months before I finally asked her out.
Also, you absolutely can ask women out at random places, just accept rejection gracefully. Most guys don't, and that's what creates these problems.
This is basically the advice I would give to high school me forever ago. I've switched locations, environments and countries so many times and each time this remains the surefire way of making friends and meeting people. The biggest thing is you've got to be genuine, your going to an event for YOU to have fun, not as some kind of secret lifehack to meeting women.
your going to an event for YOU to have fun, not as some kind of secret lifehack to meeting women.
This is so key, you gotta be doing stuff you enjoy. People (of all genders) can sense when you aren't interested in the activity. Plus, if you're having fun, you'll be more relaxed and confident, which is attractive.
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u/monkwrenv2 7d ago
So, real answer - meet them through hobbies. If you see a woman at the gym regularly, make occasional small talk. Ask if she needs help but wait for the answer and respect it (unlike in the comic). If you're into gaming, go to a local game store and ask for an appropriate gaming group to join (DnD group, Magic, Warhammer, board games, whatever). Join a book club. Make friends with women - treat them like real human beings with interests and desires and autonomy. And when you do make friends, don't assume it'll lead to a relationship - use the friends to meet their friends. That's how I met my wife. My roommate took me to his coworker's party, and that coworker's friend was there, and started talking with that friend of my roommate's coworker and exchanged contact info and then flirted online for a few months before I finally asked her out.
Also, you absolutely can ask women out at random places, just accept rejection gracefully. Most guys don't, and that's what creates these problems.