2026 vs 1886 [OC]

[u/tabithajaneart]

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[u/Metatality]

I dunno, I think it's a good idea to represent reality up front, because any men that are going to have a problem with them "not being big enough" are men you want to filter out early anyway.

It's not like keeping them around a bit just for it to come up later is helpful.

[u/amortized-poultry → u/Metatality]

any men that are going to have a problem with them "not being big enough" are men you want to filter out early anyway.

Men and women are both allowed to have physical preferences, it doesn't necessarily make them bad partners.

[u/Metatality → u/amortized-poultry]

Agreed, but it's still a bad match up, I'm not advocating for throwing them in a volcano like the other person, but they should still both look for other people better suited to them.

[u/amortized-poultry → u/Metatality]

Oh I see, so you're saying thst if the man will have an issue with a set of breasts, it's best to get that out of the way early?

[u/Metatality → u/amortized-poultry]

Yeah, and any other physical traits that you aren't really going to be able to change, just be up front about the situation.

Stuff like weight or hair is fairly changeable, so if you're hiding or misleading that as a temporary measure, but you're actually willing to change it, then sure go ahead. You can lose or gain some weight, you can cut or dye your hair, you can turn the illusion into reality if you want. Weight loss isn't easy, but it's certainly doable.

Stuff like eye color, skin tone, height, and breast/penis size are not changing without extensive surgery, which the majority of people either can't afford or aren't willing to take the risks and the recovery time. They're not really something anyone should plan around changing for the sake of your partners taste, nor should they expect anyone else to change such traits for them. If those don't line up with a person's tastes then it just isn't going to work out in the end, so you might as well know early.

Women lying about their bust or Men lying about their height as if the truth isn't going to come up fairly quickly in any actual relationship is just silly.

I also think a lot of people just repeat the tastes they were told they should like by popular culture and would have a much better time if they indulged in the broader experience of human diversity, but that's a whooooooole other conversation.

[u/rekabis → u/Metatality]

height

In terms of proportional body parts and a natural-looking height, this isn’t even possible with surgery. Those with dwarfism who get limb-lengthening surgery look like a howler monkey in terms of those limb lengths - comically short torso, long limbs. The main reason why it works for them is not to make them look better, but to make them more functional in a civilization where pretty much all infrastructure or machinery is geared to average height.

And the pain involved in those limb-lengthening techniques is immense. You literally have your bones broken - and kept broken - for many months at a time as the break is slowly teased apart so that bone is encouraged to grow in that gap. And the absolute best you can aim for is a bone that is maybe about 20% longer than before. The average is 12-18%. It’s not going to magically bring you up to the 6 feet of height (the 666 rule that is so popular among women these days) unless you were just shy of that in the first place.