r/cuboulder • u/Extension-Role1940 • 3d ago
Does anyone else have no social life
im a transfer sophomore and I havent been to 1 party or 1 hangout all year i just rec center and study then scroll my phone repeat everyday Is this anyone else or am i total lost cause. sometimes i get jealous seeing people have fun
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u/Helpful-Ad6269 3d ago
In my degree program, it seems pretty normal for people to be isolated just because of the workload. A lot of us hardly get to see the sun, it feels like. Some people manage to find others in the program early on to trauma bond with, but if you didn’t it’s kinda hard to see anyone consistently enough to make real friends in my experience.
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u/Altinvfinance 3d ago
nah you're not a lost cause lol. transferring in as a sophomore is lowkey the hardest way to make friends because everyone already found their dorm people freshman year
if you're at the rec anyway try a club sport or an intramural, way easier than walking into a random party. when i was around boulder the outdoor club trips were where people actually talked to each other
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u/MoneyArrival4895 3d ago
No you’re not alone, I’m a freshman here and half of the time all I do is study or spend time outside. Having a hard time connecting with people tbh.
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u/Extension-Role1940 2d ago
Thanks atleast we're in this together. My freshman year I also didnt know anyone, I thought changing schools would help with it but I brought it with me. I hope you can turn it around soon
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u/MrBlazington420 3d ago
Let's all get together and throw a party!
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u/FunApprehensive3156 1d ago
Im down.
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u/MrBlazington420 1d ago
Spooky theme? I can DJ.
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u/Elegant-Beach-1821 2h ago
I’m not exaggerating when I say this is a great way to do this! Put the details in a couple of group chats and talk to some people in your classes/major
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u/The_Overlander 3d ago
Yeah. I tried joining clubs and shit too, but just never made any connections
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u/Unworthy_Worth 2d ago
What’s stopping you from improving your social life?
Are you interested in meeting new people?
Growing a community of friends doesn’t happen on its own.
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u/Ok_Prompt7112 7h ago
Not alone. I’m also a transfer student and now I’m graduating next semester lonely asf.
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u/kenzakan 3d ago
You'll have to put yourself out there and be open to trying things you wouldn't be interested in by yourself. Building connection takes a lot of time and consistency
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u/Extension-Role1940 2d ago
I know it does so i have no idea how people had already made so many friends when school just started
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u/Glittering_Trade_434 3d ago
Try theatre? They rehearse all the time so they’re always socializing. Set building, stage management, dare I say acting. I would think intramural sports and ski and hiking clubs hang-out often as well. Get a part time job? Built-in friends in the workplace.
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u/Extension-Role1940 2d ago
I've never done anything theatre, skiing interests me but ive never actually been skiing im from honolulu. I dont think people who do go skiing would want to take me on
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u/christianarguello 1d ago
The time you spend scrolling on your phone could be spent talking to people. You have to put yourself out there. It might feel uncomfortable, but no one’s going to hand you a social life on a silver platter. You have to make it happen. Having a social life after college is way harder, so take advantage and develop those skills now. Take the initiative.
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u/Human-Situation9944 32m ago
I feel you so hard! Going through the same thing :/ ive tried 5+ clubs no such luck. It'll happen eventually in sure.
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u/BrickLayer217 3d ago
clubs clubs clubs go and actualy talk to people before and after talk in discord too!
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u/BrickLayer217 3d ago
go to gsa even if your not queer its real fun :3 i make snacks each week so just come for that if you want :3
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u/stacksmasher 3d ago
That’s on you dude…
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u/Extension-Role1940 2d ago
Yeah i'm not trying to dodge accountability for this i've always been more introverted and not good at socializing but I go entire days without speaking to people now its getting to ridiculous even for me
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u/BronSNTHM 3d ago
Sometimes to party, one must ask where the party is at