Irregardless of instinct variation, I find an embarassing amount of them attractive. They can come off as extremely polite, cautious or aggressive at first, I don't mind that whole process at all. Then they start to test the water by being more open about their feelings and as an so8, I'm a huge sucker for mental dependency. They could tell me about an awful teacher they had back in middle school and all of my protective instincts would come out to defend their side.

Once you're in their inner circle, they really trust you with everything. Their real personality starts to shine more. They tell you secrets they'd never share with others, even with their family. They yap about their nerdy interests a lot more, I know like 4 e6s and 3 of them are total geeks. It's obvious atp that I have a soft spot for nerds.

One so6 I know has Se PolR so they're technically my supervisee and GODDD I love when they glaze my Se base and always trust my logic. I can't even begin to describe how fucking good it feels being an SLE e8 and being close to an LII e6. It's like being in Willy Wonka's factory and you're a starving child who never even tasted breastmilk in your life.

If I haven't made it clear enough, I have a massive crush on that so6 and I'd definitely have asked them out 10000 times by now if I was their type. Too bad they're not into assertive triads.

I figured out how to edit post flair in mobile. Anyone proud???

I think out of the 5 love languages, mine is words of affirmation. I feel most loved when given reassurance through words. However, I express love towards family and friends through acts of service. I am rather bad at choosing words of comfort.

Anyway, it's suspicious when somebody does something for me without expecting anything in return. I feel like doubt never goes away.

[how to edit flair in mobile?? i hate mobile reddit)

Yall let's talk, this sub is so quiet lately or is it just me? Mention your type and why you've picked up on this hobby or why you want to do that hobby.

My current hobby is doing creative and sfx makeup. I've done mostly fairy-inspired looks and a butterfly one. I've also tried bruises with a basic eyeshadow palette and a wound using tissue and glue. I've been wanting to buy actual materials for making prosthetics but I feel like it would be a waste unless I make content or money out of it LOL. But I might buy better paint and brushes instead because right now I just use my regular/everyday makeup.

What I want to explore next is latte art. I feel like it would be easy for me because I just have to memorize and follow the pattern.

When reading about 6s vs 5s, it was written in The Enneagram Institute (some trust the website and some don't, I know- the books weren't enough) that 6s "get frantic trying to find something to trust precisely because they do not trust their own minds to come to meaningful conclusions". Is that correct? How does that work? And how would that work with a Fi dom?

Would that include making choices?

I'm a sp6 with a 7th wing. 6w7 descriptions seem way more personal and resonating to me, so up until now I've had no doubt in describing myself as a 6w7... The problem lays in the fact that when reading the e7 description on it's own (in some translated naranjo book) I've found myself almost off-put at how the e7 thought process and behaviour is described LOL (as in, the mere thought of it being *mine* made me feel kind of insulted). Meanwhile, I found bits and pieces of the e5 description very relatable... especially sp5, while sp7s are just Totally Not Me!!!

Am I supposed to relate to sp7 to have a 7th wing (as a sp/so)(am I even supposed to worry about the subtypes that much??? please help I'm new)(also so7 or sx7 doesn't rlly sound like me either...)?? I know that sounds like a stupid question to ask, as the most logical way to go about this would be to just say im a 6w5 if i dont relate to e7, but I don't see myself as a 6w5 whatsoever.

...Sorry if this doesn't make sense, I'm willing to answer any clarifying questions to the best of my ability!!!

Posting this here since I posted this on another sub and a couple comments mentioned type 6, so I was curious about what thoughts 6s had on this

Original post:

“Can a 9w1 have a pretty strong aversion to being weak and powerless, (while also feeling like it’s kinda true), or is that a sign of a mistype?

Like an aversion to being soft, easily swayed, flimsy, easily trampled by others, incapable of doing things, wavering,

Wanting to keep their more personal and vulnerable emotions bottled up and also sometimes not attempting things where failure could be a sign of weakness because they don’t want to show to others and to themselves that they are weaker than they want to be. Not necessarily because they think others will take advantage but because it being evident or the fact that they are this way (even without anyone but themselves to witness it) in the first place feels really humiliating

Kinda relating to type 8 in that regard (but that’s the only thing they really relate to type 8 about)

Or feeling like the situation of a disintegrated 8 is somewhat relatable, except it’s like their entire life, not just when they’re disintegrated, and maybe unfortunately baked into their personality whether they like it or not, plus they probably feel more chill about being in this state than your average 8. Which itself feels like a sign of weakness

Not really getting how others can be so open about being vulnerable when it’s so revealing. Finding it hard to ever imagine truly 100% opening up about negative things to people because the likely reaction would be pity, which is something that feels unbearable, not only because they see you differently, but because it seems to confirm an underlying truth, that you’re acted on more than you act, that no matter how much you want to be an agent your own weakness in your personality doesn’t permit it as much as you wish it to

Maybe wanting to have others open up to you and then you comforting them, and that could give you a feeling of being the strong one who is capable and someone others depend on. But then that fantasy also seems kinda embarrassing and laughable because since when have you ever been that kind of strong figure who doesn’t run away at signs of emotional distress from those you care about, to both of your detriment? Yet another way you are weak

Whereas the thought of opening up to others is maybe something you want very deeply but maybe it’s only possible if the other person wasn’t pitying you and didn’t treat you like some fragile case that could fall apart at any second or someone who needs a rescuer. But that feels very unlikely to happen

But still also feeling like 9w1 is more fitting than 9w8?

Does this sound like it could be 9w1 or not really?”

Edit: grammar

Typology correlations.

Ive decided to do frequent questions on here! I have rarely posted before,,,lol. Id just like to be more involved in this community.

So, corrections. Ive seen most people say correlations are absolute. And everything must correlate, but I was wondering, do correlations REALLY matter that much besides the obvious ones?

Because you certainly wont have certain enneagrams typed as obscure things..

But my question would be, can you have an ENTP E6? I've seen this discourse on other platforms and the more I read, the more these people seem uninformed and everyones just confused!

Now I learned Cognitive functions and id like to learn the classical Jung system certainly. But I can't help myself to draw towards ENTP as its a type I have found myself through Cognitive functions.

Now I myself, I am SO6 I believe. Though I do heavily relate to E7 and E3 aswell! Hah and nearly every other enneagram...

But- I was wondering, can specifically SO6 BE Entp?

Currently typology profile is this, please give me some feedback! SO6, 6w7, 613 LFVE, ILE, RLUEI, ENTP

Does this all work, let me know how strict correlations are.

Skeptical on RLUEI and ENTP.

Hello everyone! I recently have found out I was HORRIBLY mistyped. 😅 after some assistance and endless reading, I have came to the conclusion I am infact SO631, 6w5.

I was wondering, what would the textbook profile of an So6 look like? Just would like to see if my own full profile lines up!

One more question, if any of you guys know an So6 how do they present themselves and act?

Because I know it's silly, but I can be far more critical and unfortunately narcissistic. But every stereotype I see is a docile rule follower? I know it's just stereotypes but I would like to know any other So6 and their behaviors!

Let me know any facts you have about So6, please

Hi! Thanks in advance for your time!

I’m an enneagram sx/sp 9 in and on again off again with an enneagram sp/so6. I know this may make me look bad, but hoping to get some empathy and either a verdict (yes/no this won’t work), or ideas for how to approach this situation moving forward to repair the relationship.

We’ve been on again and off again, mostly because the 6 wants his next relationship to be his last. He appears very avoidant - at first he wanted to be exclusive but once we getting closer, he started to feel anxious. Eventually we broke up but then he got really anxious and tried to get back with me, only to break it off again. It was messy and hurtful and we both said hurtful things to each other.

A month or two later we ran into each other again and confessed we still had feelings for each other and wanted to try being friends. That led to hooking up etc. you know the drill. Now we’re back to where we were except one horrible hiccup was the day after we hooked up, my friends ran into him and ignored him when he waved, which he was really hurt by. I hadn’t told them we were trying to get back together. I think he felt pretty positively about us until that point.

Now he’s experiencing doubts about us again but isn’t sure about ending things. I’m experience a lot of anxiety and have PTSD and panic disorder, which I finally got medication for and it’s helping me.

The only reason I’m still ruminating on this is because we’ve told each other that we love each other. We care about each other deeply. We’re very attracted to each other. The sex is the best either of us had. We have a lot of shared values and dreams. So I feel like I’m missing something.

I’ve asked him to tell me why* he’s having doubts - has he fallen out of love? Is he not attracted? Is there someone else? He says no to all of that.

So - can I get a verdict (yes/no, and preferably why), or advice on how to repair? Please also share your type and if you’re older, let me know! I would love to hear from folks who’ve been in long successful relationships! :)

My partner is a great example of this, someone who I can count on being straightforward to who hurt me.
Though they are Trans, and is now a man, doesn't make them any less hotter.

Feel free to also talk about other stuff like how wings, tritype, etc. could interact?

As a 641 I can tell that I help others so that the things I fear as a 6 don't happen to others. But I don't have any drive to actively help or volunteer that a 2 would.

Can anyone with 2 and 6 in their tritype tell me how they differentiate 2 giving from 6 giving?

I'm just hoping to get some more activity going on this subreddit. I'm Sx / Sp 6w7 683

hi, I think i have a general idea of how 6 works, but this question just came up after reading different descriptions.

I've seen some say 6s are proactive, but i also see others say 6s can be very avoidant. the former deals with danger before it affects them while the latter avoids being at fault if something bad does happen.

based on your experience, is one of these more correct than the other? or is it more about differences between wings/fixes/natural variation since 6s can be very diverse? or maybe both are absolutely possible?

apologies if thw title does not accurately encapsulate my question.