r/enschede • u/Top_Carry_4754 • 21d ago

Activities/spots in enschede for meeting potential partners?

In your experience where are the places or activities in enschede where you can build connections with other people (but not very limited to certain specific interests)

Thanks!

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u/Jhenecis 21d ago

Ehhhh yeah do you have more context on what you’re looking for because there’s a lot of spots to meet people :P also your hobbies, age, any piece of extra information helps lol

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u/Top_Carry_4754 21d ago

I don’t want to specify because I tried and I end up in finding people that we might share the very specific interest but nothing else is interesting.. so i want to be open towards more possibilities :)

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u/Jhenecis 21d ago

ok goodluck then

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u/Jacket313 21d ago

Well.. i think age is pretty relevant.. I don't think 20 year old folks are interested in a relationship if you're 40 years old for example.

But other then that, place like meetup maybe? Their website mentions they host events at bardot to meet new friends https://www.meetup.com/nl-nl/enschede-social-group

Or perhaps tabletop nights to meet new people? You can come solo, interact with people and meet a potential partner

https://enschedend.nl/play-tabletop-nights

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u/BronzeSnow08 21d ago

You don't want to specify??? Have you tried taking the relationship farther then that interest alone??

If you're interested in soccer, meet someone through soccer, but then lose interest because that person also like jass, piano, and chess, then you're simply not interested in jass, piano or chess.

The way you're answering right now opens up room for someone to recommend you to say, play a table top game to meet new people, but if you don't like tabletop games, then that's not going to be the place you will find a potential partner.

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u/Top_Carry_4754 21d ago

Yeah so the thing is like that i tried to do the type of advice you gave me already.. i met some people through tennis, and unfortunately they are all just not my type.. and they were all similar to each other, so i guess my interests doesn’t have the type of woman that i’m looking for.
I feel attracted to completely different type of girls than of those who share me my interests 😅 which is my problem i know

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u/gabrielo0 21d ago

Maybe the supermarket

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u/Top_Carry_4754 18d ago

Indeed my last kiss was to the mortadella from AH

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u/maybeaginger 21d ago

Well, since you don’t want anything specific, have you tried outside?

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u/Top_Carry_4754 21d ago

Nah, i believe is the best since you can pick you the type of the person you like! Only is that my social skills aren’t enough for the context-free outside hehe

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u/DutchNotSleeping 19d ago

I think what your problem is here is you are trying to go to social events that people go to with the goal of having a good time doing an activity. They are not going there to look for partners. If you go there with the express intention of looking for a partner, instead of meeting new people and making friends (which might or might not lead to something). This is very off putting to most people, especially people who are not looking for a partner at all.

Try going to these kind of activities with the intention of making friends and having a good time. With a bit of luck those friends you make can someday set you up with someone, or they might invite you to another social gathering where you might meet someone. But going to these things with the sole goal of meeting a potential partner will almost always leave you dissappointed

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u/Top_Carry_4754 18d ago

I agree with you but I don’t usually transmit that kind of energy as i’m a bit shy at first, it’s actually the opposite i need to start to try feel more comfortable talking to people that I don’t know in general! But thanks I understand the point

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u/TheJapser 21d ago

I know you specifically say "not very limited to a certain specific interest", but I still want to point out: meeting spots for certain activities might yield more matches than going to a more generic place. For example, if I'd have to look for new people/potential partners, I would frequent a bouldering gym or boardgame events, and definitely stay away from bars/drinking parties.

I suppose anyone's mileage would depend on their specific interests, but in general I feel like it'd be more useful to alternate between events revolving around specific interests rather than general places (unless it's a dating event).

Hope this helps, and that it doesn't hurt if it does not :)

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u/Top_Carry_4754 18d ago

I get the point here and would try to do accordingly :)

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u/handheldpoodle 18d ago

are you a creative person? we have some creative communities that often host workshops but people also hang around to talk to new people after. don't wanna immediately throw all the locations out there cause i also don't want a bunch of people with ulterior motives showing up. but yeah just try looking at meeting new people as a way to improve your social skills first and foremost, don't even go looking for a partner. and then if you find someone you actually connect with, you can take it from there. but i don't like the "scouting" mindset

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u/Top_Carry_4754 18d ago

Well i’m pretty creative in doing practical solutions :D but I assume you refer to creative in the artistic sense then i’m not haha. But thank you I think you are super right on the social skills development point! Usually I find myself very shy.

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u/Sweetfaetea 15d ago

Try signing up for an event at Frida’s. We host multiple events for people to meet. Slip and stitch is next week I believe.

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u/Phantomofmenace 21d ago

I can be your partner 👉🏻uwu👈🏻

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u/Top_Carry_4754 18d ago

I’m happy to be friends anyway since i’m new here and would be happy making friendships always! :)

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u/three-o-two 21d ago

Try the bars, oude markt on a Saturday evening or if you're a student, perhaps Thursdays, that's the usual time of the week for them to go out

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u/Top_Carry_4754 18d ago

I actually go out on friday evening but i would give it a try to other days, thanks