Hi everyone! I’m posting to see if anyone else has experienced similar feelings while trying to conceive.
I feel frustrated knowing that everyone in my family has had kids without issues. I’m one of 12 siblings, and I grew up believing I would probably get pregnant just by looking at a guy 😂 Now that I’m experiencing something different, I feel almost stupid for having assumed it would be so easy.

My husband and I were on the fence about having kids for the past couple of years. We both loved the idea of experiencing that kind of love, but we also questioned whether it was selfish to bring a child into the world simply because we wanted to experience it. This year, when I turned 34, we finally decided we wanted to try, with the understanding that we wouldn’t pursue fertility treatments if it didn’t happen naturally.

We started taking prenatals, eating better, making healthier lifestyle changes, and taking supplements. My husband has also been taking supplements to support male fertility. We started actively trying in August, and now it’s October, and nothing has happened yet. 😭

I know that two or three months is a very short time compared with what so many people have gone through, and I don’t want to minimize anyone else’s struggles. But I’m surprised by how much this is already affecting me emotionally.

I’m an anxious person to begin with, and tracking my cycle, counting down the days until I can test, and analyzing every little symptom is exhausting. Then, about a week before my period, the familiar symptoms start showing up, and I convince myself I’m not pregnant. The disappointment begins before my period even arrives.
And that’s when my mind starts spiraling.

Part of me wonders if this is a sign that I shouldn’t have kids and that maybe I should stop trying. Another part is terrified that something might be wrong with me and wants to get every possible test done. I think about taking a couple of months off from trying until I figure out what’s going on, but then another thought creeps in: I’m 34. Am I running out of time?

It’s exhausting feeling like I’m constantly fighting with myself. One minute I want to stop thinking about all of it and let things happen naturally, and the next I feel like I need answers immediately.

I think part of what makes this so difficult is that I never really considered the possibility that getting pregnant might not happen quickly for me. After years of being on the fence, we’ve finally decided we want this, and now I’m scared it might not happen.

Has anyone else experienced this anxiety so early in their TTC journey? How do you cope with the uncertainty without letting it take over your life? Did you find that getting some initial fertility testing helped ease your mind, or did it make the anxiety worse?

I’d really appreciate hearing your experiences. ❤️

Good morning!

We have been trying for a child since February. Last month I started ovulation tests and temperature measurement in order to better understand my body, because I have a cycle of about 35 days with fluctuations (30-40 sometimes).

last month I had a positive ovulation test on the 24th day of my cycle.

The temperatures were as follows:

24th 36.1

25th 36.2

26th 36.4

27th 36.6

28th 36.4

29th 36.6

30th 36.3

31st 36.4

32nd 36.3

33rd 36.4

34th 36 and late in the evening my period came (luteal phase 9-10 days)

In this cycle I had a positive ovulation test on the 21st day of the cycle and temperatures:

21st 36.4

22nd 36.1

23rd 36.6

24th 36.5

25th (today) 36.1

I have the following questions:

1. Is it possible that I did not ovulate in this cycle?

2. Is a 9-10 day luteal phase a deterrent to conception?

I should note that I have been taking myo-inositol since June 22nd to improve ovulation and the cycle, but I still don't know if it is effective.

Thank you in advance!

Im know im definitely not pregnant. What are things you did to boost ovulation/ fertility awaiting the next menstrual cycles? Thanks!💕

line or negative?

I’m 28 and TTC. My period started 23 Sept and I had a specialist ultrasound on 29 Sept that showed a 14 mm dominant follicle. Based on that, I’m estimating I ovulated around 3–5 Oct (probably 4–5 Oct).

We had sex on 3, 5, 11 and 14 Oct.

This cycle I’ve had way more creamy/white discharge than usual, feeling very wet, nausea, fatigue, bloating, frequent urination and intermittent cramps/twinges. I normally get spotting before my period, but I’m now CD26 with absolutely no spotting or period.

I tested negative on 15 Oct and again yesterday (17 Oct). If I ovulated 5 Oct, yesterday would only have been around 12 DPO.

I also had very fertile-looking/stretchy cervical mucus around 10–11 Oct, so I’m wondering if I could have ovulated later than expected. I’ve never skipped a period before.

Would you still think pregnancy is possible, or would the negative tests at this point make you think I just ovulated late? When would you test again?

This month is my first time officially tracking lh. Premom says I ovulated CD 19, natural cycles has pushed me to CD 27. I’m so confused! My cycle is 33 days long. I’ve ovulated CD 19-25 before. Did I miss peak fertility, or am I just fluctuating until lh surge? I’ve also had to manually put in “negative” on natural cycles because it was reading my .5 and .6 readings as positive. Please help! Thanks:)

Sometimes I hate posting on here because I feel like i’m being so disgustingly overly detailed lol but also this is the most helpful community ever. After sex my partner said he noticed stringy white bits when he went to the bathroom. Could this have been my cervical mucus? He said it definitely wasn’t semen as it was very stretchy. If it is my CM I’m assuming that would be a good sign. Since then i’ve been extremely dry so wondering if that was me fertile.

i had an internal ultrasound last week. and it is driving me CRAZY that my provider still hasn’t reviewed it. i got a copy of the report, but have no idea what any of it means. i got scheduled for my 2nd laparoscopic surgery for my endometriosis, which is in mid january.

my provider said i can continue to ttc though, and i don’t have to wait until after my surgery. what are some of the best suggestions you ladies have for a first timer ttc with endo?

I am 11 days late for my period. I am cramping and bloated but no signs of starting. I have so many pregnancy symptoms. I am on day 48 of cycle. (Normally have 37 days). I took 8 pregnancy test and one blood test all negative as of yesterday. The dr says it may be too soon to test but being so late I don’t understand. This morning I got this. Do you see a faint line?? Any thoughts? I have no reason to be late (stress over active etc) everything is normal. I have been have unprotected sex and not avoiding my ovulation window. Advice pls

I got my hcg drawn at 4 weeks 0 days and it came back as 31. And my progesterone is 19.4. Should I be preparing for another chemical? I’m so bummed

I'm 12 DPO and honestly, I'm so fed up with the emotional rollercoaster of trying to conceive.

We've recently been through IVF, and our only embryo that made it to biopsy and freezing wasn't suitable for transfer after genetic testing. It was heartbreaking, and I'm still processing it all while trying to conceive naturally.

This cycle, I've been analysing everything. My Ultrahuman Ring, temperature, resting heart rate, discharge, appetite and every little symptom. Now I'm experiencing light dark-brown spotting, with a tiny bit of pink when wiping. My period isn't due for another couple of days, and I have no idea what to think.

My mood has changed drastically. I'm angry, emotional, confused and exhausted. One minute I have hope, and the next I'm preparing myself for disappointment. I'm sick of spending two weeks hoping and the next two weeks feeling dread, sadness and frustration.

I spend so much time reading everyone's posts looking for hope, reassurance and wisdom. I know symptoms can't tell me whether I'm pregnant, but when you're desperate for an answer, it's hard not to analyse everything.

I just needed to get this off my chest. How do you cope with the two-week wait, the spotting, the symptom spotting and the constant emotional ups and downs?

I would really appreciate hearing from anyone who understands. ❤️

Hello! This is my first time actually LH tracking consistently for my cycle as i was told I have PCOS a few weeks ago, ive only started having super irregular cycles since May cycle lasted 52 days and then again my last cycle. i thought it was from stress from moving and such. im a healthy weight 115lbs and get enough exercise. I was told one of my ovaries has over 25 follicles in it 2 weeks ago which i assume will affect this cycle. I heard an LH surge lasts around i think 24 hours but i’ve been having highs and peaks for 4 days now. i got an oura ring a week and a half ago so its still trying to figure out and get more consistent on my bbt. ill put some pictures of my lh and oura. (the high bbt i drank alcohol that night so i assume thats why it rose to .8) please help me try to understand this or if this isnt normal for it to be high for so long

Hi everyone! 💕

This is our second month of trying to conceive, and I'm still new to all of this.

As you can see in the Premom screenshot, my LH seems to be dropping instead of rising. At first it was 0.33 and suddenly dropped to 0.08.

We had intercourse today, and I'm wondering if there's still a chance of getting pregnant, even though my LH hasn't peaked yet.

I'd love to hear your thoughts and experiences!

Thank you so much for taking the time to read my post! ✨️

Bonjour tout le monde

J'ai fais ce test de grossesse précoce, je ne sais pas s'il est positif ou pas. J'ai pris mon dernier comprimé de duphaston hier. Gros pic côté droit aujourd'hui et tiraillements bas de ventre.

Help please 😀

My fertile window officially opened on the 13th. We BD on O-5, O-3, and yesterday, O-2. But unfortunately my husband had to go out of town today and I woke up to a positive OPK test and a massive dip in my BBT, which signals I will probably ovulate tomorrow. He'll be back tomorrow morning, and we plan to BD then.

For reference, I am 29 and this is my fifth month TTC. Unfortunately had a chemical back in July.

I know that O-3, O-2, and O give me pretty solid chances this month and I'm probably just being obsessive about O-1. Was hoping anyone could reassure me/share their success stories of BDing further out in their fertile window. Thanks ~

Hi! 27(F) here and doing my best to track my TTC journey. First cycle using Inito, although I have just purchased some LH strips as well to test my LH multiple times a day vs. using the expensive Inito strips. My cycles typically average between 35-45 days, although I occasionally have random 50+ day cycles here and there.

Trying my best to not let TTC drive me crazy but some days it’s hard to not let it. My LH rose slightly about a week ago with no continuous rise in PdG, so I’m guessing my body is trying to ovulate again???