r/gaytransguys • u/taroicecreamsundae • 3d ago

Vent - Advice Unwelcome bottom dysphoria 🙃

i'm a man without the one thing that should make me a man in the vast majority of human eyes including that of my own.

i can't possibly be desirable to any man or woman, and i can't expect myself to be, because i also like dick. so i feel like a hypocrite.

i don't need advice, i know that's not what makes me a man, yada yada, im just down in the dumps bar it for some reason today.

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u/Cherrypi3141 2d ago

God I feel the same way. Especially about feeling like a hypocrite. Sorry you're feeling down today, I understand that all too well. 🫂

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u/heartrest 2d ago

I know you don’t need advice but I hope some encouragement is okay. Bottom dysphoria used to be all consuming for me, but I got phalloplasty and now I have a dick that I feel, that gets hard, that can pee standing up, that I have to adjust throughout the day (which makes me happy, weirdly). It is so, so much better this way. I’m just trying to share that this can be a temporary feeling for you, and that you don’t have to feel this way forever. I know it’s terrible! But it doesn’t have to be permanent.

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u/princexbunnyy 3d ago

I get you. You put my thoughts into words. I used to have no bottom dysphoria (AKA I didn’t have the self awareness to recognize that I did have it yet) but nowadays it’s so bad sometimes.

Sometimes I like the “cat” when I’m in a good mood and can see myself as a real man. In those moments I’d be happy with just bottom growth, or a small phalloplasty or meta without a vaginectomy maybe.

But when I’m at my worst I can’t imagine a cis man — especially a gay one — truly loving me, being sexually attracted to me, and seeing me as a man.

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u/toasterbath__ 3d ago

❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹🫂 we r here for u

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u/ratsy_basty 3d ago

I feel you. The fact like I sexually desire dick so much on top of wanting one makes me feel worse

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u/taroicecreamsundae 3d ago

right? like i desire them but i feel almost envious and sad at the same time

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u/sharkbutch 3d ago

yeah... I feel you brother. I lie awake at night thinking these same thoughts

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u/Groundbreaking-Toe53 3d ago

I feel this majority my bottom dysphoria is getting worse and worse. It feels stupid but I just want a dick. The one I picture in dreams.

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u/taroicecreamsundae 3d ago

i genuinely feel so physically empty like something is missing ;-;

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u/Groundbreaking-Toe53 3d ago

This how it feels to me too. Like the space between my legs feels wrong. Is the only way ik how to put it.