The flower became more beautiful after death. Death, everyone thinks after death everything looses its beauty, not for me i think after death it makes things more beautiful even if its human, that dead flower is in my phone's back cover not because it was with you its because i realized how things can be beautiful especially after death. There's no motive to love someone when you know u won’t love it after death, my question from you do u love someone or do u love yourself when you are with someone?, im that type of person who u can't trust.

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I met a guy earlier this year through mutual friends. There was attraction between us, and we eventually went on a date when I was in his city and that went really well. We stayed in touch afterwards, and there was warmth, flirting and affection between us.

Sadly, his dad became very ill and passed away. He told me personally and opened up about how he was feeling. I tried to be there for him, checking in and offering support without putting any pressure on him.

He invited me to a dinner and a memorial gathering for his dad, and I went because I genuinely wanted to support him. I know we barley knew each other but the connection felt real between us.

The first evening, there was still a lot of warmth, joking, flirting and chemistry between us. Later, he walked me home. I was cold, so he held me close, and we ended up holding hands, hugging and sharing a little kiss. He initiated the closeness and then I held his hand hugged him and gave him a small kiss while we were still walking.

The next day, I attended the memorial. I gave him space to be with his family and friends, spoke to other people and didn't follow him around. He was still warm towards me, but I could see he was exhausted, distracted and overwhelmed by everything.

His mum was lovely to me, made sure I'd eaten, complimented me and asked how we knew each other. At one point, he asked his sister to look after me while he was busy.

I quietly said goodbye and left afterwards.

Since then, I haven't heard from him. He spent that evening with friends and has now returned to the city where he lives.

I completely understand that he's grieving and that dating or keeping in touch might not be on his mind right now. I don't expect anything from him, especially at such a difficult time.

But I can't help feeling a little confused after the closeness we shared. Part of me worries that perhaps the affection was too much for him, even though he initiated most of it.

I also feel a bit overwhelmed myself. We haven't known each other that long, but I genuinely care about him and wanted to be there for him and his family. I didn't ask for reassurance or attention, and I tried to give him space throughout.

Can someone genuinely enjoy and return affection, then become distant because grief has overwhelmed them?

Does it sound like I overdid anything, or should I simply give him space and not take the silence personally?

I'd really appreciate some outside perspectives.

Hello everyone. I’m M.

Thursday evening I went to reach out a friend who I hadn’t reached out to in a long time because I missed him, only to find he took his life in 2022.

I didn’t know. No one reached out. We didn’t have a bad falling out, life just got in the way and he moved out of state.

He did a great deal of my tattoos and we actually had a marriage pact. That’s what destroys me. My thought process keeps going to if we had gotten married and had a life, would that have changed anything? It’s eating me up. I’m not taking blame, that’s selfish. But if I had reached out more, or maybe followed through with our pact, he’d still be here.

I’m trying to be okay, trying to accept the fact that he’s gone. But it’s hard. It’s like now we don’t have a chance to come back to each other and talk and grow back what we had as friends.

I miss him a lot.. even more now that I know there isn’t a chance to hear his voice again.

Sorry, bit of a vent.

I guess I just wanted to be heard really. My dad died at the age of 92 today. I had a thought though. I may be sad but I am only 42. My mom was married to him for 49 years, so she must be devastated. I reached out to her but it seems like she’s trying to remain strong. I did fly home and saw him last week, but now I’m kind of mad at myself. I wanted to retire from the Navy and graduate college before he left us. I know he’s in a better place! I guess I wanted to just scream this out into the ether. Thanks for letting me talk.

What is a smell that reminds you of them, and do you look for it or avoid it? For me its faint cigarette smoke mixed with Pepsi.

First of all, I am very sorry for my rambling I just find it hard to put into words.

I lost my wife 3 years ago after being married to her for 45 years and they were very caring and loving years.

I have not been with anyone since she passed. I find myself after this 3rd year being hard than the first two, every night going to bed I miss the feeling of her skin next to mine as we snuggle. It was like we were one person when we did and I missed that.

I feel that I could never be married again, but you never know what the future is going to bring you. Is it possible to find someone that would also feel the need for the same thing?

I feel at this point I think, only a widowed woman who had a husband that was very loving and caring to her as my wife was to me could only understand. So we can share our feelings and each of us would know that the other one would totally understand how the other one feels in the grief, pain and sadness that we feel from our loss.

I truly feel that only another widowed person can really understand these feelings.

Someone that I could do things together so we can both talk about our feelings. Knowing that each of us can totally understand our feelings and maybe would be able to help each other.

I’m not a very social person so I know that I do not socialize very much and that will make it difficult to find someone. So how do you do it?

It is hard to say these things and hard to think it. I am 76 and kind of old-fashioned I feel you should be married to do these things, but I find myself all mixed up in my feelings.

I hope it’s ok to ask questions but I’m just curious it seems like we can be free here. I think because we are in the same boat and could understand our feelings.

That’s why I’m asking what do other people feel and think about this and have they experienced this and what did they do?

Thank you for your time and I am sorry for all of you who have lost your loved ones, and I know the pain and sadness that you’re dealing with. To all of you try and take care the best you can.

I don’t think it’s wrong in how I feel but I’m just curious what other people think.

I’m so confused in all my feelings, but I don’t know if other people feel the same way or have felt this way.

I am trying to cope with all the emotions and feelings and to see what other people are experiencing.

The love I had with my wife was that we were inseparable. All we wanted to do is be together holding hands everywhere we went and going for rides. We loved each other in any and every way we could.

We just love being together more than anything else. We didn’t need other people we had each other and that’s all we needed and that’s all we wanted. I still feel that I’m not very social. I don’t care to be around a lot of people I just like things quiet and peaceful.

The loss of my wife is more than I could ever have imagined but after reading other people’s stories on here I do feel I’m not alone and it does help some.

My brother unexpectedly passed away this year and I am trying to think of something meaningful to do with some of the readings from the funeral for my parents as a gift. These were extremely nice things said about my brother and I don’t want them to be forgotten. I’ve thought about getting them framed but wanted to see if anyone had ideas or has done something similar?

I found this site and then I signed up so I can write on here and share my feelings after three years of losing my wife. I had my Doctor, Chaplin and other people to tell me to go see a grief counselor.

I tried one after the first year; all that did after what they told me was to piss me off and made me mad. The first year was kind of numb. The second year was bad and this third year is even worse.

So I tried a different grief counselor and it was a total waste of time. This is what happen, I ask them how long will I be able to talk with them and they said 20 to 30 mins. Now they showed me in to their office and I sit down in front of their desk. They had a clock on their desk facing me. Now after a short time I was starting to cry and was looking for something that you would think would be in every grief counselor’s office. It was nowhere to be found. Kleenex can you imagine that. That did it no more grief counselors.

I think reading here on this website and to share my feelings on it to get feedback does help some and much better than I could ever get from a grief counselor.

Thank you to the people who have written back to me and I am sorry for you widowers who have lost a loved one too because we all know what we’re dealing with.

My grandma died a couple days ago and I have been feeling weirdly…okay. I don’t feel sad. I don’t feel grief.

The day she died and the day of the funeral I cried but the following days have been just normal for me.

I lived with her. She was bedridden and I have even taken care of her for 4 months, but I don’t know why I don’t feel grief.

If I sit down and think about her I feel sad and like crying but I am avoiding those thoughts.

Still, I feel guilty for not feeling grief. I loved her and was very very close to her. I watched her transform over the past of a year because of her disease but she was still my grandma. Maybe I don’t feel the grief because her death was something that we expected since she was declining fast, but still.

I don’t understand my emotions and I feel guilty about it.

What is grief if not love persevering?

My mom passed away on July 26th. Ever since then, it feels like my old self just died with her.
I don't feel like myself anymore. I feel completely purposeless, and nothing I used to enjoy brings me any joy or comfort. Things I used to love doing—like going to the gym—just feel impossible now, and I’m so exhausted that most days my routine is just waking up, making coffee, trying to pass the time, and playing games. Sometimes even eating feels like too much effort.
The cruelest part of all of this is the mornings. Waking up every single day and having that brief, normal second before reality rushes in and reminds me all over again that she’s gone. It feels like having your heart broken from scratch every single morning.
I guess I'm just posting this because I feel so hollow and lost, and I don't know how to exist in a world where she isn't here anymore. If anyone else has been through this kind of loss, how do you even begin to get through the days?

I am 76 years old was married for 45 years to a very loving and caring wife that meant the whole world to me and it’s been three years plus that she’s been gone and the pain is sadness is still deep inside me.

I found this site and signed up thought that maybe it would help but I want to warn people.

I’m new to this Internet stuff and I don’t like it. I’ve already had some people send me a DM and want to chat.

I’m not sure how to explain it but they’ll send you a message and you click it to accept it and want to view it.

After a while chatting back-and-forth something didn’t seem right they keep wanting more and more information about me and they don’t say anything about them.

Then the next day I go to see if there’s a message from them because I’m feeling good that it would be nice to be able to chat with someone.

Then found out that Reddit cancels their account and I want to thank Reddit for trying to protect us at this point in life when we are very vulnerable.

It’s really a shame that people take advantage of people like us when we’re in such pain and sadness after losing our loved one.

I don’t know, but maybe most of you already know that stuff but to me this is all new and for some people who don’t know I just wanted to point out to be very careful with that stuff cause we are very vulnerable at this time in our life and to all of you be careful and take care

I know it can be hard to trust with what is being said on here and to trust what response you get, but I feel I need to try something and I don’t know maybe I’ll just spend the rest of my life all by myself, but I just thought I’d try something.

I had an account here that I started about 6 weeks ago and because of scams I felt I needed to cancel my account so I started this one a few days ago. I think I have learned how to be careful on here now.

Goddammit, I hate that I'm back here.

First my Mom died of Ovarian Cancer, now my dog's dying of Lymphoma. He's drank very little water today, but he has eaten a bit of wet food spoonfed by my Grandma.

If his condition worsens by tomorrow, the vet that diagnosed him will be here to humanely put him to rest this Thursday.

His symptoms showed up about a month and a half ago, but he likely has been sick for a long while, maybe several months. He's always panting, laying about and trying to eat and drink. His drool is thick and sticky, which I thought was the prednisolone he was taking just drying his mouth, but nope, he just won't drink water.

He probably understands he's near death is close, but he most likely doesn't understand he'll be gone so soon.

Poor boy always hated cars, he hates being in one and he hates when they pass my home. And he'll pass in one(mobile vet van).

This is proof to me that God is real and that it is laughing at me.

What's next? What the hell is next!? What does it want? A limb? My soul? My life?