LOSS Community Thread - Wed Oct 14

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** In this thread you may seek support only for confirmed losses - that does not include speculation of pregnancy loss, nor cycles in which an embryo is transferred but does not implant. If you suspect a loss and/or have not received confirmation from your doctor, then you must post in the Weekly Results Thread until confirmed **

This thread is a dedicated space for members of r/infertility experiencing a confirmed loss – be it a blighted ovum/anembryonic pregnancy, chemical, ectopic, molar, miscarriage, stillbirth, TFMR, or infant death. This is the space to come together and find support as you grieve, away from the maelstrom of treatment. This is not to imply that these discussions are not allowed in the treatment thread, but is a focused effort to give an additional space to our members grieving a loss. We have many spaces you can discuss a confirmed loss, but we created this space so you don't have to post where it might be hard to.

Please use this space to vent, cry, talk about how you’re coping, share your loss experience, and ask specific questions pertaining to your loss (either resolved or ongoing). Our rules around mentions of pregnancy, children, and prior success still apply in this thread.

Above all - Science minded perspective and respect for others is important here. Please treat your fellow peers with compassion.

If you are looking for further specialized support, we recommend you explore the following communities (their wikis include helpful posts on resolving your loss via multiple methods, coping with your loss, ways for you to honor your grief, and much more):

r/Miscarriage

r/ttcafterloss

r/babyloss

/r/TFMR_support

[u/earthen-spry]

I had my third beta today and instead of graduating to OB, I’m waiting for a horrific period to come. One of the lab techs said “how exciting” when she asked if this was my third beta. I said it’s not good and started sobbing.

My RE asked if I wanted a low dose antidepressant. I said I think so. Oh and there was 10% RIF the day before our transfer and now I’m doing the job of 3.5 people. And my best friend’s baby shower is on Saturday. Worst fucking month of my life. Like wtf is happening rn.

[u/PiknPanda → u/earthen-spry]

I’m so sorry spry. It’s just not fair. Is it worth skipping the shower and giving yourself an at-home spa or relaxing day? 

[u/earthen-spry → u/PiknPanda]

Thanks Panda. I think I’m going to have to skip her shower Saturday. There is just no way.

[u/mittenbaby]

had to have dental work today which already sucked but was laying there in the chair listening to some people have casual conversations about their kids and just got this huge wave of sadness. Sigh.

[u/wanakaaaaa → u/mittenbaby]

it suckkkksssssss to hear ppl casually exchange convos about their kids