r/interesting • u/Dry_Paramedic_1606 • Sep 05 '26
SOCIETY A Stranger Who Refused to Let Her Go
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u/MrLipp24 Sep 05 '26
His instincts were lightning fast, I slowed it down and he literally reacts the split second her right leg sets off
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u/Immature_adult_guy Sep 05 '26
“Bitch, you are not gonna make me late for work!”
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u/illegalshmillegal Sep 06 '26
Pretty sure he’s already at work. More like “bitch, you are not gonna make me do extra paperwork”.
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u/AlternateSatan Sep 07 '26
"Bitch, if I have to stick around in this bitch of an earth then so do you!"
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u/krocante Sep 08 '26
don’t know what went through his mind but defo there was a “bitch” in there
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u/Hassel1916 Sep 06 '26
He was definitely keeping an eye on her. She must have been acting odd.
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u/drsickboy Sep 07 '26
I don't think any person can catch someone randomly jumping in front of a fast moving train unless that person is already giving off signs that they are going to do it.
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u/South_Can_2944 Sep 08 '26
They were ready. Both people who helped were in uniform.
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u/SadSimpSkier Sep 06 '26 edited Sep 07 '26
But also the policeman! The man sprinting towards them at the end looks similar to Chinese police uniform…see his brimmed hat and high visibility vest? The trains, station design, and people remind me how Chinese trains station look when I was a child.
(I think it could also be Japan; China modelled a lot of their trains and designs after Japan (especially after the shinkansen)
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u/Aggressive_Body834 Sep 06 '26
The pantograph on the train crossing opposite looks pretty unique. I think only Japanese N700 models have these things, so it's likely Japan. And since there are middle through tracks, this must be on a small station somewhere between Tokyo and Kyoto.
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u/gravitysort Sep 07 '26
I found the original video on Chinese social media, the side of incoming train has “和谐号” written on it. It’s very blurry but still recognizable. This happened on 2017-05-10 and the guy who saved her is a railway security staff.
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u/hotsoupcoldsoup Sep 05 '26
He had his eye on her. She was probably acting weird and looked like she was leaning towards the tracks.
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u/colorilliterate Sep 05 '26
He took a pretty hard hit to the back of his head as well but didn’t let it stop him . Hope they’re both ok
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u/ffffllllpppp Sep 05 '26
At least his head hit the yellow (hard plastic) surface. Which might be a bit better than concrete. Or not.
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u/TheFakeRabbit1 Sep 05 '26
I believe it would be a little better, but unfortunately the bar is concrete
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u/FermentedForeskins Sep 06 '26
with tiny little lego bumps, you know how lego works, 100% critical strike
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u/Cybasura Sep 06 '26
The Adrenaline Rush must be crazy if he is still holding on to her, like a martial artist
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u/Nolo__contendere_ Sep 06 '26
.. Should we check in on him? Do we know if he's ok?
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u/TheRebellin Sep 05 '26
They use a different material where you live for that? Nice! We just paint this line onto the concrete…
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u/ProfessionalCrie5 Sep 05 '26
How about the blind people tho how do they understand there is a line?
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u/Weary_Day_8970 Sep 05 '26
Were I live, its also all concrete, but with a texture for blind people, were the coloured line is.
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u/misterfluffykitty Sep 05 '26
It usually has bumps molded into it, maybe grooves sometimes
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u/ExhaustedHungryMe Sep 05 '26
If this is in Japan (which is where I think it is), the yellow bumpy section is some type of hard plastic.
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u/Cabezone Sep 06 '26
It's frequently a hard rubber in the USA also. Our Costco's have hard rubber strips like that in front of them.
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u/KiwieeiwiK Sep 06 '26
Most blind people can see something, just not enough to safely navigate. They could see the big yellow box but not the difference in the edge of the platform. Also the yellow line is textured.
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u/BadOk5469 Sep 07 '26
My uncle died from a hit at the back of his head... it's safe to say that this guy risked his life to save that woman
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u/zanillamilla Sep 06 '26
Yeah he reacted when she was only leaning forward. Their first steps forward were practically simultaneous. What a response from the guy.
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u/abitfatbutstillsexy Sep 06 '26
I watched this over and over as I found it very powerful. It's also interesting to see that at the end, she actually pulls her legs up out of the way of the oncoming train. I hope this experience changed her and gave her some light in her life.
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u/NewTownTea Sep 06 '26 edited Sep 06 '26
The split second realization that "society" just took control of my life and I'm not going to be an invalid if I'm not gonna die yet.
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u/mallcopsarebastards Sep 05 '26
also looked like the train controller noticed it too because the train was going pretty slow by the time it got to where she was.
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u/britaliope Sep 05 '26
He noticed her running towards the train yes. He was already going slowly because entering the station, and the emergency brakes are pretty good (i mean, it's still a train, you won't stop this as fast as a car).
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u/Cow_Launcher Sep 06 '26
They do stop very quickly though.
While you can't violate the laws of physics, the Shinkansen have absurdly powerful brakes so that they can come to a halt as fast as possible during earthquakes. That hardware will work just as well when activated manually as it does when triggered by the UrEDAS system.
As you said, it was entering a station so wasn't moving very fast. Those brakes are designed to stop that train from 300kph or so in seconds.
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u/TypicalBullfrog Sep 06 '26
The current braking distance for an E2 series at 275 km/h is just under 4000m. So it would come to a stop in about 52 seconds.
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u/_Lucille_ Sep 05 '26
if I am the guy and failed to stop her, i would probably regret it for a long time.
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u/roboreddit1000 Sep 05 '26
You'd regret it for a couple of reasons. For not saving a life you could have saved and, what might haunt you longer, is the gore that you'd have seen had she succeeded in being crushed by that train.
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u/Hisagii Sep 06 '26
A family member witnessed something like this and yeah it definitely left some mental scarring for a while. Can't imagine witnessing it.
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u/fang_xianfu Sep 06 '26
Yup... the advice to train drivers in this situation in my country is to set braking (not actually emergency braking because that's likely to injure people on the train and if the train hits the person it's not going to make that much difference) and then physically turn away so they don't see it. I think the stats are that someone who drives trains full-time for their whole career will be involved in about two fatal collisions.
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u/mmohaje Sep 06 '26
Totally what I came to say. If you play the video frame by frame, they both pick up their legs to move at the same exact time. She starts leaning as he stands still but the moment her leg goes into movement, so does his.
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u/19Lobster19 Sep 06 '26
Not her time to go. The universe placed someone aware and good next to her to help
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u/Real_Mirror2052 Sep 06 '26
I think he felt her energy rather than just watching her. His reaction is so fast it’s almost like it’s coordinated beforehand. He was obviously very in tune with how she was feeling.
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u/Thomasin-of-Mars Sep 06 '26
ADHD here. When I am tired, people certainly do pick up on that jittery energy. The way she keeps looking for the train, he subconsciously knew what she wanted to do.
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u/jose_elan Sep 05 '26
I can't believe the speed with which he reacts - she would have been jam before I had got to the end of my inner sentence 'what's she up to then?'
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u/QuantumRooster Sep 05 '26
I think he must’ve noticed something in her behavior that tipped him off. He was watching.
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u/GWillyBJunior Sep 05 '26
If you examine him closely, you can see shoulder patches akin to police or security. He also has something at his hip. I suspect he was watching her closer than just a casual bystander.
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u/Yggdrasil- Sep 05 '26
The guy who points and runs toward them is wearing the same uniform. Agreed, must be police or security.
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u/stack413 Sep 06 '26
Somewhere I read testimony by a train security person that they very quickly learned what the suicidal people look like. They apparently have very specific body language, and stand in a specific part of the platform.
Given that, the savior in the OP was probably a professional who knew what to look for, and was primed to act immediately once suspicion turned to certainty.
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u/realtennisguy Sep 05 '26
Even if he was prepared it was still an amazing reflex.
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u/Odd-Ordinary-3496 Sep 05 '26
She was in part saved by her own survival reflexes kicking in near the end.
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u/Quoka4Ever Sep 05 '26
If it’s Japan, staff are trained to spot behavioral signs and intervene immediately.
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u/BurgerAvenger Sep 06 '26
It's just like when you passively drive a car and just have built in response for anything that's directing its way into your specific aligned path. You can kind of sense what's going on when the body is commencing a potentially conflicting movement pattern. People that have kids probably have a lot of opportunity for practice.
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u/themini_shit Sep 06 '26
He looks like he might be wearing a uniform, if so he might already be on the lookout for jumpers
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u/cactusfig92 Sep 05 '26 edited Sep 07 '26
This made me sad for some reason. My friend died a few weeks ago and I can't seem to move past it.
Edit : Thank you everyone ❤️
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u/unhappyrelationsh1p Sep 05 '26
That is super normal and okay.
I hope you grieve as much as you need and find peace again. Good luck.
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u/Pethoarder4life Sep 05 '26
Death isn't usually something you move past. It's usually something that changes you in a way that it will be with you forever. Your friend was important, it is very natural to feel all kinds of feelings. Do you have someone in your life you can talk about your friend to?
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u/TreeCalledPaul Sep 06 '26
I still think about my friend that killed herself 16 years ago with her dad's service weapon. Wonder what she would be doing these days if she was still here.
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u/BMadAd59 Sep 05 '26
That’s wild how did this stranger bring up your friend?
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u/Pethoarder4life Sep 06 '26
I hope they do find someone. Thank you for sharing this. I'm so very sorry your friend died in such a scary way.
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u/Frost_Goldfish Sep 05 '26
Similar event in my family last week. It's horrendous. We will never have all the answers but it will get more bearable in time.
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u/ChocolateThunderPie Sep 05 '26
Lost my best friend to suicide a few years ago now. For the first few weeks I cried daily cause that shit hurt. Now, a few years later, i still cry on occasions because I lost a brother. Someone I counted on... someone I trusted and loved... even now I cant help but shed some tears for him.
You dont move past it. You learn to live for both of you. Live the life they would have wanted you to live.
Hope youre doing ok
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u/Spirited-Ability-626 Sep 05 '26
You won’t. You’ll just learn to live with it, but it never becomes ‘easy’ as people say. It’s still super early for you but a few years down the road you’ll just either have to decide if your life goes on and you remember and honour your friend, or if you stay at that same place. A taxi driver told me a few months after her death “the world keeps turning no matter what happens to you.”
(Lost my best friend at 25 and I’m 42 now, she’d have been 41.)
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u/Cali_cuppycake Sep 05 '26
I’m so sorry for your loss and hope you have a support system either friends or family who you can lean on. If not, I pray that youll have strength through this difficult time. I lost my cousin in May and grandpa a few wks ago.
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u/chillingdentist Sep 05 '26
I hope you heal, but also realize a few weeks is nothing in the grand scheme of things. Months or years is normal and sometimes you don’t fully move on.
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u/Pandaman_323 Sep 05 '26
My close friend domed himself last March and I was one of the last people to talk to him. It hits hard and always will, but the intensity of emotion slowly fades
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u/Helena911 Sep 05 '26
A few weeks is still so recent. There's no timeline on grief, take the time you need to process. Sending you hugs 🫂
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u/RavenKnitsDesign Sep 06 '26
I'm so sorry for your loss.
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u/daemon-electricity Sep 06 '26
That's not a lot of time for grief. I lost one of my best friends two years ago and I don't think about it all the time, but it still bothers me. This was someone I talked to almost every single day for a long time. I knew his time was coming but it still hit me pretty hard.
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u/eatstorming Sep 06 '26
I’m hours late, but just some context: this really looks like a speed train station, common all over China. Millions of people use these to commute to nearby cities.
The guy who saved the woman works at the station and that is his job, to keep people from getting too close to the rails.
Still a great thing, but I felt like it was needed to clarify that this is literally why he (and the other one who comes running at the end, see how both are wearing the same uniform) was there.
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u/FireSkyLikeFly Sep 06 '26
Is it common for people to commit suicide that they need to have these attendants there watching?
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u/mddesigner Sep 06 '26
Suicide, murder, and accidents
It never hurts to have people watching over the track
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u/RobotWantsPony Sep 05 '26
I'd just have stared at her thinking "huh, no need to rush, is this dumbass afraid to miss the train or what" and she would have been splattered all around when I'd have finally realized her intentions
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u/celem83 Sep 05 '26
I mean yeah most people do freeze in this situation, I found it interesting that nearly everyone who froze in this video also took a positive backward step on unfreezing.
I wonder, is it "they got this, I'll get out of the way"? "I was not involved here"?
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u/Hungry-for-Apples789 Sep 05 '26
The person saving looks like smacked his head on the fall. Ouch.
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u/chrisuoft Sep 05 '26
I watched it twice to confirm, he definitely bounced his head off the ground.
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u/DoctorOccam Sep 05 '26
I don’t think his head hit the ground. If it did, wouldn’t you be able to see his head touch the shadow of his head? It doesn’t look like that happened.
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u/SyrisX Sep 05 '26
The other people around back away and freeze.
I was surprised to see the other 2 guys run in from further away.
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u/L0kivich Sep 06 '26
It’s normal. You don’t come across people committing acts of Suicide everyday. We’re all on autopilot mode and when something such as this happens, we don’t know how to react.
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u/CJKay93 Sep 07 '26 edited Sep 07 '26
You also just don't even know what you're reacting to when things happen quickly. Yesterday I witnessed a man and his partneress in crime sprinting out of a store with a bag, followed quickly by a store clerk. In hindsight it was obvious what was happening, but my immediate reaction was to stand still and think "the fuck am I looking at?"
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u/BananaScone Sep 06 '26
The Bystander Effect. It's a phenomenon where people are less likely to get involved and help if more people are around.
It's easy to look at a video and think you'll jump in like superman. But, in action, you're more likely to just freeze, especially if you've never dealt with anything like that before.
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u/fang_xianfu Sep 06 '26
The Bystander Effect is not this, this is just shock at something sudden and unexpected happening. The Bystander Effect takes place over several minutes when people continue to not help despite their being a situation where someone clearly needs help.
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u/dont_be_that_guy_29 Sep 05 '26
The guy that survived jumping off the Golden Gate Bridge said as soon as he was in the air he realized all of his problems were solvable and instantly regretted jumping. Super sad when you realize that over a thousand people have done the same but didn't survive.
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u/Deep90 Sep 06 '26 edited Sep 06 '26
Yeah the other person left it out, but I believe the famous phrasing is along the lines of "He realized all his problems were solvable except the fact that he had just jumped."
Though I also imagine it isn't true for every person who jumped. Terminal illness or your entire family dying in some tragic accident are not 'solvable' things. I don't encourage self harm, just mentioning it because I feel like it can be unfair to trivialize why people do it into 'solvable' as opposed to things that person needs help living with for the rest of their lives.
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u/lllollllllllll Sep 05 '26
Yeah but it’s probably from sympathetic output you get from jumping. Huge rush of epinephrine and other neurotransmitters, yeah you’re gonna get a rush and suddenly not feel depressed in that instant. But it all wears off and you go back to your baseline.
I wonder if the memory of that sticks after you survive and are still in the same baseline depressed state.
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u/Arkanie Sep 05 '26
I'm curious too. I remember when I had antidepressants that temporarily snapped all my worries away and my outlook on everything was suddenly so optimistic. I thought, now that I know my negative thoughts aren't really that bad, I know better and it has to stay like this, right? But as soon as I was off them I felt the same awful feelings in the same way as before.
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u/mittenkrusty Sep 05 '26
After I broke my leg so bad it needed surgery and I was in hospital 2 weeks overnight I was the most relaxed I had been in likely at least a decade.
Like felt like bed at 10.30pm wake at 6am and not just be unable to sleep but struggling to stay asleep, not insomnia or disturbed sleep I just felt like I had to get out of bed.
Zero headaches, even watching a boring movie I didn't want to switch it off and this continued for over a month after I was released even when I was cutting down the painkillers so wasn't that or at least wasn't fully that.
I remember holding onto my walking frame and doing a lot of DIY, moving furniture, I remember when a friend came to visit he asked if I had hired a cleaner as my place was not just spotless but clutter free and tidy.
Then a few months later I felt worse than I had in years, I was exhausted all the time.
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u/Appropriate-Fox-2347 Sep 06 '26
I know! It's like contentment, happiness, optimism etc are these protected feelings you can only experience, you can't imagine them or remember them.
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u/csar002 Sep 06 '26
When i attempted i felt like i was fucken high for 3 days, then it went back to baseline. I remember the feeling, i was seeing wonder in everything.
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u/lllollllllllll Sep 06 '26
Yeah it’s the same neurotransmitters as when you do cocaine or amphetamines. So it makes sense your mood will elevate. And why it doesn’t last, bc the depressed state is still there when the neurotransmitters and hormones return to normal.
Btw not recommending doing drugs or jumping off bridges to treat depression! Just explaining why it feels that way.
I’m sorry you felt that way and I hope you got treatment and are in a better place now.
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u/EthanielRain Sep 06 '26
It does, or at least for me
Been 20+ years, and an objective observer would probably say my memory of it is different, but in my mind I can remember the feeling & those few seconds crystal clear
Edit: Yes it's had a huge impact over the decades; it isn't constant but SO SO MANY times I just...appreciate being alive, even when things are bad or I'm in agony
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u/Icy-Tie-7375 Sep 05 '26
Yeah Ive personally met a few people who didn't feel that way
I think it's almost more common someone is angry they survived anecdotally
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u/NeighborhoodDear2321 Sep 05 '26
iirc its a grand majority later regret, but something like 10% of people who attempt reattempt, with a majority being within 1 year. Assuming that there are a small number of people who dont regret nor reattempt (and some who are inable to) I would gander a regret rate of ~85%.
All very armchair, not science, just reading a few articles and studies.
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u/mysuggestionsarebad Sep 06 '26
Some of the regret is probably also just your fundamental survival instincts. I have suicidal thoughts a lot, but they’re centered around wanting to escape whatever’s bothering me or not wanting to continue experiencing something I’m worse than an average person at coping with. I do not want to be splattered by concrete or a train and normally have the presence of mind to act accordingly because I have an innate desire to not be mortally wounded, but it’s not impossible for circumstances where I would act impulsively to arise multiple times. Losing a few loved ones, losing a job/sudden financial insecurity, a scary medical diagnosis, homelessness, or anything else like that could do it if I was already in the middle of an episode and/or I was experiencing multiple stresses at once. Still don’t want to die because death hurts and is scary, just don’t always want to live the life I have and am not always capable of thinking clearly.
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u/scarletboar Sep 06 '26
Two separate things, I think. Dying and pain. If there was a button that kills you instantly without any pain, I imagine a lot of people would press it. I'd certainly save that bad boy for later.
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u/shrinkflator Sep 05 '26
I'm sure this happens to some people, but it also feels a story intended to discourage suicide. It's literal survivor bias. The ones who say they wanted to die and still do don't get let out of their mental health hold to tell us stories.
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u/AnguavonUW Sep 05 '26
Exactly. Mental health professionals aren't going to tell the tales of all the patients they've interviewed who are upset it didn't work. It's hard enough to talk about suicide when somebody famous commits suicide because of the issues around it being "contagious". We are only going to hear about those that were happy they lived. I was a pharmacist in a psych hospital for a few years. I've read enough charts to know there are definitely people who regret it didn't work.
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u/BlackMagicWorman Sep 05 '26
There’s a very taboo documentary filming people who jump. It’s very clear they regret it after jumping.
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u/Mundane-Outside-6713 Sep 05 '26
This. I strongly believe if you consistently want to end your life you should be able to legally without fanfare but when you make a snap decision and haven't thought it through its really sad if it's not what you truly wanted.
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u/scarletboar Sep 06 '26
To be fair, that was one guy's experience. Statistics for this are wonky because we can only interview people who survived and didn't kill themselves later, aka people who chose to live eventually.
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u/ExistentialLoitering Sep 06 '26
People don’t commit suicide because they want to die they do it because they don’t want to live that specific life anymore. And if you’re able to change one thing about that life you hate you can maybe snowball change
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u/HurasmusBDraggin Sep 05 '26
The guy that survived jumping off the Golden Gate Bridge said as soon as he was in the air he realized all of his problems were solvable and instantly regretted jumping.
I remember this.
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u/Valuable-Raisin8989 Sep 05 '26
Phenomenal article about this from Tad Friend back in 2003
https://web.archive.org/web/20160415024535/http://www.newyorker.com/magazine/2003/10/13/jumpers
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u/JazyJaxi Sep 06 '26
Oh yeah that pre death clarity is something else! I had one really bad attempt and i was lucid enough to actually call for help, but that was awful. Just feeling yourself slowly dying and realizing wait there's this and that I still wanna do and I wanna see this person again and more.
Making that decision to die is one of the most awful things someone can do. Its such a lonely and isolating path to that choice and even more so when you choose it. But there is tomorrow. And tomorrow may suck, but the sun will rise again and youll get another chance. Sometimes doors close and we miss out on things that are important to us, but there's always something good coming. It just may take a while and it might be smaller than expected!
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u/BusyNefariousness675 Sep 05 '26
First hand experience, you feel anger. Intense anger against the person "saving" you as you feel controlled even over the choice of death. And god forbid if they institutionalize the person over this, then the resentment stays
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u/Right_Level_7192 Sep 05 '26
I believe they get relieved and feel clear for some moments, maybe for the day, but then the old mental habit will hit again the next day.
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u/TheJarisaDoor3 Sep 05 '26 edited Sep 05 '26
I wonder if that initial regret in the moment is a survival mechanism? Your brain is a pretty strong thing, it'll do anything to keep you alive.
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u/NiumR Sep 05 '26
I once prevented somebody from killing themselves and they thanked me for it a couple years later. Initially they didn't seem as excited about it. Though that situation was pills and not a train.
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u/GreenEyeman Sep 06 '26 edited Sep 06 '26
They will mad because comitting suicide need so much courage.
Normal people always praise when people save from suicide but dont care how that person live after saved and how they decide suicide.
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u/ecalp2026 Sep 08 '26
it is not courage, but selfishness. She is abandoning her duty towards everyone else.
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u/Peligineyes Sep 05 '26 edited Sep 05 '26
According to this study from Philadelphia in the 70s https://psychiatryonline.org/doi/10.1176/appi.ajp.162.11.2180 , out of 393 suicide survivors surveyed:
- 35.6% wished they had not made the attempt and were glad to be alive
- 42.7% were ambivalent
- 21.6% wished the attempt had succeeded
There's a more recent 2025 study from South Korea https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC12420434/ that's kind of hard to follow, but it seems like 75.1% of people who wanted to die regretted it and 51.2% of those who didn't really want to die (cry for help?) regretted it, out of 3486 people.
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u/Agreeable_Special_11 Sep 06 '26
Where I work there was a case in which one guy was throwing punches at the employees involved in his rescue while under the train.
He was in a wheelchair and when he threw himself in front of the train he fell right in between both rails, his injuries were minor and mostly from the fall. The train itself didn't touch him.
He was insanely mad that he survived, he punched the rescue team several times and was making the entire rescue process as hard as he could.
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u/SeptemberSoup Sep 06 '26
The thoughts I had:
I hated that they saved me and hated that I was under the obligation of performing thankfulness. Like: I was finally free, you chained me back, and now I have to thank you? Why is this world so sadistic?
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u/mcvicc Sep 06 '26
You can see her tuck her legs in as the train passes at the end. So I’m guessing she’s relieved
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u/Commercial-Shame-335 Sep 06 '26
to be fair, that could also just her not wanting to get "hurt", maybe she wanted it to go quick and painless but now that she can't do that, she may as well avoid being dismembered ofc. she'd have been rushed to the hospital if she were so that wouldn't have killed her, just made her life even worse than it appears to already have been
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u/Tanekaha Sep 06 '26
I once saved a guy in a similar way. He didn't stop fighting me for the right to die. I ended up bundling him on the train with me and he bolted out at the next station but did not immediately jump in front of the train this time. So, not instant relief, but eventually something? He actually never really reacted to me at all, like he was running in a dream and couldn't see what was holding him back
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u/Glass-Individual-333 Sep 05 '26
I’ve read before that people who survive suicide attempts experience immense regret immediately after their attempt. As in, whilst they are falling etc.
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u/Hammerofsuperiority Sep 05 '26
Only like 20% of people that attempt suicide don't regret trying it.
That's because most of the time suicide is not a planned action, but rather spur of the moment.
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u/Blitcut Sep 06 '26
This is also why having a gun in the house increases the risk of suicide. Grabbing, loading, and firing a gun doesn't take a lot of time which leaves less of it to change one's mind.
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u/Ditail-39 Sep 06 '26
Depends on the person tbh. Some get scared at the final moments before dying and some get relief facing death. Same will be the case for those who gets saved by others.
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u/trashforthrowingaway Sep 05 '26
The stranger is a hero.
My heart breaks for the woman.
How do you go on living, knowing that if no one stopped you, you'd be dead? How do you live with the pain of what you're already going through, plus the notion that you actually attempted to end it. So sad. I hope she gets the help she needs.
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u/wackbirds Sep 05 '26
I had times in my life when the only thing that kept me from committing suicide was what it would do to my family (I'm fine these days, please don't reach out to the Reddit concern thing 😀) and I don't think that the knowledge of having tried to end your life would contribute at all to your depression or misery, the circumstances that LED to the attempt are the thing that dominates your thoughts and feelings rather than if those circumstances had eventually led to an official suicide attempt, at least a genuine, serious attempt like this one.
Women and girls are a lot more likely than men and boys to make fairly mild attempts that they may well look back at a day or a week later and feel appalled about. Rushing in front of a train isn't in that category though, that's not a cry for help or attention like a frail cut on the wrist or half a bottle of Ibuprofen, that's an actual "I want to be gone two seconds from now and take the form of a dropped lasagna".
It's all sad, there are just levels to it and this is in the serious territory IMO
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u/CippyCreepy Sep 05 '26
Same. My thoughts were "It would be pretty fucked up for my parrents to mourn their childs killer at my funeral" and years latter Im living my best life
Glad to hear youre good also!
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u/VolunteerGXOR Sep 05 '26
Having been on the other side of it, it's incredibly fucked up. You're angry at them at the same time you're mourning them
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u/wackbirds Sep 05 '26
For me the even bigger thing was my sisters, the three of us went through a lot of really awful stuff together and I knew that I'd be damaging their lives so badly if I left them like that. I never told them this but I knew it was true on my worst day and I know it now.
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u/skipperjam Sep 05 '26
I'm glad you're doing better. Good job getting to this point 💜.
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u/Traxiria Sep 05 '26
From one person whose been through it (and is now okay) to another, I’m glad you’re here too. Good job.
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u/According_Tea_6329 Sep 05 '26
There is nothing darker than someone who is suffering so badly as to think this type of death is the answer.
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u/Roxerz Sep 05 '26
I think the idea that someone or some sort of 'guardian angel' was looking out for you and preventing you from dying might make someone feel that they have some sort of purpose to go on. For example, take a look at the rest of the crowd. 99/100 this would have just ended in a tragic suicide. Someone not only had to take action but had to actually be on the lookout of this happening. I used to take the train a lot and there were a lot of suicides just like this. I don't think any of them had attempts stopped by good samaratins.
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u/JustAd7514 Sep 05 '26
My nephew walked into a building, onto the elevator, stairs to the roof and straight off the roof. No hesitation. No indication. Gone in a flash. How i wish someone had been there.
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u/roryclague Sep 05 '26
Hopefully it helps her to see that there is good in the world, and that act of love is enough to help her carry on and start to heal.
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u/dedoubt Sep 06 '26
How do you live with the pain of what you're already going through, plus the notion that you actually attempted to end it.
Well, in my case, I would hang on as long as I could, then would try again. After my last attempt 10 years ago, I realized I'm just really bad at it (suicide), and eventually I would die of old age or disease & I might as well just wait it out. The guilt of attempting multiple times actually contributed to trying repeatedly because I felt like such a terrible person for doing it, which added to my overall self hatred. Suicidal ideation/attempts is often not logical (eg. "my loved ones would be better off without me burdening them"), though the majority of my suffering is extremely understandable to most people (raised with truly brutal abuse of all kinds, left me with C-PTSD so I'm often reliving the abuse).
I am safe now, my life is getting better, I have good friends to turn to, a good therapist and have left some terrible people in my past which makes life easier. My dad died 3 years ago which helped a lot too.
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u/FrequentLine1437 Sep 05 '26
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u/No-Plankton4841 Sep 06 '26
Hopefully she was able to turn her situation around, 180 degrees.
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u/011011010110110 Sep 06 '26
u/FrequentLine1437 thank you for bringing us this round of geometry jokes
real life angel* 😉
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u/mnstripe Sep 05 '26 edited Sep 05 '26
It always happens just like they say....Some people run towards the danger, some people back away from it.
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u/legend_of_the_skies Sep 06 '26
I find it so selfish to attempt in a way that would cause permanent trauma to others.
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u/HoldTheRope91 Sep 05 '26
Mr. Sansweet didn’t ask to be saved. Mr. Sansweet didn’t want to be saved. And the injuries received from Mr. Incredible’s “actions,” so called, causes him daily paaain.
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u/Vortex042004 Sep 05 '26
Why does she go from dashing to scurrying near the ledge, before he even gets hold of her?
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u/Time_Neat_4732 Sep 06 '26
People who survived this type of suicide attempt (for example, bridge jumpers) usually say they regretted it the instant they could no longer turn back. She seems to have regretted it a bit earlier and had a kind soul there to pull her back the rest of the way.
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u/Fetlocks_Glistening Sep 05 '26
Look, he don't need no train delay while we resolve a passenger incident on platform 5!
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u/lilacomets Sep 06 '26
What I miss is the background information. Here it is:
https://www.ibtimes.co.uk/watch-railway-staff-narrowly-saving-woman-jumping-front-train-1621434
So this happened in China in 2017 and the person saving her was a railway worker.
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u/Ras-haad Sep 05 '26
Bitch you’re not about to scar me for life because you don’t want to do this anymore!
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u/Good_Stop2773 Sep 05 '26
Its crazy to me how people notice this attempts so early. I would be a total failure reacting that quickly.
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u/Gemma-2102 Sep 05 '26
Damn, and all those people nearest didn’t even budge to help!
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