Feeling replaced

[u/Correct-Strain9649]

Hi, looking for comfort/advice

Me and this guy were best friends for a really long time, like we’ve known each other for eight years and have been best friends for over half of that I feel like. Anyways, recently I’ve really noticed that I’m not as important in his life as he is in mine. He’s been in a band for awhile, and has really spent a lot more time around one of our mutual friends in the band than with me. I’m kinda just finally accepting now that I’m not really his best friend anymore. It’s something we’ve talked about and he was always assuring me that I was still his best friend, but he only gave the reason as “seniority” and if he said it in front of other people and someone seemed sad about it he’d switch up and say that everyone is his best friend or something like that. It’s been really obvious recently I guess. I’m just not his go-to anymore, and I feel like I haven’t been for awhile now.

I know this is a normal part of life and that there isn’t much (if anything) I can do, people move on and change and all that. I’m just having a really hard time with it emotionally. I struggle with change a lot, especially when I feel abandoned. He was and still is so so important to me and it feels soul crushing that I’m not that to him anymore, if I ever was. I just feel very alone. Is there anything I can do to make this feel easier, or things that helped others go through it and feel not as miserable?

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