My wife does not let me take my daughter to Chiba on weekends. I divorced my wife. We have two children together. My oldest son lives with me. He is 17. Youngest lives with mother. She is 14. My wife lives in Tokyo.

I go to Tokyo to see my daughter. We go shopping and hang out together. She tells me that she wants to go to Chiba on weekends to be with dad and our dog. She also has friends in Chiba. She just moved to Tokyo this year

My daughter and I planned on spending the weekend together. I call the school to ask permission if she could take Saturday off from tennis as the school makes her play tennis six days a week. My daughter also asked for permission to go to Chiba on Saturday.

The school then contacts my ex wife. She then calls the police. Police comes to my house and tell me not to call the school.

I think wtf?

Not exactly sure what to do next. I speak Japanese fluently. I am half Japanese. Born here.

I speak with my daughter almost daily on Line.

any recommendations appreciated

Just a heads up, that mosburger seems to have been hacked as well, as I receiving phishing mails from the "e-tax"system on my mail address solely used for mosburger.

Be careful out there guys with all services in Japan getting hacked you'll have be extra careful to double check all your mails!

I don't mind if a non native English speaker use AI for English translation to communicate.

But lately I feel like a good chunk of post on this subreddit are low afford AI bot post.

This has happened less than 5 times so it’s not a huge deal or anything but I feel like sharing.

Recently, I was out with my family, this includes my husband and two kids. We’re on the platform waiting on our train, nothing out the ordinary. We’d narrowly missed the last one so naturally I’m at the front of the line, talking here and there.

All of a sudden, this lady appears out of nowhere and steps in front of me to basically cut in. Not the first time this has happened but she almost shoves my 4 year old. I instinctively pulled him out the way.

The train arrives less than a minute later and I cut back in front of her, not in an aggressive way, no physical contact but in a way she wasn’t expecting and I board my car first.

She sat across from me and was glaring for some time. I decided to give her the “what are you gonna do about it” smile. She looked away because of course, they don’t like confrontation but she started to shake her leg aggressively. It literally got worse and she was so visibly angry. My husband thought she was gonna blow.

Something similar happened with a guy in Shibuya who was on the phone chatting and stepped in front of me so I just stepped in front of him when the train arrived. He didn’t like that at all.

Yeah I’m probably going to be told that I’m immature or I should ignore, this is Reddit after all. However, I do think that this isn’t something that happens that often to me but in the rare moments it does, it’s not my personality to let people behave that way with me.

No words were exchanged, no physical contact made but passive aggression won at the end of the day. This isn’t to say I’ll do this all the time and react this way, other times it’ll probably not be worth it.

But I do think there’s a social contract when we step outside, which is literally behaving like a decent person. It’s just crazy that some people do the most unnecessary things to break that agreement and then act out when they encounter someone who will give them a taste of their own medicine.

I got paid the next day after my residence status expired.

I'm not able to operate with the account and, even going in person to the office (Yuucho in this case) they told me the only thing I can do is update with a new visa, with is the only answer I also found in forums.

So for the people that doesn't have the possibility of getting a new visa, it is absolutely imposible to get back your money?

I'll update it in a few months, but other friends that stayed for a temporal period of time, and don't think about living in Japan, such as working holiday, don't have any option.

Just curiosity, as I said the only answer provided is to update visa, with is not always a possibility for everybody, and I like to understand how the system works.

Hi everyone! I seem to have developed milia on one of my eyelids over the past few weeks. I live in Kyushu and don’t know how to get rid of them, especially with them being on my eyelid I know the skin is very delicate. Has anyone had a similar issue? Did you use any products or go to a clinic/hospital? If latter, was it a walk in, walk out job or did you have to have an initial app and go back? How long did it take to heal post-procedure?

Sorry for all the questions, I don’t know the process and I’m just very nervous about getting them removed >_<

Hii, so I have a work holiday visa in Japan, I was wondering how being a resident with this visa works when Im unsure if I want to go back to my home country for a couple months or indefinitely

when I go home I would move out of my share-house here in Japan and I would submit a moving out notification and I wouldn’t move in anywhere else until I get back, is it allowed to not have an address in Japan whilst I’m away? Ive heard about the 90 day window about finding a permanent residence after you don’t have one but I’m not sure if that still applies if I’m not in the country but my visa is still active.

I have an additional scenario where I’m not sure if I will want to return (due to potentially getting work back in my home country) so if I submit my move out notification, and I’m not sure if I want to return or not, can I keep my zairyu card, leave with a re entry permit, and just not return? Would that get me in trouble Or what should I do in that scenario instead?

I’m sorry if my questions are badly worded! If you know what you’d do in this scenario let me know thank you :)

Hello, after a long arduous job hunting period, i landed my first offer that is a huge paycut from current role but has stock options. My impression is that i am unlikely to cash in on the stocks as long as the company does not hit IPO. How should I approach the offer mendan?

I'm interested in getting started in Japan's music and live event industry, particularly in Tokyo. I graduated from a music vocational school in Tokyo earlier this year and recently gained some hands-on experience helping with live concert operations.

I understand that this subreddit may not be the right place for direct job-seeking posts, so I've posted one in other relevant subreddits. Here, I'd like to ask about the industry itself.

For those familiar with the field:

-Where can I find entry-level opportunities in music and live event operations?
Are there any useful industry-specific job boards or networking opportunities?
-Is it generally difficult for foreigners to break into Japan's music and live event industry? Are there relatively few opportunities for non-Japanese applicants?
-What would you recommend to someone trying to break into this industry?

Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks!

I know this is a pretty niche question (considering hardly anyone seems to live in Nagoya lol), but I was wondering if anyone here has tried rollerblading around the city.

I’ve read that it’s a bit of a gray area under Japanese law, and that river paths are probably the safest option. However, I’m not sure which specific areas in Nagoya would count as suitable river paths for skating. What about along the Hori, Yamazaki, or Yada rivers?

(I’ve also heard about Shonai Ryokuchi Park, but I’m looking for more of a “just skating around the city” experience rather than sticking to a skate park.)

I’ve seen a few other posts about this, but most of them were about Tokyo, which I imagine is a bit of a different story since it’s much more crowded than Nagoya.

While I’m here, I also wanted to ask for recommendations on where to buy good-quality inline skates at an affordable price. More specifically, I’m looking for women’s 3-wheel (3WD) inline skates. I feel like prices in Japan are a bit higher than in Europe… which makes sense, I guess, since it’s not a particularly popular sport here.

If anyone has any recommendations, I’d appreciate suggestions for both online stores and physical shops in Nagoya.

I’ve been looking at the Rollerblade Macroblade 100 3WD, but they’re a bit over my budget. If anyone knows of a similar but more affordable option, I’d love to hear about it! Although, I guess it might be better to make a separate post about this.

This is my first ever post, so apologies if I’ve missed anything or if this isn’t the best place to ask!

Hi all. I moved to Tokyo this month from Italy for an engineering job (single, \~¥6M/year gross). From November my office is near Kachidoki. I'm in the office about 2-3 days a week, I like going out in the evening, and I would like a gym with free weights nearby. A good supermarket in the area would also be nice.

My shortlist (rent + kanrihi, door-to-door time to the office):

* Adachi, Ayase area: 42 m², wooden (1990), ¥93k, \~40 min, 1 transfer

* Adachi, Rokucho: 40 m², wooden (2020), ¥96k, \~40 min, 1 transfer

* Toyosu: 31 m², RC (2004), ¥147k, \~20 min, 1 transfer

* Togoshi: 30 m², steel frame (1994), ¥119k, \~30 min, 1 transfer

* Wakamatsu-Kawada: 35 m², RC (1989), ¥131k, \~35 min, no transfer

* Nishi-Ojima: 31 m² (2005), ¥150k, \~30 min, 1 transfer

I would like to ask some questions that could help me with the apartment hunting.

1. Which area would you pick, and is there one you'd avoid?

2. If you live in one of them, how is it day to day (especially if you are an expat)?

3. Are wooden apartments really as cold and noisy as people say?

Thanks in advance, any feedback is really appreciated!

I went for an interview at kura sushi today, and all they did was hand me a form to write a lot of details such as my information, work availability.

And that was it. They asked nothing and told me to wait for a call if I'm selected. Is this normal or did they do this because they've decided to not select me? I was so confused.

Also how long am I supposed to wait for a call if I'm chosen?

ive been suspected of having a cocktail of disorders that impair my ability to focus at school. As of now, ive been "rawdogging it" for a while. getting a diagnosis and treatment for these disorders would really help + give me some support on standardized tests (which I really struggle to take without any support).

If anyone here goes to Tokyo Mental Health for therapy, is there a psychiatrist that you really like? i recently started therapy at Tokyo Mental Health but i sorta dislike my psychiatrist and because of this its hard for me to open up to this individual 🥀 between dismissing my problems, straight up ignoring me, and laughing at my expense (albeit as a joke), i genuinely think them and i are very different and very incompatible people.

i would really appreciate if people could share their experience with Tokyo Mental Health! i really need a diagnosis and i want to leave each therapy session without feeling worse...

Hey,

I recently picked up a new part-time job as a tour guide. There was no contract as a part-timer because this job is treated as a freelancer (meaning I invoice them and receive compensation).

Now, I am not a stranger to being a freelancer and invoicing companies here in Japan. I did that before, so it isn't a problem.

However, this company essentially expects me to pay for the tours' clients out of pocket and receive compensation later on (the 25th of the next month).

Essentially, I get an outline of the tour's main activities; I'm responsible for booking them, paying for the fees and meals, then submitting the receipts to receive compensation + my actual labor and work for the guidance. The tours would amount to 10K-20K yen per assignment.

I spoke to a friend who works as a full-time tour guide, and he said that this is standard in this industry.

I am a bit uncomfortable paying that much per assignment (about once a week) and have to wait so long for the compensation. The company doesn't seem like a red flag, but they communicate via WhatsApp, which is a bit shady. And the interview was a 10 min call immediately followed by getting picked for the job.

However, if this is a scam, I don't see how it can be one. Like, how would they make money from this?

Finally, I also want to say that I could use the extra money. I am a uni student, so any extra money would help. This job would end up increasing my monthly income by about 30-50K, which gives me a large breathing room.

Can't find the stupid questions thread sorry

But what it says on the tin. I bought some vintage Christmas ornaments made of paper and glass off Etsy from a popular seller (thousands of positive reviews) and the seller has tried to ship it to me 3 times now via PostNL but each time it gets returned to them.

One time after languishing for 10 days in their local post office. It was sent back due to "unable to access delivery location"

One time it made into the country tracking said landed at Narita but was immediately sent back for "dangerous items". I did not receive any contact or notification or anything from Japanese customs, that's just what the courier said.

The last time it was sent back very quickly within 48hrs from the local PostNL processing point for "incorrect address" ...the address has been the same each time, and for my previous order from the same seller last year that went fine.

The seller is getting frustrated as it seems PostNL is making up different reasons each time for it getting returned. They are also saying another regular buyer they have in Japan is suddenly getting packages returned too.

Is there a new regulation or procedure in place about importing goods from the Netherlands that I'm not aware of that is causing this? Apparently the seller is not getting an answer from PostNL though they even submitted a formal complaint last month they have yet to get a reply of any sort.

I haven’t had pizza in a couple months since I moved here and I’m curious if anyone has any good recommendations. To make it easier I live near shiki inside of saitama prefecture.

I have been living in and out of Japan my whole life and I have lived here for over 15 years now.

I've been working here since 2019 and one thing that has been bothering me so much is how prevalent bullying is not just in schools, but especially in work places. Thankfully, I personally have not experienced any bullying. While I have experienced "power harrasment", it has never been a big deal.

But recenlty started working at a new company around a month ago, and I have had some collaeges open up about getting bullied both physically and verbally. They are getting bullied by their own colleauges that they have been working together for over a decade.

We all have so much to deal with in our lives outside of work and now people are scared to even go to work.

And non of them decided to say anything to the managers.

I also see a lot of bullying and just straight up harrasment on Japanese TV too.

Does anyone know why this is the case in Japan? I've heard other horror stories from some other friends.

Please share if you have any stories of your own.

Tozai line, I was seated and it was not very busy but still early evening. A woman got down on her hands and knees and started repeatedly banging her head on the floor. Hard. Without saying a word.

We all just froze. At first I was concerned it was a seizure and could need some intervention, but it seemed voluntary and no one knew what to do. Then, at the next stop she got up and walked off just before the doors closed as if nothing happened. She left her phone behind, and the man closest to her handed it to the station conductor at the next stop. No one reacted other than some glances exchanged.

The shock of this happening and the strangeness of no one reacting in any way really got to me at the time. It really didn't help that I had just moved to Tokyo when this happened, but I have never experienced anything close to this since.

My car has seriously buildup some limescale in the windshield where the wipers won't reach.

I found lots of products on Amazon Japan and Autobacs that are exactly from removing limescale from cars, all saying they are safe on paint, exposed metal, etc... but to NOT use on glass ever!

I need something that is specifically safe for glass, since it's where it's most noticeable. Is there any recommendation of product I can find in Japan for that that someone has confirmed it is safe to use on glass?

Hi.

With this new system of shipments of packages to US, instead of using QR codes now they make it through other app.

I paid for the processing and customs fees. Printed the paper

For those who already used it I have some questions:

1) In the lower part there are two areas: one for sender to keep and one for post office. Should I cut them and present them to the post ready to process? Or I should keep the whole paper uncut before presenting to clerk?

2) It is written then I will be given the pouch at the post office. Does it mean that the size of the package should always accommodate this printed label and pouch? Is it permitted to fold the label and wrap it around the package/envelope?

Hi! asking if there is a door-to-door parcel delivery service at Fukuoka Airport? planning to have some personal items shipped to Iwakuni.

I’ve been wondering about this for a while. I have some few coworkers and friends from developing countries living in Japan, and from what they’ve told me, living here has become harder for them.

I know some people have to send money back home to support their families, and with the weak yen, their savings and the money they send back aren’t worth as much anymore. There’s also the issue of xenophobia and how foreigners are treated here.

I know everyone has different opinions. Some people prefer to stay in Japan because they can still earn more here than they would back home and their quality of life is better overall. According to them But it got me thinking about how different things might be for people from wealthier countries.

For example, someone from a high-income country might earn less in Japan than they would back home. If things don’t work out here they can always return home and potentially earn more. But for people from developing countries, moving back home could mean taking a significant pay cut or having fewer opportunities, so leaving Japan might not be as easy.

I’m curious about how you guys see your future here. Do you plan to stay in Japan permanently or do you eventually want to move somewhere else? Has the weak yen affected your decision especially if you send money back home? Do you feel like your quality of life in Japan is still better than what you’d have back home?

I’m interested in hearing your thoughts. Do you see Japan as your long-term home, or would you rather move somewhere else if you had the chance? I’m not trying to offend anyone just curious about how people from different backgrounds see their future here.

I’m a visual design student living in Osaka, so I notice little printed things around me—shop signs, labels, neighborhood notices. But the useful stuff is usually a routine, not a place to save on a map.

What everyday routine took you longer to figure out after moving to Japan, and what helped it finally stick? I’m curious about the small practical things people only learn by living here.

Thanks for reading my comment. I learned that there’s a stereotype that Japan’s work environment is terrible and that people are forced to work long hours. While that was certainly true during the Showa era, I was surprised to find out that this stereotype still persists today. That’s because in my workplace, leaving on time is an absolute must—in fact, I’d actually get scolded if I stayed late. Working on days off is also frowned upon because the company has to pay extra for it, haha.
I feel like there’s a pretty strong atmosphere in Japan right now where companies have no choice but to treat their employees well, since any corporate scandals—like sexual harassment, workplace bullying, or death from overwork—are covered extensively in the news as soon as they come to light.
This might just be my own perception, though, so I’d like to hear everyone’s thoughts.