r/KindVoice • • Jul 04 '25

Admin [META] Kind Friend Updates / Chat GPT and Yo[u]

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Hello Community,

I hope you are all doing well, or atleast a little better than yesterday. I wanted to put a post up around some recent changes and behaviour in the sub.

r/KindFriend has been privated.

Kind Friend was originally created as a sister sub to Kindvoice to handle more friendship orientated requests while Kindvoice focused on emotional support. Recently it seems to have caught to the attention of a number of bad actors. The posts had been gradually trending to a younger audience and I was becoming increasingly concerned that it was facilitating people looking to take advantage of these members. As such the sub is currently privated to prevent access and any further risk. I would encourage those seeking purely friendships to try more established subs such as r/makenewfriendshere or r/needafriend. This behaviour has thankfully not transferred over to r/Kindvoice.

Previously friendship posts had been against the rules of KindVoice, although not strictly enforced given that a lot of the time a good friend can make a world of difference to someone's current state. We intend to continue the current status quo in this regard and deal with friendship posts on a case by case basis as it makes a minority of posts. I would highly encourage users to use more focused subs for this if seeking purely friendship. If you are reaching out for a friend because you feel lonely or want to improve social skills, that post still has a place here. Just please be aware many offerors are volunteering their time when they can and should not be considered a permanent support placement or lifelong friend.

Chat GPT Usage

Over the past few months ChatGPT started recommending us as a place for lonely users or those who were feeling down to seek human contact. Alongside this we saw a dramatic increase in the number of bots, monetary requests and ChatGPT generated posts. We have literally gone from a few bans a month to a few a day.

- Accounts with less than 5 comment karma or less than 3 days old will now be caught in a filter for approval. I appreciate some people don't want to post here on main so a mod mail will be raised for each submission caught in the filter so they can be approved.

- Chat GPT is NOT against the rules currently HOWEVER PLEASE BE AWARE that many people come here looking for a human voice. You may believe that in writing an answer via Chat GPT you sound more articulate or better at supporting. In reality the message it often conveys to the looker that they can't find someone who is even willing to use their own words. Comments may be removed if they feel too robotic when the person is looking for a connection.

Final Notes

I would love to hear any community feedback on these points.

A huge thanks as always to the people that donate their time to help others. Look after yourselves where you can.

-AJ


r/KindVoice • • May 14 '25

[META] Seeking C[o]mmunity Feedback on Rule 2

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I hope all of the Kind Voices out there are having a wonderful day and that my message finds all of the Lookers slightly better than they were yesterday.

This post is to gather some feedback from any willing community members around rule 2. Recently I have been rather lax on it's enforcement given r/KindFriend isn't hugely active (although it's had a surge recently) however I am aware there are a number of other very popular subreddits that fill the same niche so I want to ask your thoughts:

- Do you mind friendship based posts on this subreddit or would you rather keep them to other spaces?

- Do you feel requests asking for daily supports fall into this category?

- Any other thoughts you may have.


r/KindVoice • • 7h ago

Looking [L] 33m just need to talk or vent about my daughter and ex-wife

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So basically my ex got remarried and they are presenting like this happy perfect couple everybody gets along. My daughter says her new stepdad is awesome and great and wonderful blah blah blah but I guess it’s still kind of hurts maybe. I have a great relationship with my daughter so I don’t feel like I’m being replaced, but it still feels weird. Is this normal?


r/KindVoice • • 12m ago

Looking [L] (25M) I'm gonna sleep out in the cold tonight, anyone I can vent to?

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Since I'm still homeless and we're transitioning to the fall, temperatures are dropping and as a result it's getting colder at night and harder to sleep. Last night it was super windy and it was really hard to get any sleep, but tonight is somehow going to be even colder.

Also, I applied for a job at an Amazon Warehouse and got rejected immediately, so I'm bummed about that as well.

Tonight is going to suck so I'm asking if anyone is willing to hear me vent so I can mentally prepare for the rough night tonight. No one under 18, 21+ preferred.


r/KindVoice • • 2h ago

Looking [L] 25M UK - Looking for help in processing recent challenges (don't have a support network)

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r/KindVoice • • 1h ago

Been a while but never left my people alone [o]

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To anyone who may need this:

Over the past few years, I've been offering peer support to people going through difficult times. Sometimes, what helps most isn't advice it's simply having someone who listens without judgment. I've also completed a certification in Cognitive Therapy through Alison, which has helped me approach conversations with greater empathy and structure.

Opening up isn't easy. It's normal to worry about being judged or misunderstood. My goal is to provide a respectful, supportive and confidential space where you can share what's on your mind.

I'm happy to listen if you're dealing with:

• Anxiety or feeling overwhelmed

• Low mood or stress

• Relationship or friendship challenges

• Self-esteem or confidence issues

• Major life changes

• Grief or other emotional struggles

You don't have to share your real name. If you're comfortable let me know your age so I can better understand your perspective.

A few important things:

• I'm not a licensed therapist, psychologist, or counselor. I offer peer support not professional mental health treatment.

• If you're in crisis or believe you may be at risk of harming yourself or someone else please contact a trusted adult, local emergency services or a qualified mental health professional as soon as possible.

• I'll always encourage professional help when it's needed.

More than 250 people reached out through my previous posts and many said that simply being heard made them feel a little less alone.

If you've been thinking about reaching out maybe this is your sign.

You deserve support and you don't have to face everything alone.


r/KindVoice • • 2h ago

[O]ffering to listen, whoever you are and whatever you have to say. (I may have cat pics)

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It doesn't matter if it is something trivial or heavy, whether you wanna share your favorite song or tell about what's been bothering you, I'm here. You can reach out!


r/KindVoice • • 2h ago

Looking Does someone want to talk"[l]

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r/KindVoice • • 3h ago

Looking [L] 23F looking to talk to someone

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I have made some questionable choices in my life. To be transparent I ended up becoming the affair partner. I understand it's a heavy topic and also that I am the bad person here.

I am stating it here because it is my relationship I want to talk about and I don't want to spring it on someone... I don't have anyone I can't talk about this in person... Please feel free to DM me if you have time for me...


r/KindVoice • • 10h ago

Looking [L] There's nothing

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Nothingness.

Nothing but loneliness, anxiety and desperately trying to cling onto the idea of being able to carry on.

It hurts.

And there's no one you can tell.

Because responses, reactions, the true responses, will range from indifference over disdain to hatred.

There are people who prey on you, just waiting for a moment of weakness to "reconnect" only for them to dump their same old negativity onto you at the very first opportunity.

Which is why you broke up with them in the first place.

How do I go on from here?


r/KindVoice • • 11h ago

Looking [L] I’m 25, my family is falling apart, I have no direction in life, and I'm exhausted from pretending I'm okay.

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I'm 25, in the final year of my BA History degree, and I genuinely don't know what I'm doing with my life anymore.
Things at home have been getting progressively worse. My parents' marriage is deteriorating, my dad has been staying at his office for days at a time, and my family depends on him financially. My relationship with both my parents is getting worse, too. My mother constantly compares me to relatives and family friends, while my father compares where I am in life to where he was at my age. I feel like I'm perpetually disappointing everyone.
College isn't helping. Most lectures are online, the teaching isn't great, I barely interact with classmates, and I'm approaching graduation without a clear career path. I don't want to spend my life competing for jobs I don't care about, working just to survive, or being measured against other people's achievements. But I also don't know what a realistic alternative looks like.
Outside college, I've become increasingly isolated. I barely go out, I don't have many people I can talk to openly, and I'm constantly anticipating something else going wrong—whether it's my family, my future, or the wider world. It's exhausting to feel like you're waiting for the next disaster while you're already struggling to get through ordinary days.
The worst part is that I've reached a point where I genuinely don't want to be alive anymore. I'm not posting this because I expect a stranger on the internet to solve my life. I just don't know where else to put all of this, and I'm tired of pretending that I'm fine.
If you've ever reached a point where your family, career, finances and outlook on life all feel hopeless at once, how did you get through it? I'm not looking for motivational slogans or someone to tell me to work harder. I need an honest conversation.


r/KindVoice • • 15h ago

Looking [L] I made a mistake at work and now I can't stop overthinking it. I could really use some reassurance

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Yesterday I made a mistake at work. It's something that can be fixed, but I now have to deal with a client who is very sharp and knows how to put people under pressure.

What scares me most is having to face him and deal with his reaction. I keep imagining all the things he might say, how he might react, and how uncomfortable that conversation could be.

I'm also anxious because my coworkers will find out about the mistake. I'm afraid they'll judge me or think I'm not good at my job.

The frustrating part is that nothing has really happened yet, but I'm already living through every possible negative scenario in my head.

Rationally, I know it's just a work mistake. I'll have to deal with it, fix what I can, and move on. But I can't seem to stop thinking about it.

Have you ever made a mistake at work and then spent hours or days worrying about facing the people involved or being judged by your coworkers? How did you get through it?

I could really use some reassurance and hearing from people who have been through something similar.


r/KindVoice • • 19h ago

Looking [L] I wish I had someone nonjudgmental to talk to, I am so sad. I am a 51/f going through a complicated breakup

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This conversation is would be NSFW. It involves drug use, sex, suicide, domestic violence.


r/KindVoice • • 16h ago

Looking [L] I can't cut through the depression. It's all I feel lately. People try to tell me "have you tried xyz". Of course I have

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And yes I'm on meds too. I've had a lot happen this year and it's burning me out. Every second all I feel is depression. I hate my life. It's been a series of traumatic events since I was born. I hate my life


r/KindVoice • • 8h ago

Seeking emotional support [L] Spoiler

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r/KindVoice • • 19h ago

Looking [L] can anyone talk

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I'm 18 and I hate myself lol. Please don’t be weird or old


r/KindVoice • • 15h ago

Looking [l] Feel hopeless, birthday in 1 week

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36M autistic, I turn 37 exactly one week from now on Saturday the 24th. This year has been the worst year of my whole life, and the stress and depression has been unbearable.

I am not sure what to do. Maybe just want to talk. I feel like not wanting this birthday and do not want to live through what is likely to be the worst birthday of my life.


r/KindVoice • • 19h ago

I need advice please![L]

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Hii I am 19F and i am really struggling right now with relationships and life in general. would love somebody to talk to that can hopefully offer me some help and advice.


r/KindVoice • • 20h ago

Looking [L]ooking for someone to talk with

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MHello everyone, hit me up if anyone wants to chat about literally anything, rant or vent about anything, feel free to do so, no judgement.

No restriction on age

I’m tired, exhausted and bored, could use some company, talk and feel better. I’m a techie guy working in IT


r/KindVoice • • 19h ago

[O] offering kind voice free consultancy for next 24 hours ♥️

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I'm offering free one-to-one guidance for 24 hours. You can share what's on your mind, talk openly about your situation, and I'll listen without judgment and help you look at things from a different perspective.

✨ Completely free

💬 Personal guidance

🤝 A safe, respectful conversation

Just DM and feel free to share


r/KindVoice • • 1d ago

Looking [L] Need help with grief

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My Nanna recently passed. However myself and my family (parents and brother) were not notified at all of this, we had to find out by checking obituary records.

We suspected in the last year or so that she had cut my Dad off from the will and during this time was suffering from Dementia.

My Nanna had 2 children. My Dad. And my Auntie.

My Auntie has never involved herself in my family's life unless it was to ask for something, and she has never put in any effort to get into the housing market herself, simply renting forever. I'm also led to believe she had done or was complacent in fraud over the years.

With my Nanna's recent passing we confirmed after seeking a copy of the will from the courts, that she did in fact cut my Dad off entirely and handed the house and most if not all assets to my Auntie.

My Dad is a hard working man who worked long hours. Bought a house and paid off a mortgage over his working life. Even paying into his mum's house by forgoing certain housing grants so his parents could use them.

He also visited her weekly to check on her and help etc.

My Dad came down with a terminal illness about 2 or so years ago. By terminal I mean there's no cure or treatment. There is things available to slow it's progression but it's only buying time for our family and it's experimental.

Here's where I fit in. I'm angry my Dad was completely cut off from the will, robbed of funds that could have improved his health / living standards. I also feel robbed that, even though in her final years where our family and her didn't see eye to eye. We didn't even get the chance to properly grieve or visit as she deteriorated.

My parents and brother both seem to have gotten over these issues and are simply happy for what our family has (rather than what we could have) but am I right in still being angry and numb over this whole situation? My Auntie got a house she didn't deserve, my dad got nothing, and yet my family aren't doing anything about it? I'm.... Emotionally numb... Should I feel something?

I used to like my Nanna but the fact she prioritised my Aunties side of the family and couldn't even be honest with my family. There are many more examples of favouritism also.

How.... Does one move on?


r/KindVoice • • 1d ago

Looking im crying for help. i need somebody [l]

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help me please. im so lost only death is my way out

i havent drank or eaten in hopes i pass by dehydration as plqn b since i still havent made the commitment to book a driver to go jump off

after nothingness and nobody for 20 years for 100 days we were toegther and i tried and i was loved and i had an image of a future and i went from doing nothing since all my life to doing everything for him because i wanted to i wanted to live with him and without a doubt i felt like it was gonna happen. 24/7 together always in a call i felt so loved and i tried my hardest with words and actions to show how hard i loved him and how excited i was to be with him next year

so many promises of never leaving me of us meeting of course of loving me and acting like it was all mutual just for it to end pretty much overnight and i get degraded and dehumanized then discarded without even any closure of why and how and what and when and how

i dont wanna talk about what ahppened since i dont even know where to begin

maybe like adopting a beat up street dog and loving it so hard and then after 4 months putting him back on the same street you got him from and then as it chases you you kick it away for a few seconds before you drive away with relief you got rid of it

my heart is aching and j cant think anymore. i dont know what to think i dont know what to do i dont have anybody or anything i just need to die i dont care anymore

i just want somebody right now and forever i just give up i wanna die i wanted to die and then i found the love of my life just for this to happen the most evil most cruel thing somebody could do in the most evil and cruel way they could do it

theres nothing holding me i cant even say im hanging on by a thread because i am not. i just gave up i dont know why im even posting this. i cant say if i have too many thoughts or no thoughts at all

ive just been floating around like a crazy person the past few days doing both nothing and anything i could do as hopes of i dont know a distraction a whatever i dont know

ive slept in my dads room and since ive got the intent of acting on suicide in my head i just told him a summary of what happened since who cares and tldr of course he just dismisses me and tells me nonchalantly to go back to school and socialize and go to tgerapy. i cant handle this anymore

i called my mom after two years of not talking and got hung up on because she says shes already tired and doesnt want me ruining her mood more tho i didnt think it would happen so early into hearing me speak. the day after told her as i was dissociating while she spoke about her life because who gives a shit im gonna kill myself that im christian and of course it went how i expected or lack of

i dont know what to do. i cant do anything nobody wants me my mom doesnt my dad doesnt my cat doesnt even want to be near me so i have no help at all objectively and of course nobody else from my shitty family. even as a last resort of 'i dont know whats gonna happen to me i just want distractions from what ever the fuck is happening to me' nobody wants me still i dont know what i wxpected that maybe after years at least the time mightve made them soft towards me but a phone call and hearing me speak like a dead peson was enough of a reminder for them that they dont want this disgusting depressed adult burden on them who would want that

i dont know anything i dont know. i dont know why im posting this im sure no ones going to see it anyway and even if they do so what? i dont know whats gonna happen to me or if anythibgs gonna happen at all which is my fear. i am so scared of dying its not fair i dont even believe god is watching over me anymore or if he exists or if my belief of my whole life being a cruel punishment is true

i cant and will never heal from this i cant and will never find somebody else i will never find a magical different path i will never live unless its like this which isnt sometbing i wanna feel for even another minute its not possible

this is not a trauma response its not temporary its not about it being fresh and triggering me

i dont want to do anything nothing is appetozing or fulfilling even as distractions i dont wanna hold my phone i dont wanna watch bs gaming videos or scroll. i cant even scroll because every thing i see reminds me of him and i feel like im getting waterboarded each time i get reminded of him and what happened which is constant i just wanna die

i have no distractions ive just been waking up and talking to chatgpt and of course all its responses arent even responses i just wanna die maybe im hoping by this a stranger will message me maybe but then what whats the point whats that gonna lead to nothings gonna happen nothing i dont even know what i want to happen aside from a stereotypical savior which is not happening

i doubt so hard that god exists at all that im not even doing what i would always do before which is just asking him pettily for help somehow. i wanna and im gonna die. i dont know

i anticipate nothing i just wanna die and i dont have anyone or anything to tell or to care

please im so lost please. i cant do anything but die please


r/KindVoice • • 1d ago

Offering [I] get m[o]cked for speaking and seriously I don't get why it happens to me and my voice sounds so weird I don't like it all the time and I guess sometimes I don't really care so that people just mock me for whatever the f I do

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Life hates me and just stop please I don't like trouble so I don't get it you tell me but I don't get it

I'm not in trouble but it's just the hate that keeps getting into me


r/KindVoice • • 1d ago

[l]

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i’m very much bored and i want to talk to anyone about anything


r/KindVoice • • 1d ago

Looking [l] I just had one of the worst dreams of my life

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TW: mentions of suicidal thoughts

My life is pretty complicated in several ways. I'm dealing with serious problems that make it hard to enjoy my current life, especially the environment I'm in. I try to find some rest, and it turns out that even there, I end up facing the worst.

I'd rather not share the dream itself, but it deeply shook me.

I don't know if you understand or have ever been through this: the kind of dream so awful that you want to cry the moment you wake up, that makes you wonder why your brain is capable of imagining things so horrible, disgusting and terrifying, and that keeps you awake because you're afraid to fall back asleep.

In that moment, I just wanted to die. I was thinking: my life is terrible, my dreams are even worse, just end it already.

I also found life so unfair. I'm full of trauma that shows up in my dreams, and I'm the one who has to deal with it alone while the people responsible walk free. I'm the one who has to endure the nightmares, the therapy, the rebuilding. I'm the one who suffers, who will keep suffering, and who has to fix it all. I'm still young, and I already feel like I've been dealing with this for so long.
When I realized that, I wanted to stop existing.

My dreams are no longer a gentle escape but maybe a prison, and it makes my stomach knot up. It feels like there's no end to this ordeal. Even if I grow up and move to a different environment, I'll still be haunted by my trauma and my dreams will keep going, right? When will it stop?