I know it's silly, but more often than not, I find myself imagining im holding another person. 💔 I never had much physical affection when I was a little girl, and now that I'm older, it feels 10x worse. 😭👉👈

Can I just get platonically touched please?? Why is it so damn difficult?

Edit: I lowkey regret making this post as I got bombarded by weirdos. I’m a man okay. Don’t message me please. Jeez. A man can’t even express his emotions

Edit 2: Wow! I’m surprised by how many people relate! Y’all made me feel more warm in a way which is similar to being touched. Like the safety and warmth

How depressing it is to have a Birthday but totally nobody cared or even cared. I guess 3 people greeted and thats it.. What a life

What really gets me in the end is not being touched platonically like being hugged/cuddled. That’s my weakness. I can’t handle that..

Edit: for everyone who upvoted or commented, I sent you a tight hug. It might arrive very soon! Be ready 🤨

31M here

I am just tired, man...

Tired of waiting. Tired of being excited I finally found someone nice to chat with- only for them to ghost me. Tired of celebrating birthdays completely alone.

At this point I should have got used to it. But, for some reason, I can't.

"Next year everything will change". "Next year will be different." "Just get through more trauma and you'll get rewarded in the end". Yeah. Like that ever gonna happen))

I personally believe right people appear in your life spontaneously. You could never predict when and how you meet someone who will become your partner or friend. But... I am this kind of person who absolutely hates to depend on fate or external forces. I don't sit and wait for someone to solve my problems, I always take matters into my own hands, do what I can. Even if it means spending days in absolutely vain searches on apps or on Reddit. What? It only didn't work the last 2000 times! I am sure 2001 attempt will be different! Right?

If we are being honest... My life for the past 10 years has been total nightmare. After breaking up with my fiancee, I fell very sick. Lost family member. Spent two years on a project that ended up being rejected, so I just wasted my time and energy on something that didn't matter.

Then the senile tyrant ruling my country launched a bloody war, and now I spend every day thinking it could be my very last. And despite this world being so huge and beautiful, I am totally, absolutely alone in it. Because I am like an alien. Even if I speak the same language, I can't connect to others. Because I am smart, but never smart enough to sort my life out. And it's the worst feeling- knowing your limits. Knowing, your efforts will never be enough.

I envy my parents. They both are very cold and distant. They don't need support of others and they don't feel lonely at all. Career is the only thing that mattered to them. So why I, despite being their son, have this huge black hole inside my heart? That's not fair at all.

Be safe. Take care

Hi. I don't know how to write a post like this, because I've never tried before, but I want it to be in my own words. I want to be candid in my experience with loneliness. I'm 19f, turning 20 soon.

I feel very lonely, but it's been particularly bad the last two years. I have been lonely my whole life, I was pretty quiet growing up, though I feel as if I became quiet because I faced a lot of social rejection. I am autistic, and have tried hard to fit in anywhere. It's impossible. I feel like an alien sometimes, trying to fit in with people. I feel like I have no idea what to do. What to say.

I developed pretty bad social anxiety due to my fear of being rejected.

I am open to starting conversations with people but often get ignored eventually, which feels ironic considering I have social anxiety.

My family don't really talk to me much anymore, and I spend my days alone. I'll go for really long walks to try and keep myself sane but it doesn't always help. I like writing in my journal.

I often write in it and wish someone could see what I write. I don't have to pretend to be someone else. I can write exactly how I feel, what I am thinking, what I have been up to.

I started a degree last year, online, and it's been going alright I suppose. It's lonely but I never could have gone to a univeristy in person because of my social anxiety.

I made a few friends throughout my life, but never felt loved. So I guess the problem lies with me.

I'm having somewhat of an existential crisis too. Anyway, thanks for reading. I tried to write this as if I was writing in my journal, so I apologise if some parts, or the whole thing doesn't make sense.

I'm trying to get used to being alone for the rest of my life, I've never dated I'm 23 almost going to be 24.

Literally no one calls or texts me except from my mum. Sometimes the loneliness gets too much but then I remember how people make me feel and honestly I think I'm better off without human interaction.

I know it's probably the depression speaking when I say I prefer to be alone but people are the main reason why I even developed depression and suicidal thoughts

Most suck, they are disloyal, unfriendly, uncaring, unsympathetic, dismissive, judgemental or quick to judge, play head games, beat around the bush, and so on.

It looks like I will be spending my 24th birthday alone, I feel very annoyed and upset that my mum is going away in the same month as my birthday but unfortunately there is nothing I can do about that.

I know one person from church but he has a habit of rambling about God and the Bible and I really don't care anymore. I wanted to see if God would change my life but he didn't.

Nothing significant has happened, I'm in the exact same position I was in a year ago. jobless, angry, depressed, hopeless, and at times suicidal.

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I hate my life, people don't like me and I hate this existence, I didn't ask to be born, I didn't want adhd or aspergers but I have it and it ruined any slither of hope I had to build lasting "friendships" or "love"

I'm going to die alone, I'm miserable, I used to be full of happiness and life but now I can barely find a reason to keep going. whenever i try to fix my life or change something I go right back to square one and I'm beyond fed up.

I hate God, he's not nice and I'm never setting foot in another church ever again. I'm done, I'm done with church and everything associated with it, the people there let me down and I've had enough.

sigh.

So I was just curious is there anyone else that's become more cautious and bitter towards people or a certain group of people after certain instances with them? I really wanna try and respect everyone cause I'm really not like that, but as the world is right now, especially in Europe, I just can't have an open mindset anymore. And yeah I'm also lonely mods don't delete this lol.

I mean both my family which is native swedes really disappointed me and stabbed me in the back, but others hurt me in another way. When I was that hurt tho my family turned their back on me and did nothing. So I want to say I don't just hate a certain group of people as even my native swedish family are assholes. I just want to say that I'm cautious of certain groups of people from now on, and I won't be as open and friendly anymore.

Just see what's happening with all these teenagers ruining our European cities with their "protests".

Just fed up with the world lately, I don't know what's happening with it, why are people so complacent and forgiving of these people?

the only thing that brings me pleasure is genuinely a cup of quality coffee. I appreciate you all on here im 27f, one of the hardest things in life is trying to literally survive loneliness and in the past I have experienced multiple times being in the company of multiple people but feeling in your chest this deep like pit of lonliness and hollowness because you know that you do not really matter to these people, if something were to happen to you, you know for a fact they will never visit you, to check on you wherever the heck you are. You know that THEY see you as temporary, that just reality. And no, shit doesn't get better your situation only gets better if you act delusional. I have literally taken flights to be with people who say I miss you, I dont have anyone here right now, I want to see you because im not doing well(physical sick). Yes, taken flights. Jokes on me though, I was naive then, I should've known that those people would never move their finger for me. Don't be nice and respectful guys, I know its easier said then done, why the heck do you think that there are YouTube videos titled "Be mean" or "Learn to treat people like dogs"(I treat my dog like an angel though) or "Learn to be delusional". Im so bleeping sure that at least 98 percent of us on this sub have never truly wholeheartedly been told "I appreciate you" "You are so dear to my heart" "You are a pleasure/treat for my eyes"(as we say in my language). these are things i've said to others and it was never ever reciprocated. I've lost all faith in humanity and i'm pretty sure I will not change my mind until the day I take my last breath. Life is a bad joke, humans are a joke most people you meet speak out of their asses no thought goes into the words that come out of peoples mouths.

Idk what to say

Should i be deepresed at 17 idk what am i experincing i just having the combination of emptinees no one is one my side im not motivated to do any thing over the past month and im at the last year of school im just tired of being the one that no one gives the shit about and everyone just crush me and get pass me im just writng this to empty my self from a feeling that i had for over 3 year

I'm 30+ & I've never been loved. Life's become so hard that whenever im seeing a couple passing by, a family shopping, reels with couples in it, normal day to daynlife of people - I'm feeling very sad. What ever I'm seeing feels like an impossible thing ever for me.

I'm hurt always. Idk what's there to keep living anymore....

I feel like me never having any relationship in life is smth bad about me, & I feel like that itself is a red flag & i should apologise to everyone for living this longer, for being a burden! Sorry.

I'm so jealous. How does everyone have friends except me? Being alone sucks. I can't even go out anywhere because I have nothing to do, my life is so boring. How do you guys deal with being so lonely?

This is more of my story really, so anyone taking the time to read and such is really appreciated.

Finished school this year. I had always been the star kid. Music, sports, drama, academics, you name it, i was all up in it. Obviously with this came friends. However, when school ended this year, not a single friend of mine ever contacted me again. It's fine. I couldn't care less of them. I have been chasing ghosts my entire life. Praises and attention from my parents when they couldn't care less, and all this stuff that I did in school was just so I could hear them say I am proud of you, I love you, or any kind of affection. Never in my entire damn life did I ever feel they give two shits what all I did for them. At the end they wanted me to be a doctor. I wanted to be a scientist. It's fine really. I'll be a doctor if that's what makes you happy. Gave the exam, couldn't clear it. Their entire attitude did a 180. Now they treat me as if I am the worst piece of garbage human being to ever roam planet earth. It's fine, now, let's study and give the exam next year. Now, I start my preparation 3 months ago and enter these tuition classes. Met a girl. We instantly connect. She leads me on, has some attachments with a guy she previously liked, but she clears that she feels nothing for him. It's fine, honestly. For once in many months my life feels like its on the good track again. Good grades, friends, a girl that I like and she likes me. Everything comes crashing down when one day suddenly she says she can't do this. No reason. I tried to be understanding. I said its fine, really. Get to know she has started talking to the old guy again. Says she cares more about him since she has known him for 3 years, practically he is her best friend. I lost my fuse at that moment. All that had happened. All that is happening. I said stuff that I regret, and she retracted. Now we are just stuck in the same class. I have lost all my friends, family, people and anyone and anything that cares about me. I sit in my room writing this at 3 in the night contemplating where it all went wrong. Why it did all go wrong. I never did anything bad to anyone. I thought everything has a balance. I do not know what I need. I do not understand what I feel right now. All I know is their is a void that aches for itself to be filled, however I want to be left all alone. Irony is I have lost all will to do anything. Why can no one care about me the way I do for them? Is this too much to ask for? "You hold too much expectations from people". "You think everyone reciprocates the same way". No, i do not. I am not that naive. However, just for once, can't I have something that I can pour my all my heart to? Is to ask for someone to devote my being too much to seek? I do not understand. I never will.

Tbh Im jealous of the people who have their ex beg for them back
Stalk them chase them
People say it’s not real love or whatever idc
To me it means that SOMEONE needs you
Idk what Im saying anymore fr

Is anyone for me?

I'm getting really tired of having conversations with people where I ask about their life and they technically answer. I asked what's been going on lately "oh it's just been crazy" what are you doing? "Having some drinks" what're we drinking? "Coolers" are you with friends? "yeah" are you watching anything? "Netflix".

JUST TELL ME YOU HATE ME!

why is it so hard for you to include me in your life? Tell me if you had to rush home from work to do something else and had to move plans for another thing. Like is it serious going to kill you to say, "I'm just at home watching reels" instead of "nothing lol"? Is it so dangerous to send your friend a picture of your drink and tell them if it's something worth trying?

Are you allergic to telling me about yourself?

I'm not asking for the fun of it. I'm asking because I want feel like I know you well enough to buy a damn Christmas present or invite you to my birthday dinner.

im a failure i cant even do one god damn thing because god hates me, and i cursed him back all the money i have cant buy me happyness im a loser and a failure with a successful job and money im a failure at the things i do

At least I don't have to anxiously wait for their messages, thinking what should I write to them or hoping that a word from them would make my day (spoiler it won't), overthinking what I might've said wrong, worry about being too clingy, mabe anoying, or just wondering what place I occupy in their lives.

Now I know that no one is going to message me, so I don't need to check my phone to see if whether I might have overlooked a new message, worry that they actually don't want to talk to me, but don't want to say it directly, cuz it feels like "wrong," so they keep playing a game of friendship.

No one is going to message me and it's kinda peaceful, though in a sad way.

I am 24 and have no friends, never been in a relationship before, and I've heard from multiple people that it is a 'red flag' and a sign of a bad person to not have friends. If that is the case, then I really think it is pointless to even try to make friends. That is who I am, I guess. Been homeschooled and severely isolated my whole life, in a severely dysfunctional family, where I was abused constantly. I was raised in a different world. I want friends, I want a girlfriend, I just don't see the point in getting them. And after some bad experiences with an ex-friend, and a relative of mine, I realize that even sex pests and my own molester are more socially desirable than I am.

I’m tired of hating myself, I’m tired of having no one. It’s the first year in my life I’ve thought I might have to accept just being alone for the rest of my life. I am hurt by everyone, it has made me believe something is inherently wrong with me.
I went out on a date with someone and it seemed very promising like the most hopeful I’ve felt about someone in years. He woke up and blocked me on everything when he was supposed to come see me again that same day. I’m triggered.
It feels like everyone dislikes me, I mean I don’t think I’m that ugly but it’s starting to come down to that too.
I’m on dating apps, I’m on apps to make friends and every decent connection doesn’t work out.
I’m sure some of it is my fault, or maybe all of it. I care about people a lot and I just want someone to care about me, to want to hang out with me, to want to spend time with me.
Or can I at least get someone to tell me what’s wrong with me? As embarrassing as it is I’ve asked previous flings/partners what was wrong with me to make everyone dislike me so much or leave me so easily. How do I find happiness in being alone? I can’t do everything I want to do alone because it’s not safe and frankly not as enjoyable. We are meant to have community.
Sorry for the word vomit, I’m just tired of hurting.

This will cut against the grain these days. But I think without people around you, you are nothing. Particles don’t exist by themselves. They need things to interact to exist. It’s why we feel like nothing without people we interact with. Social media is an attempt to do that and can help a little. but it’s not a real physical interaction. That is what we need to feel real. To become emeshed in reality.

35M NW Suburbs

Hey guys! I’m a single 35M in the Northwest Suburbs looking for new friends and a relationship as well. Just recently got my life exactly where I want to be and am looking to meet great new people to hopefully add to my circle.

Also, I am open to a relationship if there are any women out there that want to start here and see what happens.

I love fishing, gaming, and occasional golfing. I’m down to try new hobbies and just chill at a bar too.

I don't feel wanted anymore. Got distant from friends due to certain irl family stuff and now that i'm back it feels im a burden. No-one texts me. I have to initiate conversations always. They just get replies in curtesy and that's all. Life's going downhill since last month. This seems another nail in the coffin. IDK what to do anymore