I love everything except the storage mattress. There's something that holds the trunk on a car. It broke and fell directly on my neck. It was heavy and I lifted the trunk up. I'm lucky to be alive and I prefer dresser storage. Also I love your tuxedo! This is my best friend jackie
It’s a bit much sometimes. They are incredibly clingy it gets a little obnoxious sometimes. If only one of them is sleeping on me, as soon as that one gets up, the other takes his spot lol. They will sleep on my lap for hours. I can’t imagine living without them though, I’m glad I got to keep them.
Yes. Do that til it’s normal. I recall back when I had my first apartment by myself that I spent way too much time thinking about my ex. It was bad. Months. After that, I said I’d never do it again. I’m getting divorced after 10 years (not my decision) and have spent all this time just not thinking about all of that. It’s just harder when it’s the first time I think.
It’s funny, to me, that she’s the one that drums up old wounds all the time (we have kids, can’t kill communication entirely, but I would have if we didn’t). I think she’s probably upset I got over it so quickly. She’s the one who has had a boyfriend for a year and a half at this point. I am plenty okay with being single and dating my hobbies. 🤣
The reasons are my fault, I know that and I’ve accepted it. Maybe that’s why it’s easier.
Pro-tip. Find someone you want to share your life with. Meaning , even in the bad times. That you feel you can discuss. Disagree. But still wanna be chill with each other. The love part is easy…. So find your center, on who you want to be. And how you want to share that with someone .
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Till then. Go tinder some booty for us married dudes. Anime/cosplay girls are a thing this decade 🧐
it’ll be the year 3000 before married men stop fantasizing about having sex with other women 💀 lmfao you’d think you were forced to propose at gunpoint
Oh get over yourself. I’m a very happily married woman, and yet I still fantasise about having sex with other men (and women). It’s not like once I met my husband, I stopped being attracted to anyone else.
There is a huge difference between ‘I think about how it would be to have sex with someone who is not my partner’ and actually cheating.
Women watch porn, women read smutty books and fanfiction, women drool over celebrities too. Women also encourage other women to “have fun” after they come out of relationships…
Enjoy yourself for a while and then look for your wife later. Also, having fun doesn't just mean sex, it can mean meeting and dating a range of different people, figuring out who and what you like. That approach might also help you find someone who loves you as much as you love them.
Do you have a sub for that speaker setup?
Your GF left you as long as you're a good dude you're going to find another girl that's going to love hanging out in your spot. One that cares about you and respects your peace of mind
seriously this is driving me crazy. there's a lot to do to make this homey (some art, side tablets, and a rug will do about 90% of the job) but by god man take the plants off the speakers.
Do you mind listing out the plant species you have around with the cats? Mine likes to chew and I'm worried about buying things that are toxic to her...
So, i have researched this before and many are in fact toxic to cats. But my 2 are very good.
They do occasionally try and chew, or at least they used to a lot but the toxic ones are kept higher up.
Spider plant
Snake plant (toxic to cats) - But they are very unbothered
Asparagus fern (toxic)
Swiss cheese/Monstera (toxic)
Bird of paradise/Strelitzia nicolai (toxic)
Jade plant (toxic)
I have 2 more but i can not remember the names, i will edit the message when i can remember.
Honestly, it's great as a start. Nothing is super ugly or dumb looking. It's clean and organized, and there are cats and plants!
Work on: better furniture arrangements. Make a drawing of your room on graph paper. Also, cut out little scale drawings of your current furniture. Just basic rectangles, squares, circles... but make sure they are to scale with your drawing. Play with furniture arrangements using the drawing.
Hit some thrift stores and get some wall art.
Find videos by YouTuber Caroline Winkler, where she coaches specifically men on home design. She lays out design principles in a nice way, and she's fun.
Hey man. I’m right there with you. 2 weeks into living on my own. Hard to believe I was engaged just a month ago. Awesome set up. We’ll get through this and be better for it.
Random question but how is it having that kind of storage bed? I’ve been considering getting one like that but I’m worried it may be less practical or more of a hassle than a bed with pull out drawers
I find it extremely convenient!
Of course your room and circumstances will ultimately dictate, Plus what you are going to be storing. But you certainly get alot more space than the equivalent bed with drawers and you can store things of any size.
Looks good. But, move the couch to the right and put an end table w/lamp on both ends. It looks shoved into the corner, pull away from back wall a few inches too. A coffee table and rug would look good too. Add some cool artwork above the couch. If you don't any kind of poster type art, just frame them.
In the living room can you center the TV between the two lamps? I think this is what makes it look really off. Ideally also center the couch, and hang a big art piece above the couch between those two lamps. You're right those lamps make decorating really hard.
The space between the couch and the window could now be used for the most important furniture in the world. A cat tree! That's the only thing that's really missing here. Your cats are so beautiful!
Well this apartment is so cozy looking and a GIANT green flag. I think a few posters or art pieces would finish it off perfectly - enjoy your new spot!
Dude, that's a solid pad. Keep it clean and well maintained and you're laughing.
And you're not alone, kitties are the best company right meow! They don't ask for much, but they totally class the place up more than enough.
Take care of yourself and the pad, I (38m) would have loved that setup at 24.
Good luck 👌💪
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