You don't understand the incredible accomplishment Valve has achieved with Violet.
So far they have done a pretty good job of tying the personality of the character to their kit in one way or another (silver mains are furries, Yamato are weebs, Bebops are horrible people, ect.).
However, Violet is a special case. Whereas she is an artist they made her personality that of abstract art. In that, the viewer of the art applies the meaning. You are left to your own devices to decipher what her personality is. So you as the viewer apply your own. Personality and view onto her. She is vague and abstract so that you might bring the rest of the pieces of the puzzle together to see what the character means to you.
So of course silver mains are drawing penises with her, bebops can't find any joy in her, and mccginnis mains think she's boring. it's because those are what those people project onto her.
Personally I think she's really cool, intelligent, funny, and downright handsome. If I weren't so busy playing the Lash I'd love to give her a try.