r/relationships • u/Throwaway03309 • Aug 11 '15
Updates [UPDATE 2] Me [24 F] with my roommate [28 F] at a loss for how to handle her.
[removed]
203
u/half-dozen-cats Aug 11 '15
Yay! Not your circus not your monkeys! Congrats on it mostly working out. Sorry you're out some money but just chalk it up to the jerk tax.
Can't believe she was just going to get rid of the kitten. What a monster.
23
u/hcgator Aug 11 '15
Can't believe she was just going to get rid of the kitten. What a monster.
Yeah, I feel sorry for whatever and whomever Jane is responsible for in the future.
39
u/finmeister Aug 11 '15
Exactly. When kids or animals get involved in theses messes, that's when it stings for me. Adults can make whatever hash of their lives they want, and can ask for help if need be. Kids are limited in the autonomy they have, animals have none.
I drove 2/3 of the way across the country with my 2 cats. A 15 year old and a then-7 month old. We put up with cat chaos in motels, stress pukes, statement poops, and had to pay for a set of clawed curtains.
I got asked why I didn't give them up and just get 2 new cats when I got here. Because 2 new cats aren't Piper and Darwin. Two new cats are strangers, these gents are my family. I don't have any obligation to two cats I haven't met yet, I promised these guys forever.
You don't just throw animals out like an out of style sweater. This is just further proof she's a terrible person.
14
u/TheLionfish Aug 11 '15
Just give them up and buy new ones?!?! Fuck off.
9
u/DragonflyGrrl Aug 11 '15
Seriously. Makes me sick that so many people have that mentality towards pets.
Hey people!! Don't get an animal that will be 100% reliant on and dedicated to you for YEARS unless you're going to honor that agreement. Getting a pet is like taking a vow to care for something for a decade or more. That is not something to be taken lightly.
6
u/Triforcebear Aug 11 '15
We recently got a puppy (back in april), she's a beautiful blue pit that just can brighten your day at any time. Unfortunately, in May, we had a housefire (she was not inside, don't worry), meaning living in a two bedroom hotel until... this weekend (whoo). It's been fairly rough with a family of four, a cat (who was inside, but is perfectly healthy still (: ), and a high energy puppy in a much smaller space. A couple of more events made four into two (everyone is alive), meaning a very rough time splitting the work of the new puppy. Despite everything that changed, I could never rehome her. I feel bad for putting her through so much, but somehow she's still happy, carefree, and healthy as ever. It's hardwork with literally half the caretakers as expected, but well worth it.
2
u/hungrydruid Aug 12 '15
I just got two kittens and I already can't imagine giving them up for anything. I'd do anything before letting them go because it was inconvenient. =/
2
1
u/Tigerzombie Aug 12 '15
My husband and I got our cat when he was 6 months. He has moved with us from France to NJ, to Mass, to Toronto and now to central NY. He's almost 8 yrs old and despite him peeing and pooping on our furniture we still love him. I don't blame him too much, we were living in 2 bedroom apartments with 2 small kids. Now we have a house and he can hide when he wants and come for cuddles when he wants.
25
Aug 11 '15
So she went from pity me to you are envious of me? Jane need help, but that is not your problem. Bravo to you on how you handled this.
14
u/sn34kypete Aug 11 '15
Update 3: Jane broke up with her boy and is currently drunk and crying outside of my apartment, help!
Calling it
3
3
16
u/MrsCoach Aug 11 '15
I'm so glad the kitten is OK and loved! I'm glad you are OK too and out of that situation, but I get so upset when animals pay the price for humans being assholes.
3
u/Throwaway03309 Aug 12 '15
Which is why I couldn't leave her. It's wasn't the kittens fault but janes.
13
13
Aug 11 '15
You handled this superbly, OP. I just have one question.
This woman is 28???!!
3
u/CHODE_ERASER Aug 11 '15
Right?! All jokes aside, I think she may have an emotional problem or be mentally ill.
9
u/TheTableDude Aug 11 '15
Awesome update. Buy Matt something cool. And after you move in, send Mark a nice thank you note.
9
u/GhostMatter Aug 11 '15 edited Mar 12 '25
This text was replaced using Ereddicator.
14
6
u/SpikeRosered Aug 11 '15
My last place used this system. I think the mentality is that people with money troubles are unlikely able to come up with the amount. Sort of like a financial hazing process.
0
6
u/akestral Aug 11 '15
Hooray for the kitten! I was really rooting for the kitten. I mean, I was also rooting for you, OP, of course. I just love happy endings where all the ancillary characters also get happy endings.
6
u/wishforagiraffe Aug 11 '15
I know you're happy, and I'm glad it worked it so well, but I fully expect that this isn't the end of the story. One of the common terms of a lease is to maintain electricity to the unit. I think when Mark goes after Jane for being a giant waste of space, you'll be hearing from Jane again. Keep all your documentation for at least a few months after your original lease term would have been up
2
6
u/MoonshineExpress Aug 11 '15
I love it when things work out like this. Well done for handling it all so well.
5
Aug 11 '15
[deleted]
3
u/Throwaway03309 Aug 12 '15
I blocked her on social media, just as a precaution but if she does and any of my friends (not that there are many who are friends with her too) believe her shit, well they aren't really my friends are they?
3
u/BeesForKnees Aug 11 '15
She is crazy as hell. Thank god you got out basically unscathed. Think of the damage if you spent even another 6 months there.
2
u/Slumpt Aug 11 '15
Good on you, OP. You handled this situation perfectly. On the downside, I'll be looking to find a roommate soon and all these reddit horror stories are freaking me out a bit.
2
1
1
1
-13
Aug 11 '15 edited Dec 22 '15
[removed] — view removed comment
3
Aug 11 '15
If we deleted every post in this sub when someone said it sounded fake, we'd have no posts in this sub at all. Some stories are over-the-top obviously fake, but a lot of this is real. It's amazing how selfish, arrogant, and/or unaware some people can be; I've had enough life experience to know a lot of this shit is the real deal.
-8
u/lulu0910 Aug 11 '15
Bait and switch you fell into it since Mark is a sweet talker. Rule number one Never and I mean Never trust a leasing agent/owner. You just signed blindly for an apartment that you have never seen. Google the complex you are moving into and read the negative reviews. He will put you in an apartment that he never would show cause no one rent it. Good luck to you.
3
u/Throwaway03309 Aug 12 '15
Actually I didn't. I did go see the apartment, he did show it to me. I have a written agreement for the payments we agreed on and the lease has the apartment number on it. I walked away with a copy. Not everyone is evil.
198
u/[deleted] Aug 11 '15
[deleted]