Everytime i go out in public people keep calling me ugly. They either say it verbally while looking straight at me or they take photos of me. Some of them are less sneaky about it. Some of litterally put their cameras close to my eye! Its creepy and uncomfortable. One of them even said "she is ugly!" Out loud while keeping eye contact with me then she stretched her arm out at she put her camera in my face. Then the guy next to her said "I know" while keeping eye contact with me. Im done. I cant take it anymore. Even when i try to change my look they still say it. When i posted a pic of myself on reddit to ask what is wrong with my look a lot of them said it was mainly cause my lips were too small. One of my old bosses has even called me ugly to my face multiple times and tried to make it seem like a joke. I was not laughing. That store had the computer make us take our photo of ourselves for when we clock in. When my boss saw me take the clock in photo he said "You are so ugly" while laughing.

And before any of you call me paranoid, look up "people of walmart"

How is that even possible, sometimes I find myself attractive like if I get to fcuk this body I would, but at the same damn time I feel sick of myself I hate how I act, my personality (if there was any) my voice, how I walk, talk, swing arm everything. But I would still fcuk myself if I could (fr) wtf is wrong with me

(As for confessions, two or three girls have asked me out, but they were online friends.)

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When I was around 16, I made a joke to a kid that he shouldn't hang out with my friend because he was a bad influence. It was just a joke, but his response was, "At least he isn't ugly like you."

I don't know why, but that moment stuck with me. It was one of the first times I really started thinking about how other people saw me. As a child, I had light skin and looked cute, at least by the beauty standards I grew up around in Southeast Asia, where lighter skin is often considered attractive. But as I grew older, I somehow became much darker and more tanned, and I feel like that played a part in how people treated me.

For the next three years, I genuinely hated my life. I was treated like i don't exist and people literally went out of their way to insult me even.Eventually, I found looksmaxxing. At first, I thought I'd finally found a solution to my problems, but over time, I realised that a lot of the advice out there doesn't really do much if you're genuinely unattractive. Skincare, grooming, and all the basic stuff can help, but there's a limit to what they can do.

The things that made a more noticeable difference for me were things like fillers and makeup, and now I'm saving up for ptosis surgery. The problem is that these things aren't exactly accessible to everyone. They cost money, some involve medical risks, and there's still a stigma around men wearing makeup or getting cosmetic procedures.

I was so determined to improve my appearance that I started an online business and did freelance work specifically to fund my looksmaxxing journey. I experimented with makeup for a long time until I found a way to wear it without making it obvious. I've gotten fillers multiple times, and I also tried IV glutathione because I wanted to reduce my tan.

I'm still not particularly good-looking, especially considering that I'm 5'5", skinny and have ptosis, but my quality of life has improved quite a bit. I'm not where I want to be yet, but I'm definitely not where I started either.

One thing I've realised is that, if you're genuinely unattractive, some of the biggest improvements might come from things that are expensive or have a high barrier to entry. I'm not saying everyone needs fillers or surgery, and I completely understand why some people can't afford these things or don't want to do them. But personally, I'm not someone who can just sit around knowing there's something I could potentially improve and do nothing about it.

Another thing I've noticed is how much people judge you when they find out you're actively trying to improve your appearance. Guys wearing makeup, getting fillers, considering surgery, or having cosmetic procedures done seems to bother some people a lot. It's honestly strange to me because people can make you feel terrible about your appearance, but when you actually try to do something about it, they judge you for that too.

I've also noticed that people who don't know about my fillers or my interest in looksmaxxing tend to treat me better.So try to do looksmaxxing or glowup in a way that people think you became good looking naturally with age or excercise by taking time between surgeries or procedures, it's something i would do if i could go back in time.

I'm currently saving up for ptosis surgery and getting muscular, i think that will put me in 6 out of 10 range

I understand that not everyone wants to go down this rabbithole. Some people can't afford it, some don't want to take the risks, and some would rather focus on other things in life. That's completely understandable. But for me, doing nothing was never really an option.

It's been an expensive, frustrating, and sometimes disappointing journey, but I can't deny that things have gotten better for me.

\*\*P.S. I used AI to help with the formatting and organising my thoughts because I'm not the best at putting everything into words, but the experiences and opinions here are my own.\*\*

Im not the shortest man ever (5’6) but i’ve always felt like i was not completly a man, im the shortest guy in my family, shorter than my 14 yo niece too, at 20 i don’t expect any amelioration on my height and I accept it i guess.
But deep down i know that no matter how things go i will never be how i dreamed to be, when i go to the gym i feel ridiculous, even if i start to get jacked a 6’0 individual will always be stronger than me sometime i honestly feel like a funkopop of a man lmao.
I think my poor self esteem is caused partly because of my depression but i need to vent a bit about how i feel so weak and ridiculous as a man.

So Im a teenage girl in grade 11 turning 17 in two weeks. Starting of my whole entire Highschool no guy has ever asked me out Idk If it's because Im chopped or something Im am really becoming insecure about my face. Do you guys have any glow up tips?

I'm a 34 year old woman, and I am struggling with my confidence lately. For context, I used to be really beautiful in my 20s and was very secure in how I looked. But I have gained a little weight and have started aging the slightest bit, and I'm really struggling.

The way I looked when I was a bit younger affected my life a lot at the time, so not having "my looks" to always have as a confidence boost has been a big difference. Before I was confident about how I looked, now I'm mostly confident in who I am but not in how I look. And the way I look doesn't match up with the way my soul feels right now.

Most of me is super confident and completely secure, but lately the other part, the very self-conscious one with imposter syndrome, has been making an appearance more than usual.

Sorry if this sounds superficial, I guess it is vain. But it's something that has affected me and has been made obvious by the difference in the way people treated me then vs now. It was all eyes on me in every room I entered and now I'm invisible amongst strangers. I know my personality is my real shine, but it's strange to no longer have the thing that spoke for me before I had to say anything at all.

I've only recently started aging the slightest bit, but it is making a huge difference to me and I'm worried about how I will handle it as I change more and more physically.

To put it into some perspective, I was very unwell for most of my life and struggled a lot, and sometimes my looks were all I had. It was an unhealthy viewpoint but it comforted me to always at least feel pretty when I couldn't feel anything else.

In a lot of ways I'm relieved from the amount of attention I used to get, but it also feels sad to have it be so plainly obvious how different I look now. The way I was treated then and the amount of attention and interest and random acts of kindness and such compared to now makes it so painfully obvious that I don't look great anymore.

Please don't think I'm bragging. I just want to express how much the way I looked affected me and mattered to me. I'm really struggling with loving myself physically.

I have healed a ton in my mind and heart this last year and I'm so sad that I couldn't experience this happiness while I was in that body and face that I loved. I know I'm putting too much thought into it, and that it's over and I should just be grateful I got to look like that for a bit, and get over it... but it's hard. Society conditions us as women to feel so much pressure about looking young and good.

My biggest insecurity is that my face has changed shape. I know I gained some weight so that makes sense, but it looks like the shape changed, not just the weight. Like, my skin is sagging the most microscopic amount on part of my jawline and it's screwing up my entire view of myself. I have body dysmorphia clearly. Any tips? How do I just get over it and move on? I plan to get a personal trainer when I can afford it which will help with the weight that I gained, but I don't think I'm going to get that face back.

Right now I am crying because I got ready to take some pictures or a video and as soon as I saw myself in the camera I started crying. I used to model and now I can barely look at myself.

Also, all bodies are beautiful! (Except mine lmao)

for context, i am skinny ( in a good way) and my skin is alright but like i kind of have a big nose and idk sometimes i think i look alright but other times I really don’t
My main problem is my resting face, i have a weird awkward sad resting face
Idk what to do
People tell me that i look pretty but idk
I can’t not be pretty i want to be pretty
It’s v tough to live when u don’t look conventionally good
( i will share my face privately to ppl who are willing to tell me honestly how I look)

The thought of having a partner as been weighing in my head a stupid amount recently, and I’m even willing to settle to getting attention just for a night, which is pretty fucking stupid of me.

Anyways a friend of mine just told me she’s going out with a guy that i mentioned to her (while very very drunk) that i found him attractive, she said she fully belived he would like me instead because im “ literally so pretty and confident” but im just putting myself down bc like as much as that may be true or false it’s never helped me. Shes a very cute person best of luck no negative emotions her.

I just don’t like that my head constantly goes to, there’s somthing wrong with me like you act and speak to much like a guy, I’m not feminine enough, I’m to fat, I don’t speak all to politely or feminine and it puts guys off, all that good bull shit. I hate that I hate myself when everyone else jsut sees a confident gorgeous women. I wish I could change the way I blame myself because it’s a terrible mindset, I wish I could make myself a better person.

As a male, I've come to accept my place in the world. Before, I used to think there was an end goal, but there really isn't. I've accepted that no matter what I do, my autism will always deliver a final crushing blow, despite all of my efforts. I try to optimize, and then I still come off as weird and creepy.

I've managed to go on several dates this year, and despite doing my best, I always end up in the "friend zone". For context, I hold a degree in construction management, am almost done with another degree in Geographical Information Systems, and I hold 3 Red Seals (Canadian journeyman designations) as a machinist, millwright, and industrial electrician, along with being a licensed power engineer.

I have a good-paying job; I'm 6'0" (fraud it up to 6'3" with shoes), full hairline, 160 lbs to maintain the 27" waist, a skincare routine to age myself backwards, a lot of exercise, decent jawline, neutral to positive canthal tilt, and a little hardmaxxing to decrease fat on the submental plane. I've also been growing out my hair, and it's near shoulder length.

In several instances, random men have come up and said I'm "mogging," and several women have come up to comment. The high inhibition + autism effectively leaves me incredibly isolated from the world.

For context, in my younger years, I was a male model while working as a hairdresser and cook. My employer forced me into it. Any "success" I've had in the past wasn't my doing; it was all circumstantial.

Whether I'm "ugly" in the traditional sense is up for debate; however, the lived experiences tell me I am. I don't have the energy for dates anymore. I can't do hookups because I'm way too shy and awkward, so I've effectively decided to see myself out the door simply.

I've decided I shouldn't develop expectations of others, and for those of us so far on the spectrum, it's a death sentence. Every relationship fails before it begins, so I think I'm going to focus on being a hermit and on my career. I truly admire people who aren't in this debilitating situation. As I get older (37), I don't expect things to get better for me, so I've made the executive decision to focus on my own personal projects.

What are the experiences of everyone else?

I've been always told by women that I am ugly, even by women who confessed their feelings for me. My most traumatic experience was when a group of girls took pictures of me while laughing.

This obviously has created fear, anxiety and ressentment. For the ressentment part my strategy is to isolate from women and never trust them. That is not a problem.

However, fear and anxiety are harder to manage. Most situations in real life are out of my control, whether I like it or not I will always encounter women, and I'm always at an hypervigilant state and thinking women are judging me for my physical appearance. How can I cope with that? Any tips will be appreciated.

My therapist is trying EMDR among other things but it is clearly not enough.

I am a 36 y.o. male.