r/subcultures • u/Some_Project_8380 • 9h ago
I need help explaining alternative subcultures to my friend because wth
So I definetly try to dress as unique as i can, i go thrifting a lot etc. My friend looks up to me a lot and she likes certain clothing styles she sees on social media, especially tiktok. That already tells a lot about this whole situation. One day she says that she’s going to start dressing goth, then the next day she says she will be a punk and then she says she will be emo. At first I just brushed it off but at some point she started saying some things like “I’m going to become a metal punk emo queen“ after a minor inconviniece or “I’m going to start dressing like an emo to scare people off because I hate people” or “One day I will be a goth to scare people off”. Wtf is a punk metal emo queen. First up this is very rude and just big harmful stereotypes. Goths are usually the sweetest people ever and emo people don’t always hate everyone. Be for real. Not to mention “I’m going to the mall today to buy punk clothes”. I mean this is everything punk stands against for. How are you going to buy punk clothes in fast fashion stores. Anyways i dont think she knows those aren’t just clothing styles but subcultures based on music and politics too. I don’t consider myself a part of a specific subculture, i just use the term alt, but even I get offended at this point. Alright if she would actually know something more but everything that she knows she’s seen on TikTok (goth=dark clothes, white base makeup and eyeliner, punk=leather jackets with spikes and just angry people, emo= sad and depressed wit dark eyeliner, metal= listens to metal). I’m not joking she could say she’s a metal head after listening to AC/DC. Any ideas how do I confront a person like that? I hate poser police sooo much but this is just straight up disrespectful. I mean a chronic chatgpt user who has never set a foot in a thrift store and just reduces communities to their aesthetics seen on TikTok… Overall the situation sucks and I don’t really want to be mean but i just cant listen to this bs anymore. She can dead ass send me a picture of her wearing black mascara and says she looks like an emo from 2000s today. I really wish I was joking.