r/toastme • u/Cactusslayr85 • 2d ago
Self image is probably the worst it’s ever been
Recently I’ve been making an effort to fix my mental health and self image. Went through a life altering breakup last year after 7 years. Was the only girl I’ve ever been with and have had no luck finding anybody remotely interested in me since. Naturally, this hasn’t exactly made me feel good about myself lol
Mental health and self image in general has been pretty fucked. I’ve been making an effort to fix it and look at myself positively but it’s just so hard bro. I’ll get there eventually though I’m sure!
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u/ReadPsalm103 2d ago
You're attractive Hun, beautiful blue eyes, nice facial structure and features too. ❤️
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u/ThatHeroIsYou Let's toast! 2d ago
If I saw you on the street I’d think to myself “that’s a really cool looking person.” Further, I’m glad you’re here.
I’d encourage you to monitor your self talk and be kind to yourself, even when you don’t want to. That will transform your self image over time.
Keep your chin up today, friend.
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u/sunshinesallly 2d ago
You'll get there!
7 years is a long time, sometimes we need a period of healing before we can truly get back out there as ourselves. I know after some of my breakups it has taken a good deal of time to feel like myself again.
Don't rush, take it day by day. You're a handsome looking guy! Nice eyes and a good chin!
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u/JonathanPeerHost 2d ago
I’ve had to rebuild my own sense of self after a long relationship ended, and one thing I learned is that being wanted by somebody else and having value are not the same thing. It took me a while to really believe that.
For what it’s worth, you’ve got a cool look, great hair, and you come across like somebody with a lot of personality. And the fact that you’re actually trying to work on your mental health while you’re feeling this low says a lot about you.
You said you’ll get there eventually. I think you will too. Just don’t forget to give yourself some credit for already trying.
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u/BluebirdElectrical33 2d ago
I really vibe with this. We’re really in very much the same situation, you and I. Shoot me a DM if you need someone to talk to. You got this brother 🍻🫂
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u/Putrid_Hovercraft_56 2d ago
I love your style! You have beautiful eyes. You deserve all of your own efforts and I’m so proud of you for putting in those efforts!
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u/Aus_Biker_Chick 2d ago
I love your look & jewellery, you make me want to turn the music up & dance.
The hardest thing to learn is self worth isn’t found in others, start liking you & you will find your place & tribe. Good vibes to you
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u/Miserable-Split-9330 2d ago
Well, I love your style. I'm alternative too and love the necklaces and shirt.
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u/Successful-Tea-733 2d ago
It may feel like par of you is gone being first and only People come into our lives for a reason to grow Maybe she just outgrew you
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u/WanderingCharges 2d ago
Your photo confused me because I mistook you for the Aussie musician G Flip - who is very talented & attractive!
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u/Fun-Leadership-3887 2d ago
You will just be your natural self get rid of all the things that you think you are supposed to be and make a real fresh start I don’t know what you are into but start there and you will find likeminded people along the way that you don’t have to be anything other than yourself we all learn not to lose ourselves in relationships but bring ourselves to relationships it’s like when I was younger and job hunting my dad told me something that I will never forget he said to remember that it’s the man that makes the job not the job that makes the man
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u/Queasy-Elk-4669 2d ago
Bro hai degli occhi bellissimi, che invidia! E personalmente mi piacciono i capelli ricci e lo stile che hai 🙌🏼
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u/EquivalentAd4708 1d ago
Your eyes are stunning. Also a break up after 7 years is shitty but shows you’re loyal to people you care about & that’s an incredible quality to have yet hard to find.
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u/Traditional_Row8237 13h ago
As everyone else has mentioned you look very cool and have kind eyes - as an amateur creep, I went hopping into your comments where I discovered that you are in fact very cool and kind. You engage about your interests meaningfully and you stand up for what's right actively and not passively when it's necessary without being overbearing. You're a good dude. You've spent a lot of time knowing a version of yourself built with someone else but I think that even though right now you're feeling real bad and that footing is lost as your gravity has changed, as you make choices congruous with who you want to be, getting to know yourself will surprise and delight. If you keep on keeping on your world will get better and others' worlds will get better for having you in them.
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u/UtmostAtol 7h ago
Trust me, your image will change over time. That means there's always ways to reinvent yourself.
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u/Faloodeh123 3h ago
I mean just from this pic alone you and I would get along and you have good taste in music!
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u/quick_branch_9126 2d ago
You’re genuinely super handsome like objectively speaking. This is baffling to me. Romantic love takes years to find, especially if you want deep, real connection. It has nothing to do with you.