Multiple gender identities?

[u/Relevant_Flatworm223]

Hey, so... Who else here has heard of Arca? Trans musician, absolutely mind-blowing music, crazy music videos, absolute artist in the highest degree... So, last I read, a few years ago, she identifies as a non-binary woman. I didn't get it at the time, but I was like, "Hey, if that's how you feel about yourself, I believe it's true, and I don't have to get it." (Also, who the fuck am I? It's not my job to decide if someone's identity is valid, obviously.)

So...I came out as non-binary around the time I discovered her music, and I was figuring that out, feeling good about my identity and experimenting with a few feminine things, letting myself be softer, etc., and about 10 months ago I started HRT because I wanted softer, smoother features. Obviously, it's been a hell of a journey, and I freaked out on people for not getting it, only just recently starting to reforge friendships and stuff...

I started being more femme at work last week - make-up, wig, even got a couple of women's work shirts instead of what I was provided at first and wearing leggings instead of jeans, all with full approval and support of my boss.

Y'all, it's...it's divine. It's absolutely divine feeling this feminine. And...I'm just kind of trying to figure out myself again, and I think I get what Arca means. I know I don't have to get anyone's permission or validation for this to be real, but what are y'all's thoughts? On "non-binary woman," I mean?

[u/starlig-ht]

Awesome

[u/Knobig]

i think it's perfectly valid. If you are she/they, for example, I would argue that makes you a non-binary woman