r/wholesome • u/DifficultyFormer3200 • 5d ago
I’m way too excited about this tiny gift
I got my partner a Japanese omamori! It’s a traditional good-luck charm, and there are different ones for different purposes. The one I got him is specifically for exams and academic success.
For context, he’s moving to Japan next year for a master’s program. The admission process for the specific university he applied to is a little lengthy, and right now he’s working through a lot of complex math for an entrance exam. He told me they care more about understanding the concepts than getting the actual numbers right.
It’s definitely been stressing him out. He’s been waking up early (around 6:30 a.m.) to work out and study math before work, and then he comes home and does more math from around 4–5 p.m. until 10:30 p.m. His exam is sometime between October 27–29, but he doesn’t know the exact date yet.
Traditionally, the charm is meant to provide its protection for about a year, but I figured it could become a little memento after that. Neither of us is religious, so it’s not really about that. I just liked the idea of giving him something meaningful that he can keep with him.
The fact that we’ll eventually have to end our relationship has honestly been hard for both of us. I’m not going with him, and I don’t have any plans to move to Japan anytime soon. He’s also determined to make this program his absolute number one priority, which I completely understand, even though it hurts sometimes.
We both love each other and enjoy each other’s company so much that we decided we want to keep seeing each other until he leaves. Some days, my ADHD brain decides to spiral a little, and I get sad thinking about things eventually ending. I’ve definitely been more open about how much I wish things could be different.
But I’ve also seen how much this dream means to him. When we first met, he told me that studying in Japan had been a dream of his for a long time. I’ve seen how hard he works toward it, how much effort he puts into preparing, and how he still makes time for me whenever he can, even with everything else going on.
Seeing all of that has made me want to do something to show him that I support him and that I’m proud of him. I want him to know that even though the situation is bittersweet for me, I genuinely want to see him succeed at something he’s worked so hard for.
I just can’t wait to give it to him! I’m planning to give it to him before his exam in a couple of weeks, and I have a feeling he’ll really appreciate it. We’re both the kind of people who love gifts that have a lot of thought and sentimental meaning behind them, rather than just receiving something random.
Anyway, I just needed to tell someone because I can’t tell him yet lol
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u/bright_canyon85 4d ago
its such a small gift but there's so much love behind it , I hope he will appreciate knowing how much you believe in him ❤️
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u/protomor 15h ago
Yea after a year it's supposed to be burned at the temple you got it from. Iirc it absorbs the bad so it has to be destroyed.
Also a daruma isnt a bad gift if he hasnt already. Color in one eye to set a goal. Color in the other when achieved.
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u/alienz67 5d ago
I'm just gonna say it. You're lovely and awesome