r/AmITheDevil • u/AndyWith-A-Y • 1d ago
F**k me before noon or else!
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u/PcktFox 1d ago
"After I have my fill"
There are no words to accurately convey the level of primal revulsion I felt reading this part. What a repugnant, vile excuse for a human being.
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u/pitifulproduce137 1d ago
Yeah, that's the rape-iest sentence I've read in a long time.
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u/girls-and-corpses 1d ago
Are we even on the same app rn?
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u/CorgiDaddy42 1d ago
I’ve been avoiding a lot of the Cornell discussions so that is indeed the rape-iest sentence I’ve read in quite some time.
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u/girls-and-corpses 1d ago
Literally just go anywhere in a public comment section
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u/pitifulproduce137 1d ago
I didn't say "that's the rape-iest thing anyone has ever said." Just that it turned my stomach in a way that things usually don't.
Not sure why the outage?
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u/girls-and-corpses 1d ago
No one was outraged. But apparently 225 rape apologists got triggered.
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u/pitifulproduce137 21h ago
Sure, that's why people downvoted, 'cause they love rape. Not because you can't understand the concept of a subjective opinion.
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u/traumatizedfox 1d ago
are you?
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u/girls-and-corpses 19h ago
Username checks out
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u/Cassandra-Canary 15h ago
Glass houses babe
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u/No-Bullfrog4217 11h ago
Don’t ever make me associate one of the greatest Billy Joel albums with this horrible post!
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u/azrael4h 1d ago
I'm a dude, and I spontaneously formed a vagina just so it could dry up. My cat vomited reading that.
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u/Dismal_Ad_1839 1d ago
I see why he's in his first serious relationship at age 30
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u/thewalkindude368 1d ago
I didn't get into my first serious relationship until I was 35, and this guy needs to wait a while longer, so he can mature, or, you know, do all women a favor and just be celibate.
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u/perfidious_snatch 1d ago
Yeah, I think he needs to give himself a few more decades to grow up before inflicting himself on a partner. Maybe he’ll be mature enough by the time he reaches his 150th birthday.
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u/girls-and-corpses 1d ago
You mean you can see how he managed to trick someone into licking his unwashed balls?
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u/Moist_Drippings 1d ago
Nah, I’m still confused about that part. He doesn’t seem to be able to mask enough for that shit.
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u/OddAardvark9724 1d ago
Ugh god I remember reading this one awhile ago, that man is disgusting excuse of a human
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u/Gerberpertern 1d ago
I really, really hope this is a creative writing exercise. I almost threw my iPad across the room reading that I got so mad.
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u/StrangledInMoonlight 1d ago
Why don't you ask them or ask the child's dad side for help. (The child doesn't know her dad. She's not close hee family.
So OOP wanted her to reach out to the ex’s family (the ex that has no contact, and his family that has no contact) to take care of the kid so he gets “his fill”?
I mean…maybe he’s just a dead beat, or you know, there could be a reason she has no contact with that entire side. Putting the kid at risk of whatever so he can get his dick wet is something.
It’s her kid. Of course the kid is around all the time!
And why is it her responsibility to make him breakfast?
Dude is bitching about her being lazy and how her kid is always around, but all I see is him wanting to be lazy and wanting her to mother him.
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u/EntertheHellscape 1d ago
Yeah I feel that, I hate when my SO sleeps that late too
The fuck you mean "me"
Ah
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u/incrediblepepsi 1d ago
I interpreted that a different way, him asking as a rhetorical question to sneer at her for her child being 'fatherless' and whatever assumptions he could throw at her as a result. What a piece of work...
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u/sibre2001 1d ago
No, I didn't. It was just in the moment when I was angry at the world. I genuinely did not mean to say any of this to her.
He genuinely didn't mean to say it, guys. He's 30 and isn't responsible for what comes out of his mouth.
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u/fading__blue 1d ago
He meant to say it to her, he just didn’t mean for it to have actual consequences he didn’t like.
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u/cantantantelope 1d ago
Hope he got dumped
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u/skabillybetty 1d ago
He seems to hold a lot of resentment towards her having a kid.
Also, "After I've had my fill"?
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u/sevenumbrellas 1d ago
Today, my bottled up emotions made her cry while she was on the phone with me.
My brother in Christ, your emotions did not do anything. Your actions did.
Once I start ranting about something, I just can't stop.
Really? Is that true in other situations in your life, or only when it's your girlfriend? Do you rant like this at your boss, your male friends, people you want to impress?
After I have my fill
BARF.
(I know this is a repost sub and OOP won't see these comments, but damn.)
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u/AndyWith-A-Y 1d ago
I think it's misleading how OOP left out the child's age. If the child is like 8, they can definitely fix their own cereal or microwave some pre-made food. It's very possible this was their established routine before they met OOP. Also him wanting her up by 10 just cuz he says so makes it more likely he's leaving something out about this child.
But, OOP is an abusive POS. At the big age of 30 you know how to control yourself. He needs to be away from all decent people forever. She is a single mom without support, what's she supposed to do with her child? Drop her off at the play place at McDonald's?
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u/ShroomGirl1991 1d ago
What's telling to me is that he was mad she didn't get up to make HIM and her child breakfast. Dude wasn't mad he had to pour a bowl of cereal, he was mad that she didn't cook him a full breakfast. I guarantee you if she had gotten up and given her kid a bowl of cereal then went to lay back down he'd still be pissed, even though he's a grown ass adult who can pour his own cereal or make a bigger meal if he so chooses.
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u/alwaysiamdead 1d ago
I have a 13 and a 7 year old and I sleep in most Saturdays. I'm a solo mom and otherwise I don't get a break, between sports and a kid with medical needs we are on the go constantly. And I work full time.
It's never been an issue, and they wake me up if they actually need anything big!
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u/redwolf1219 1d ago
I can confirm, my daughter is 7 and can make herself noodles on the stove. (With supervision, but she can do every step completely on her own)
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u/StrangledInMoonlight 1d ago
Oh….the rest of OOP’s post history has them as a woman….
Either this is totally fake, or she’s writing as him.
Here’s other posts
AITA for not wanting my dad to claim me and my daughter as dependents on his taxes?
Last year, I've moved out of my dad's home to be with my long-term boyfriend into an apartment. Everyone was very upset with this decision but I (26f) felt like this was the best decision for me and my daughter (5f). Unfortunately, this wasn't a great decision as my now ex-boyfriend had roid rage and damaged my apartment. The apartment's lease was in my name and my ex's name was not on the lease.
Because I was so hurt, overwhelmed, and stressed. My family convinced me to move back home which was something I didn't want to do. So I broke the lease early and had to pay $5k for all the damages that my ex caused. So in 5 months of living there, I spent $9k... which is a lot of money. Since I had to move back to my dad's because he forced me to. He quickly demanded money from me. He wanted me to pay $600/mo which was something I couldn't do at the time. I didn't have the funds at that time since I just spent $9k last month. I'm also in credit debt and I'm trying to pay that as well. All my savings are gone and I'm back to living paycheck to paycheck.
I've been staying at my dad's house for 4 months now and I haven't paid any money. But I try to contribute by cooking dinner and cleaning the home. My dad will remind me daily that I owe him money and he wants it now. Last week, my w-2 showed up at my house which I'm excited about since I can finally pay off some of my debt. My dad told me he was gonna claim me and my daughter as his dependents on his taxes. So whatever money he will get from me will goes towards rent. I was fucking pissed. I screamed at him, "I don't owe you shit! You forced me to come back home! I could've stayed there but you started moving my items before I could even process the situation!" My dad screams at me, "I don't know why you think I'm a terrible dad to you! I gave you a nice home and food. I provided you with a loving home! We told you if you move in with that pos then that's your responsibility! You lost $10k because you're fucking delusional. You're honestly the worst single mom I have ever seen."
Yeah, I'm pretty hurt by his words. I'm trying my best to provide for my daughter. I am. I'm currently looking for homes/rentals in my area. Prices have jacked up and my old apartment was the best deal. I know I need to pick up a second job soon.
I spoke to my extended family (which I'm close to) about the situation and they agree that what my dad is trying to do is financially control me. I spoke to my sister and she agrees with my dad. She called me a spoiled entitled asshole to think I shouldn't pay rent. My sister believes that my dad should claim me and my daughter as his dependents since I don't contribute anything.
So AITA for not wanting my dad to claim me and my daughter as his dependents? https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/114aw3f/deleted_by_user/
I called the cops on ex after begging him to leave my rental since he decided he no longer loved me.
My ex (28m) and I (25f) moved in this apartment about an month. He pressured me getting this. I didn't want to. But with all the reassuring he gave me. I did anyways. Since he's a felon.. he couldn't be on the lease. What led up to the downfall.. he told me on Tuesday. That he didn't love me anymore and he's going to bring other women to the house. He destroyed me. We were together for an year. He told me to get over it. Wednesday came I couldn't stop crying I kept asking what did I do? He said nothing and he wanted me out of the house on Thursday night so he can bring a girl over. I said no.
I cried every single night. The neighbors informed me they heard me crying.
I kept asking when did he knew that he didn't love me. He said about 2 weeks after moving in. He used me.
Thursday morning everyone is telling me I need to get him out of my house. So I told him that evening to please leave.
He threatened to destroy my house, my life, and everything I loved. That's where he said I should've unalive myself, that he didn't care about me/my daughter and he was break my entire rental house including my car. he took my phone away from me so he can access my bank to give him his money back. he knew the passwords. he said he would call the police but he didn't. he destroyed my home. I did grab his hair and tried to retrieve my phone. it did it multiple times. he was gonna hit me. He was laughing the entire time.
he took my car keys so I couldn't leave either. that's when I busted out of my apartment since he was not willing to call the cops. I screamed for my neighbors please call the police! the police men finally showed at my house. the family who help kept me in their yard and comforted me.
He destroyed my phone and threw my keys in the lake. I let the officers know that I'm the owner of the house and I asked him to please leave my home. that's where he got mean. the cops were useless. they said I needed to be an adult and give his money back. I told the officer that I called him for help not financial advise. I did disclosed the officer that I did hit him since he had my property.
cops didn't believe me. which I hurt a lot more. I reached out for help and this is what I receive... be an adult. My ex told his family and friends that I went crazy. so his Family said I was in the wrong for calling the police since now he has no where to live. This is the same family that told me 1 hour prior this incident to evict him.
I wish I had that conversation recorded. But there was multiple times I reached out for their help. I have to go to the police station today and check my status on the police report. I heard he is pressing charges on me for hitting him. At this point I just want to be no where near him and his family. I am filing a restraining order.
I'm leaving my apartment since I don't feel comfortable. But his family keeps messaging me saying they are coming over tomorrow and I need to leave my apartment and How crazy I am because he has no where to live and I need to give his money back. His family said they will never believe me because I'm a liar and how I almost got him arrested. I'm changing my phone number because I am scared of him. I'm afraid he will come back. I know my family and friends said I did nothing wrong. But did I go too far?
TL:DR: my ex decided he no longer loved me after moving in for a month. Threatened some things and I ran to my neighbors to get the police involved. Now his family is saying I went crazy and I was in the wrong for doing this to him.
My boyfriend (27m) put our relationship on break after a fight. I (24f) , also found out there's a possibility that I'm pregnant but it feels like he wants nothing to do with me anymore.
So my boyfriend and I have been together for 11 months now. I thought everything was going great at first and he told me he loved and cherished me. He wanted to have a family with me and everything. We were actively trying to have a kid. But i am on the IUD birth control. I had plans getting off from it. He told me everyday that he loved me. I thought life was great. Our kids got along and it felt good.
Till last week, he put our relationship on a break for an entire month. The reason we're in this break is because my friends confronted me saying "your boyfriend updated his tinder account. He's wearing your stuff." I didn't believe it at first but it was true. It completely destroyed me. So I asked him about it and he said he made the account after our last fight but he deleted the app because he wanted to work on our relationship. Then that got me even more pissed. Our last big fight was on October 30th, I accidentally interrupted him while he was talking and he didn't talk to me 4 - 5 hours. I took care of the kids while he sat down and play league of legends. I'm still shocked, hurt and visibly confused.
I never been on a relationship break before and I asked him "what do we do on a break?" He told me we just casually talk and don't see each other. I asked him are we breaking up? He said "this break is to strengthen our relationship". So we're on a break. I tried to talk to him but he either responds "yes" "no" "why" or straight up ignores me. It's truly heartbreaking.
This week, I felt like something isnt right. So I took 2 pregnancy test and they're positive. But I am on the IUD so I'm thinking I should get a blood test because maybe it's not true. The digital pregnancy tests says negative but the normal lines ones says positive. So I'm extremely stressed out and I have no support like he does. I had to tell him "Hey there's a possibility i may be pregnant." He didn't believe me about the pregnancy test being positive. I showed him the proof and he hasn't really said anything to me except
"I don't know what you want me to say rn but I want to focus on myself." That sentence alone. Just hurts. I'm struggling all by myself while he's out smoking weed and playing league of legends. He won't talk to me and I'm clearly stressed out. I broke up with him and he ignores my messages. He will be the first one to look at my social media if I post something but nothing. He won't talk. I'm scared because if we were together and happy, I would be happy. But I'm in a relationship where this man won't say a damn word to me. Everyone on his family side wants to keep the baby but he hasn't told me what he wants. So I'm gonna do what I think is right in this situation.
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u/AndyWith-A-Y 1d ago
How'd you find these? It's possible he used her account without permission. But, it has to be her account. The ages for her are consistent
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u/StrangledInMoonlight 1d ago
Arctic shift.
IMO, I think it’s her writing as him.
He probably would have just said “she should ask the dad or his side of the family for help” and not given the whole “the child isn’t close to her dad, she is not close to her family” bit. That just makes him sound like an idiot and wrong, and usually they try to make themselves sound good.
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u/frolicndetour 1d ago
If she was writing as him, I hope the comments encouraged her to dump his ass.
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u/SeasonPositive6771 1d ago
She's writing as him, I think.
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u/EinsTwo 1d ago
I hope real guy sounds less creepy than her-writing-as-him guy. But I won't hold my breath.
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u/CozySweatsuit57 1d ago
I mean probably…why would she portray him this badly otherwise?
Edit: sorry the “my bottled up emotions made her cry” definitely makes me think they argued and he used her account to post since she already had one and he wouldn’t need to jump through Reddit’s dumb hoops and get all his posts removed etc
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u/Sad-Bug6525 1d ago
This being written from her POV is the only way it makes sense. He knows he made her cry on the phone then pretends that he saw through her lie about needing to do something else, he did it on purpose and it's so disjointed.
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u/Due-Reflection-1835 1d ago
So she doesn't live with this asshole? Hope she ghosts him and blocks him too
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u/Melodic_Moment5898 1d ago
You know last week? We had sex twice. We used to do it 6 or 7 times a week. But you stopped. After I have my fill then we can start having family vacations.
Gross fucking pig. I wonder why she doesn't want to have sex with him as much anymore. I hope like hell that she left him. And make your own damn breakfast!
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u/Lucky_Six_1530 1d ago
“ You didn't even get up and made breakfast for me and your child.”
Yes, she is responsible for making food for her child, but no, she is not responsible for making you breakfast.
“ without your child there. ”
A child isn’t something you can just put away or send away for a weekend. They are a child who lives there. That is their home!
“ After I have my fill then we can start having family vacations.”
Your fill?? Seriously? For that thought process alone you are an AH.
“ You need a better job”
No words for this. I’m hoping this is just rage bait at this point.
“ You always have your child around and you don't work with your family to coordinate anything. You keep saying "my family is too busy on weekends." ”
Her child is her primary responsibility. Her family is not responsible for her child or helping out with the child so that you don’t have to be bothered. They very well may be busy on weekends. That is not her fault. They are not required to be on call Babysitters.
Hopefully she dumped this AH.
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u/Pandappuccino 1d ago
So he basically sees her as just a sex toy for his pleasure is what I'm seeing. Good lord, I hope this girl sees the red flags and RUNS.
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u/Black_Raven775 1d ago
After you had your fill? Oh hell no! She’s your girlfriend, not a buffet. wtf dude?
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u/Natural-Avocado6516 1d ago
The sheer amount of posts I've read from men who primarily see the women they supposedly love as sex dispensers is genuinely depressing.
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u/Episodix 1d ago
Why do people date moms seriously if they’re gonna call the child “your child” this and “your child” that. Like you can feed the child you should be helping raise.
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u/No-Quarter318 1d ago edited 1d ago
These don't sound like "bottled up emotions" at all, these sound like some disgusting man-child had a bone to pick and doesn't understand that he's dating a single mother. The way he speaks down about her is so gross.
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u/Sil_Lavellan 1d ago
I want more sex and more money from you. I need you to get up early at weekends and I don't want to have to deal with your child.
Oh, he's a charmer.
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u/hollowbolding 1d ago
'didn't even get up to make breakfast for me (and your child)' damn dude if i realised that my partner was second child i would also no longer be interested in having sex with them
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u/glitzglamglue 1d ago
Only having sex twice a week means every 3 or 4 days. The average adult couple has sex once a week, with couples in their 20s having it 2 or 3 times a week and couples in their 30s and 40s having it once a week. It's actually called the "once a week plateau." If a couple can get their sex frequency up to once a week, their level of happiness increases but it doesn't increase beyond that. So having sex five times a week won't help any more than what one time a week did.
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u/SpicyRobotPotato 1d ago
How dare she sleep in and raise her child instead of make me breakfast and fuck me?
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u/nunyaranunculus 1d ago
Anyone else concerned for the little girl? This guy is going to start hurting her if his partner stays.
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u/BurntTFOuttaHere 1d ago
Ewww, he’s so GROSS! Yuck. I hope she dumped him. He is farrrrr from being ready for a relationship.
She should also think twice before having her child around men until she knows them much better than this.
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u/Live-Tomorrow-4865 1d ago
How dare she want to catch up on sleep on a Saturday? And what a chore to give her child some cereal, wow, stepfather of the year there, that's three minutes of his life he'll never get back.
I hope she dumps him so fast and so brutally he wonders whether a meteorite hit him in the head.
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u/Key-Pomegranate-3507 1d ago
You can’t convince me that this isn’t rage bait. It’s comically over the top.
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u/pocketnotebook 1d ago
"I know I really hurt her with all my unreasonable criticism, but to make it up to her, for my desired sexcapade weekend that I'm certain will only benefit me, we can go anywhere she wants within 100 miles! What a treasure I am"
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u/sadist_ninja 1d ago
Important question
In the post there's a lot of comments marker as OP from a deleted account
Anyways that's also one of OPs acousts that was linked a d now that he deleted them all show up as one person?
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u/GhostWolfe 1d ago
Reddit has this glitch that can occur if the posting account is deleted. It just marks any comment from a deleted account as being the OP, I guess cause it removed the identifiers and can’t tell the deleted accounts apart? It can make comment threads really hard to follow sometimes.
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u/sadist_ninja 1d ago
Oh !
And here I was thinking I was a mega detective that just found ops burner accounts
Thank you for clarifying !!!!
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u/Nott_mika 1d ago
It kept gettin worse and worse!!
I can understand why he only got his first serious relationship when he was 30 y/o if he treated all his other exes like this too.
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u/Special_Respond7372 1d ago
He tried to make it up to her by telling her the sex filled weekend could be anywhere within 100 miles!?!?!!? How the HELL does that even compute??!! Making it up to her shouldn’t involve sex at all. I really hope dude is single now.
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u/WeeTater 1d ago
I can't say what I want to because reddit gets mad, but I think she's just a toy to him. He doesn't care about her at all.
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u/jaymarieewinchester 18h ago
I can see why this is his first serious relationship. He’s absolutely revolting. I hope she left him long ago.
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u/Saaaaaaaaaaaah1431 12h ago
I’m surprised the words ‘I’m a high value man’, or ‘red pill’ weren’t included in this
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u/sheerpoetry 4h ago edited 4h ago
It's petty, but I hate when assholes use in correct grammar:
it's just somethings she does pisses me off
Given the "after I have my fill," I really hope this one's rqgebait. No one is entitled to sex. 6-7 times a week? Good lord, I'd be exhausted and need to sleep in, too! That's (potentially) every day.
Not getting up to take care of her kid is an issue, especially depending on the age. But he wanted breakfast more than he was worried about the kid.
You always have your child around and you don't work with your family to coordinate anything
First: It's not her family's job to take care of her kid. Especially not so she can wake up early to have sex with OP?? Second: He could take some initiative himself and plan an evening and hire a babysitter?
She went really quiet and asked me, "do you think I'm not a good person?"
This breaks my heart. There's no info on what her job actually is, but if she's working and taking care of herself and her child without putting either in danger, it's none of his business. He probably just wants her to have a better job to pay for those "sex-filled vacations." PLEASE let her break up with him if this is real.
Edited for formatting and a typo.
ETA: Damn, it's from three years ago. And OP never commented. That's one I would've loved an update or response on.
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u/AutoModerator 1d ago
In case this story gets deleted/removed:
I (30m) regret telling my girlfriend (26f) all my pet peeves towards our relationship and her.
My girlfriend and i have been dating for 8 months now. She's great and a wonderful person, it's just somethings she does pisses me off. Today, my bottled up emotions made her cry while she was on the phone with me. She ended the call by saying she had to do something but I knew deep down I hurt her feelings. Once I start ranting about something, I just can't stop. Just understand this is my first serious relationship.
Here's what I told her: 1. I hate how you sleep till noon on a Saturday. I'm not a morning person but 10am is the latest. If I'm gonna do something I rather do it in the morning. So we have all day doing whatever.
Your child was hungry and I decided to try to wake you up. But no, you couldn't be bothered. You kept sleeping on a Saturday. So I gave her cereal. You didn't even get up and made breakfast for me and your child.
I'm tired of our boring routine. I want a sex filled weekend getaway without your child there. You know last week? We had sex twice. We used to do it 6 or 7 times a week. But you stopped. After I have my fill then we can start having family vacations.
You need a better job. I'm so hard on you because I care. I want to make you a better person. (She went really quiet and asked me, "do you think I'm not a good person?") I tried to re-explain my sentence. But I heard her crying instead of listening to her. I kept going.
YOU MAKE EXCUSES! You always have your child around and you don't work with your family to coordinate anything. You keep saying "my family is too busy on weekends." I hear excuses. Why don't you ask them or ask the child's dad side for help. (The child doesn't know her dad. She's not close hee family.)
I know I hurt her really bad. I tried to make it up by telling her our sex filled weekend getaway we can go anywhere that is in 100mil radius. She's just not talking to me. What should I do to make it up to her? I care about her I do but I just get so frustrated with her actions.
TLDR; I hurt my girlfriends feelings by my stupid bottled up emotions and I'm trying to make it up to her somehow. Maybe posting on reddit can help.
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