r/BangladeshSocial • u/LettuceNo5069 • 1d ago
Ask Bangladesh❔ Dear people of the Internet, help a girl out who was a victim of abuse
It began with someone who felt like family. He was a frequent guest in my home - talking with my husband, my children, my parents, and our friends. I cared for him deeply, almost as a younger brother.
When his family began discussing an arranged marriage for him, he turned to me as a confidante. He would come over, visibly weighed down, expressing how stressed and overwhelmed he felt by the pressure. Having faced my own ordeals when I got married and coming from a conservative background myself, his distress resonated with me. I emotionally invested myself in helping him. I encouraged him to stay strong, to stand up for his own feelings, and to speak politely with his parents so they could find common ground.
I know he spoke to a girl his family introduced him to and after a while he said he turned that women down. And then a month later his actual wedding took place with another woman. Yet when he returned from bangaldesh after the wedding, he was back in my home, complaining once again about how unhappy he was with his parents' decision.
Then came the moment that broke me completely.
One day, he crossed a line that should never have been crossed—he physically touched me and tried to coerce me. In that second, I froze. The utter audacity of someone I cared for, someone I had advocated for, disrespecting me and violating my trust in my own home was horrifying. In the time surrounding this, his behavior became increasingly creepy and inappropriate, even reaching the point where he shared explicit details of his private intimacy with his wife. I also later found out the other woman with whom he was previously in talks to marry - she told me that for 1.5 months they had planned everything for the wedding and would talk everyday flirting and they did the wedding shopping etc. then suddenly he left her a message saying it wouldn't work and block her without warning. Until then for longer than a month he would talk to her everyday, flirting etc while simultaneously coming to my house and trying to gain my sympathy that his parents were creating pressure on him and he has no choice but to listen to them!
The guy and I live abroad and his wife is in Dhaka and may soon be arriving here. I tried to reach his wife immediately after the incident just saying I’d like to talk but she blocked me without even knowing what it is I am interested in talking about. I can’t even process this. I am finding peace in prayers for now as my whole family depends on me. I have never went through such awful thing and I am lost.