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Mum has been in a care home for a few years now. I helped make the decision to put her in the car home. I have since found out mum signed my sister onto the deed of the house about a year after being diagnosed. I feel like I was pressured by my sister to move mum into care home, without full context of what was going on and now she has moved a new fella into mum's house. And has essentially moved on with her life in mums house. While mum sits in a care home.

I believe mum only signed her on to the deed to try and ensure my sister would look after her and if that had happened I would not question it all. But it didn't, she was pretty horrible to and about her and still is. I was expecting it to be seen as deprevation of assets, but that does not seem to be happening for some reason and leaves me wondering whether I should challenge this or not, and wondering was mum influenced by her to make this decision and then betrayed once a man came on the scene.

Can anyone comment how this cannot be seen as deprevation of assets and any advice on what to do next?

My neighbor has been recently wandering over to my house and I wasn’t understanding what she was speaking about. It was all random and almost incoherent and she seemed genuinely confused. The first time it happened she stayed for a while and then walked back home, but she came over again today, once in the morning, crying about how her husband was going crazy and needed help. When I went with her back to her house, he was calmly watching tv and she seemed to forget she brought me there. She seemed happy and told me to make myself at home. That’s when he mentioned that she has been dealing with dementia for a year and it was getting really bad. She came over in the dark tonight and my husband went over to his house to let him know she was gone. He had been asleep and didn’t realize she left. We live in the country and she walked about 5 minutes in the complete dark. I asked him if he needed help or resources and he said he was fine but I am getting really worried and don’t know what to do when she shows up randomly. I don’t want to upset her or let things escalate while not knowing how to handle it. Any advice would be appreciated.

My MIL might be going through dementia or Alzheimer's,I don't know the difference, but refuses to see the doctor to get checked. What can I do to help?

Context my parent is having some terrifyingly bad moments and yet still has great days and I feel like while her besties have seen the personality shift for a few years now I’m the only person brining it up to her.

On days she is nice or whatever and I follow up she snaps she was confused at those times. But when she is snapping etc I hear the fear.

All the true end of life stuff and paper work is in my but for this in between stage I feel lost and had no help when I reached out to the dept of aging.

To further complicate things: we are in different states and she is in a hoarding situation.

I would be so appreciative of any resources or things you wish you had known and how to reach out to her physician to say - hey I have concerns, and acknowledge she can be great at times.

parent is located in NY

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Please help if you have any knowledge!

We’re starting to look into dementia care for a family member, but I’m not sure what the right questions are when talking to agencies. What should I focus on to make sure the caregiver is a good fit?

My dad (79M) has stage 4 lung cancer that's spread to his brain and multiple areas in his body. He's been at a skilled nursing facility since April of this year and started some medication for his cancer. When he was admitted, he was frail, needing wheelchair and severely low oxygen level. When his targeted meds kicked in, he started regaining some strength and is now able.to walk with a walker. This has been since July.

Since then, he's been increasingly more difficult with being at the skilled nursing facility He's had arguments with roommates, he's done things that impact his safety and when the staff tries to stop him, he'a becoming verbally abusive. Most recently, he tried to hit a nurse with his foldable walker (unsuccessfully, thank goodness) because the nurse was taking his wheelchair away after he stepped on it to fix a curtain... Mind you he is unstable and he had weakened bones from cancer spread.

I've been telling the nurses and doctors there for months now that he's exhibiting signs of cognitive impairment. Whether it's due to cancer or potential dementia .... I suspect it's due to both. The psych recently just said he has "minor anxiety". I spoke to the doctor about reevaluating his needs, but the doctor and social worker is now trying to impose soft tactics on me because my dad is being aggressive. I truly believe he cannot make judgments and is interpreting everyone as a risk due to language barrier.

Hoping to seek advice from anyone who's had experience with family members in facilities getting aggressive.... How do I push for further assessment and medical intervention? How worried should I be that they will try to discharge him because he cannot safely go home. We are located in California.