I lost my future overnight

[u/Dandanaynay]

At the age of 37 I got engaged to the love of my life. He was kind, patient, reassuring my biggest fan and my best friend.
We met 7 years ago due to a glitch on tinder, we both set the app on local and yet we somehow matched.
At first we remained friends since non of us wanted a long distance relationship but over time we decided to try it.
We lived thousands km away from each other. It was very tough, we tried to meet at least three-four times either visiting each other or meeting on a midway country.
Eventually he finally managed to visit me first and a year later I visited him and we lived together for half a year when by the end of the visit he proposed to me and promised that it would be the last time we’re going to separate.
That was back in May this year.
Since then we were preparing to get married and planning on moving in together and have kids which in turn prompted us to do thorough health check since we’re in our late 30’s which at the moment I’m almost done with.
We video chat everyday and for the past two weeks he was having health issues, mostly with breathing and almost fainting. Last time we chatted I was insisting that he change the healthcare provider and get checked again, he assured me that he was fine and will take care of it.
Yesterday he was gone from a heart attack on the night of 20-21st of August leaving me with empty promises and all by myself.
He never smoked, rarely drank alcohol and was consistently going to the gym to lose weight.
He was my best friend and I don’t even know if anyone would love me like he did. I’m so lost.

I am with my family, my friends and his are messaging me so I’m not alone. It’s even more crushing that we had so little time together.

Chocolate, cold cuts, cheese, mango and blueberries and the keyboard he got me.

[u/Artistic-Salary1738]

I’m so sorry for your loss!

PSA to everyone that just cause you’re young and make healthy life choices doesn’t mean you can get heart disease. I knew a guy who had a heart attack in the middle of his weekly soccer game in his 40s. He did make it, but it’s just scary and hoping no one else has to go through what OP did.

[u/BeautifulHomework76 → u/Artistic-Salary1738]

My uncle was a pretty healthy guy when he suffered an aortic dissection at 52. Lucky for him, he worked in the cardiology department of a hospital and was on the clock when it happened. Turns out our whole family carries a mutated gene that causes lousy hearts.

[u/tododeku → u/BeautifulHomework76]

Very glad they caught it for your family! When there is a sudden aortic dissection or sudden death in a young individual it can sometimes be attributed to a genetic change responsible for heart muscle function. I work in medical genetics so it can be really helpful getting genetic testing done so other family members can also get tested and potentially be eligible for early and frequent heart screens before something like a dissection happens, which I assume your family is now doing. Hope your family has been doin well since!

[u/BeautifulHomework76 → u/tododeku]

Absolutely; having a lot of medical professionals in the family has linked us up with some great resources! We can trace it back a few generations just based on people’s age/manner of death. I’m very relieved that my daughter doesn’t have the mutation - I would not have had children at all had I known about the issue prior to my pregnancy. But I didn’t know then, and Kid got lucky. Which is fantastic, she deserves good health.