I'm the kind of human that accepted that I'll probably not have that coveted and heavily campaigned for dream life of two kids, one male, one female, a nice, tall, working, loving husband, a house in the suburbs, school runs and the whole shebang.
Instead, my life has been unfolding in ways that amaze me (I left it to the universe).
I tried the marriage thing but damn... Young love only works in American 90's movies, not here.
The good thing is, I got out with one of the two kids in my quest to build the dream life ( the way I know myself now, I would not have any) . Fast forward few years and I've so far managed the house, the car, the school runs are over since most high schools are boardings 😢 ... But anyway, you see my jiko has only two stones in the eyes of society.
Let's move to the third stone. The man. First off, all the guys my age, are married, or getting divorced so still bitter about life. I do not find them interesting. Plus I don't think I want 'marriage' the way it is portrayed, probably only the companionship.
Any guy I find exciting is almost always 10 years younger than me. Free-spirited, spends most times talking about things I have no idea about, one can literally see the passion they have for life, the fire in their eyes that seems to say, "The world has no idea what I'm about to unleash".
And another thing, even when I'm doing random life stuff like volunteering in a different part of the country, I will meet someone who is there on a completely unrelated life thing and they will be living a max of 30 minutes away from where I live in Nairobi, and yes, younger (think of a tiny town in the middle of a random county). Of course we have to exchange contacts neighbor, and meet soon after we are both back.
These guys are spontaneous, crazy, dumb in a cute way (like I will not talk about philosophy too deeply before them saying, "let's toast to that!")
They can cuddle, kiss, be free completely with you and still do their own thing knowing you understand what they are fighting for, to be successful. They have all the parts of a good man, minus the traumatic life experiences that turned them stoic/nonchalant or all other ways to say I'm dead inside.
They give me something I am yet to understand.
I, a woman in my early 30s, leaving my identity behind, taking a cab and going to some random apartment to play house with someone who's mother will not approve. I am sure that should I ever do that proverbial dream life, it will be highly controversial because I'm almost certain that it will be with someone 10 years younger.
Anyway, anyone know where I'll get that PEP thing and what's the timeline to use it?