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⚠️Trigger Warning⚠️ Calls It

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u/tally-strobe 11h ago

Then obviously you have no reason to interrogate people and demand that they tell you how to shut down this behavior. Good god, don’t be daft.

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u/Previous-Artist-9252 11h ago

Pardon me: when did writing a comment on reddit become an interrogation?

If you don’t want to reply to me, you can keep scrolling. I am not holding anyone hostage.

I don’t particularly think going, “That’s not funny, I will choose not to associate with you,” is what women mean when they tell men to shut down rape behavior.

Certainly, your hostility and anger in this exchange is a good example of that. I wrote about social groups self selecting around this and you still wrote that I am ignoring and condoning rape culture solely on the basis of my masculinity.

Either you believe in some kind of gender essentialism where masculinity is sexual violence (in which case, I do consider TERFs and their ilk to be a hate group) or there are greater actions men can be taking other than not socializing with men who behave this way.