Itâs quite the bold statement to say that I am either ignoring or contributing to rape culture when the only things you know about me are my age, my profession, the fact that I am trans, and that I am a rape survivor myself.
I donât tolerate rape jokes or misogynistic jokes. I have led professional trainings on DV and sexual violence and I take them very seriously. This is what I meant when I said men will be cut out of social groups that engage in that behavior - I am quite aware that men who do make âjokesâ about violence are not including me in their group texts and I am more than okay with that.
If you can't realize that most men already do shut down this behavior when they encounter it, I'm not sure you are equipped to have this conversation.
In 42 years, I have had ONE interaction where an acquaintance made a SA joke. One, and we have found it heinous and chewed him out.This isn't some thing that normally occurs.
I personally have been falsely accused once, and another time had a roommate claim we were intimate to try and get me on the hook for her child support.
Notice how I don't blame all women for this shitty behavior though? Just the 2 who actually did anything to me.
Blaming all men won't convince the shitty ones and just turns the neutral ones against you.
"I block men who defeat my witch-trials logic by not fitting into a caricature of men I have developed in my head because my cognitive dissonance makes me uncomfortable with my own bigotry."
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u/Previous-Artist-9252 11h ago
Itâs quite the bold statement to say that I am either ignoring or contributing to rape culture when the only things you know about me are my age, my profession, the fact that I am trans, and that I am a rape survivor myself.
I donât tolerate rape jokes or misogynistic jokes. I have led professional trainings on DV and sexual violence and I take them very seriously. This is what I meant when I said men will be cut out of social groups that engage in that behavior - I am quite aware that men who do make âjokesâ about violence are not including me in their group texts and I am more than okay with that.